You ask for the exact thing you want

E get one thing wey you want, and you don already decide sey you go ask for less pass wetin you really want. Dat decision happen quiet quiet, maybe weeks ago, and e good make you look am again dis morning, while the day never spend finish. The light good. Your mind clear. Na the right hour for dis kind second thinking.

An exercise book open for one page, number write for inside, then cross am out. The dry sound of page dey turn. Somewhere kettle dey reach im noisy middle. Your own handwriting, wey always dey look more sure pass how you take feel when you write am.

You don already negotiate against yourself before anybody get chance to talk. E dey feel like say na sense, but na discount wey nobody ask you for. The reason wey e dey cost you na say the person for the other side go work with wetin you talk, no be wetin you mean, so the small number don become the real ceiling of the whole conversation. You no protect yourself from 'no', you just turn possible 'yes' to smaller 'yes', then you take the smaller 'yes' as proof say to ask no dey worth plenty.

Think well about wetin 'no' go really cost you. You don dey treat rejection as if na judgement on your worth, na why the request dey shrink before e even comot your mouth. But 'no' na just information about one person situation for one particular day, e no dey concern you like dat. Meanwhile 'yes' to full request fit change the whole shape of one year. The gap dey too much, and e dey favor you, but you don dey price am backward since una know each other.

So make the request go out today the size wey you really want am, no apology attach, no discount build inside. One clear sentence wey name the thing. Then quiet, make dem answer, no be you go answer for dem.

Whatever come back, by tonight you go know something real, instead of you dey guess for another one month. E worth the small discomfort of dat one message wey you go send. Ask for full size. Even the worst wey fit happen na fact wey you fit use.