You go finally talk the matter wey you dey always postpone

Na one conversation dey your mind, and you sabi exactly how e dey weigh you. E don dey with you for breakfast table for some time now. The morning no get wahala, e just dey normal well well. Somewhere today, one five minutes go show up where you fit just talk am, and na so simple the whole thing be.

Two cups dey by sink from last night. The hall light wey nobody comot. Phone dey face down, e still warm small. Outside, the normal noise of street wey no know say any of this dey happen, and somehow, e dey calm you small.

You don dey rehearse the matter instead of just talk am. Every time you rehearse, e dey make am worse. Every rehearsal dey add one more detail, and the detail always dey lean towards wahala, because na so anxious mind dey rehearse. The reason wey the delay dey cost you plenty na because the thing wey you no talk no dey stay quiet. E dey harden, and the longer e stay inside, e go turn to another conversation on top the conversation, because now you go dey explain why e take you so long, so the five minutes wey suppose happen three weeks ago don become forty minutes now, and e dey grow every week wey you leave am.

Ask yourself wetin the silence dey protect. E fit look like patience or kindness or say you dey wait for better time, but underneath, na avoidance dey wear correct face. But no be say na choice between discomfort and no discomfort you dey make. Na choice between one uncomfortable minute now, and small small discomfort wey don already dey run for weeks and go continue to run, so the one wey you dey avoid na the cheap one, and the one wey you don dey choose instead na the expensive one.

So today, make e start with one plain sentence, no rehearsal. Call the matter as e be, no long preamble, no explanation why you get right to talk am. Then keep quiet make the other person answer, and na that part go surprise you say e go go better pass how you rehearse am for your head.

E go finish faster pass one of your rehearsals. The relief wey go come after go plenty pass wetin you expect, e go show sharp sharp, and you go just dey wonder small wetin all the weeks dey for. Then you go drop the load, and carry something wey lighter.