You don stop to dey manage wetin never be yours

Somebody wey dey your life dey do something wey you no go do, and na you dey carry the load. You wake up already dey arrange the sentence wey fit fix am. Light dey enter the way e dey enter. Full day still dey ahead wey that sentence no need enter at all.

Two cup dey by sink from last night. Hall light wey nobody comot. Somebody music through wall, too far to sabi wetin dey play. Outside, ordinary street wey no get opinion about anything.

You don dey treat another person choice as problem wey belong to you. E feel like care and part of am na true care sha. But the reason wey e dey tire you na simple math: their decision dey sidon fully inside their own life and fully outside your control, so every hour you use for am no go change anything for their side, but e go cost you for your own side. You dey pay full price for something wey you no fit move. And the part wey pain pass, na say worry sometimes dey wear the cloth of helping, for you and sometimes for them too.

Ask yourself wetin the managing really dey do. When you dey steer another person, e resemble love, but underneath, na mostly wish to stop feel the discomfort of just watching. That one na human, but e no be same thing as helping. People dey change when the cost land for their own head, no be when e land for the person wey dey beside them, meaning if you carry the load for their behalf, na the one thing wey go surely delay the change you dey wait for. To stand back no mean say you don abandon them. Na to allow person face their own life, and na the only place anybody don ever learn anything.

So today, make one thing pass without you steering am. No hint, no better idea, no question wey you package well well but na instruction inside am. If dem ask you, answer true and complete, with everything wey you really think. If dem no ask, make the silence be kindness, no be say you dey hold back.

You go get your hour back and dem go get their life back, and the two of you no dey use am well the other way. Make them do their own thing. Na the warmest thing wey dey available today.