You gotta ask fo' da thing you really like

Get one thing you like, but you already wen decide fo' ask fo' less than dat. Dat decision wen happen quiet kine, probably weeks ago, and it's worth fo' open um up again dis morning, while da day still fresh. Da light stay good. Yo' mind stay clear. Dis da right time fo' dis kine second thoughts.

One notebook stay open to one page, get one number written den scratch out. Da dry sound when you turn da page. Somewhere one kettle stay start make noise. Yo' own handwriting, always look mo' sure than how you wen feel when you wrote um.

You wen negotiate wit' yourself befo' anybody else even get one chance. Feel like you stay real, but actually you stay giving one discount nobody wen ask fo'. Da reason dis cost you is, da other person stay work off what you wen say, not what you wen mean, so da smaller number become da real limit fo' da whole conversation. You never protect yourself from one no. You wen change one possible yes into one smaller yes, den you take dat smaller yes as proof dat asking no matter much.

Think about what one no really cost. You been treat one refusal like one judgment on yo' worth, dat's why da ask keep shrink befo' even come out yo' mouth. But one no stay just information about one person's situation on one particular day, almost neva about you. Meanwhile, one yes fo' da full request can change da whole year. Da difference stay huge, and it stay in yo' favor, but you been calculate um backwards fo' as long as you can remember.

So today, send out da request at da real size you like, no apology attach, no discount built in. One clear sentence, say da thing straight. Den stay quiet, let dem answer, no answer fo' dem.

Whateva come back, by tonight you goin know something real, instead of guessing fo' one more month. Dat worth da little bit discomfort from sending one message. Ask fo' da full size. Even da worst outcome stay one fact you can use.