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Sanda da bi a ne anadwofa ehu a efi ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den hɔ. Ɛnyɛ adwuma no. Adwuma no, wubetumi ayɛ. Ɛyɛ nea wunnim no: ɔbɛyɛ no sɛn na waba Dwoada, sɛ ade a wode kɔmaa no Fida no bɛkɔ yiye anaa ɛde wo bɛkɔ ɔhaw mu, na wo nnawɔtwe no fa ahe na ɛbɛkɔ wɔn su no nidi mu sen sɛ wobɛyɛ w'adwuma.
Sɛ ɛhɔ na wowɔ a, fi ade baako a ɛyɛ nokware na ɛma ahofadi kakra ase. Wuntumi mma ɔpanyin foforo nyɛ nea ɔnte saa. Wuntumi nnyina akyinnye so mma wo panyin nyɛ komm, nyɛ pefee, anaa ayamye. Nea wubetumi ayɛ ne sɛ wobɛhwɛ yiye sɛnea wo ne onipa a ɔwɔ w'anim no yɛ adwuma, abɔ wo ankasa gyinabea ho ban, na woasi gyinae, wɔ nokwaredi mu, ɔberɛ a yi bɛkɔ so. Ɛno ne nea wɔfrɛ no 'managing up' ankasa. Ɛnyɛ nkonnimdi. Ɛnyɛ agorɔ. Ɛyɛ mmɔdenbɔ a wɔde yɛ ma abusuabɔ a emu yɛ den no yɛ adwuma yiye sɛnea wubetumi ayɛ adwuma pa wɔ mu.
Nea edi kan, bɔ ɔyɛden no ahorow din
"Ɔyɛ den" kata asɛm pii so, na mmuae a ɛfata no gyina nea wo wɔ so. Ɛsɛ sɛ wo ne wo ho di nokware pɛpɛɛpɛ, efisɛ akwan ahorow no twe kɔ akwan ahorow so.
Ɔpanyin bi wɔ hɔ a ɔnhyehyɛ ade na ɔyɛ ntɛm ntɛm. Nneɛma a edi kan sesa dɔn biara mu, wɔnkyerɛw hwee, na bere biara wugye dwumadi a wunnim sɛ wɔasi gyinae ho akyi.
Micromanager no wɔ hɔ, nea ɛsɛ sɛ ɔde ne nsa ka biribiara, ɔkyerɛw wo email ahorow bio, na ɔfa ahofadi biara sɛ ahunahuna.
Ɔpanyin bi wɔ hɔ a n'adwene sesa anaa ɔyɛ den a ɛnyɛ den hwɛ no ankasa ne ɔhaw no. Wode ahoɔden yɛ wim nsakrae ho nkɔmbɔ.
Na ɔpanyin bi wɔ hɔ a ne suban tra hye ankasa, basabasayɛ no, animguasede no, ɔtaa no. Saa fekuw a etwa to no yɛ soronko wɔ ne su mu, ɛnyɛ ne tɛmtɛm mu, na asɛm yi fa nea edi kan abiɛsa no ho. Nea etwa hye no, yɛbɛsan aba so.
Sɛ wuhu wo su no a ɛho hia efisɛ ade a ɛsiesie baako no yɛ adwene a ɛnyɛ yiye ma foforo. Nsakrae bebree a wɔde di kan a ɛma micromanager dwo no bɛkata ɔpanyin a ɔde ne nsa nka biribiara so na asɛe wo bere. Hwehwɛ yare no mu ansa na woasa.
Sɛnea ɛte wɔ nneyɛe mu
Ma ɔpanyin a ɔnhyehyɛ ade no, w'adwuma ne sɛ wobɛyɛ adwuma no nkae ne ne dua. Kyerɛw nea wosi gyinae ho na fa kɔma no bio. Kora nneɛma a ɛda hɔ ho list na yi adi ansa na nneɛma ahwe ase. Wonteɛteɛ wɔn so. Woresiesie nhyehyɛe a wonyɛ no komm, na bere kɔ so no, wobɛyɛ onipa a wontumi nnyɛ adwuma a wonni hɔ.
Ma micromanager no, woreyɛ adwuma sɛ wubenya ahotoso wɔ nketenkete a wohu mu. Di nkitaho pii ntɛm, fa nea wokae pɛpɛɛpɛ ma, na fa brɛoo trɛw mmeae a ɛda nhwehwɛmu ntam mu bere a ɔregye n'ahome no. Sɔre tia ɔpɛ a ɛma wode w'adwuma sie esiane abufuw nti; saa su yi, sɛ wuhu kakraa bi a, ɛma nsa no mu yɛ den.
Ma ɔpanyin a n'adwene sesa anaa ɔyɛ den no, wo so anim ne bere ne nokwaredi. Sua wɔn nhyehyɛe, bere a wobetumi akɔ wɔn nkyɛn ne bere a wuntumi, na fa nkɔmbɔ a ɛho hia no kɔ mmeae pa no mu. Kɔ so yɛ pɛ a ɛnhwɛ adwene a ɛbaa mu no. Wo gyinabea bɛyɛ ade ketewa a wonim sɛ ɛbɛba wɔ wɔn da mu, na mpɛn pii wotua so ka.
Hwehwɛ nhyɛso a ɛda wɔn so no mu
Adwene foforo a ɛyɛ adwuma boro so ni. Wo panyin nso yɛ obi adwumayɛni. Wɔwɔ panyin, dodow bi a wɔde bu wɔn atɛn, ehu bi a wɔredi ho dwuma, bere a wɔde ahyɛ no so a ebia wunhu da.
Harvard Business Review akwankyerɛ a agye din wɔ eyi ho, John Gabarro ne John Kotter wɔn *Managing Your Boss*, ka asɛm bi a ɛte sɛ ɛda adi pefee nanso obiara nyɛ ho hwee: abusuabɔ no kɔ akwan abien. Wode wo ho to wo panyin so, na wo panyin nso de ne ho to wo so, sen sɛnea adwumakuw no nhyehyɛe kyerɛ. Nnipa pii di saa abusuabɔ no ho dwuma kwa, na wogye nea ɛba biara so. Nnipa a wodi yiye no di ho dwuma boa pɔw, denam wɔn panyin botae, nhyɛso, mmeae a wonhu, ne ɔkwan a wɔpɛ sɛ wɔfa so gye nsɛm mu ankasa hu so.
Saa fa a etwa to no yɛ nea ɛda adi na wobetumi de adi dwuma. Apanyimfo bi pɛ asɛm tia no na biribiara nka ho. Ebinom pɛ ntease no nyinaa anaasɛ wonnye nea ebefi mu aba no nni. Ebinom kenkan; ebinom hia sɛ wɔka ho asɛm. Ntɔkwaw pii a ɛte sɛ ɛfa wo ho ankasa no yɛ sɛnea nnipa baanu di nsɛm fa kwan no nhyia ara kwa. Hwehwɛ wɔn kwan no na fa ma wɔn, na nhyɛso no fa kɛse a ɛyɛ nwonwa bɛyera.
Eyi mu biara nnyɛ nneyɛe bɔne ho ofiri. Sɛ wote nea enti obi te sɛnea ɔte no ase a, ɛnyɛ sɛnea wode begye no atom no koraa. Ɛde nsɛm pa ma wo a wode bɛyɛ adwuma kɛkɛ.
Kyekye ahotoso a ɛtɔ wo bere
Sɛ wo wɔ ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den a, su a ɛbɛba ne sɛ wobɛyɛ komm. Si wo ti ase, kyerɛ kakra, ani sɛ wode wo ho besie. Mpɛn pii ɛsɛe ade, ne titiriw wɔ ɔpanyin a ɔwɔ dadwen anaa ɔde ne nsa ka biribiara so ho, efisɛ kommyɛ kyerɛ sɛ wɔde ɔhaw bi asie. Micromanager a onhu nea woreyɛ no susuw nea enye paa na ɔmiamia mu denneennen.
Adeyɛ a ɛne adwene bɔ abira ne sɛ wobɛma wɔn pii, ansa na wɔabisa. Nkitaho tiawa a wonim sɛ ɛbɛba wɔ bere a wobetumi ahyɛ no so. Nea woawie, nea wo so, nea wuhia fi wɔn hɔ, biribiara a ɛrebɛkyea. Worennyɛ sɛnea woyɛ adwuma pii. Woreyi akyinnyegye a ɛma ɔpanyin a ɔwɔ dadwen no de ne nsa ka na ɔfa nsa no mu. Adehu, a wode ma kwa, taa ne nea awiei koraa ma wo kwan a wode yɛ adwuma a obi nhwɛ.
Suban kakra a ɛkyekye saa ahotoso no:
- Yi asɛmmɔne adi ntɛm na fa wo ho yi adi. Ɔpanyin a otie ɔhaw ho asɛm kan fi wo hɔ, a nhyehyɛe ka ho, no sua sɛ obetumi de ne ho ato wo so. Nea obi te fi obi foforo hɔ no sua nea ɛne no bɔ abira.
- Yɛ onipa a ɔwie nea wahyɛ bo. Ne titiriw wɔ ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ basabasa ho, gyidie a ɛyɛ mmerɛw na ɛnyɛ anika no ma woyɛ baabi koro a ɛnsesa a ɛnsɛ sɛ ɔdwen ho.
- Si gyinae a wɔasi pi wɔ nkyerɛw mu, ayamye mu. "Sɛnea mɛhwɛ ahu sɛ mate ase yiye no, yɛrefa ɔkwan a ɛtɔ so abien na yɛatu bere a wɔahyɛ no akɔ da a ɛto so 14, saa na ɛte?" Eyi bɔ wo ho ban bere a nneɛma a edi kan no sesa, na ɛyɛ saa a sobobɔ kakraa bi nni mu.
Adɛn nti na kasa a wobɛkasa ho yɛ asiane wɔ ha
Sɛ da bi woagyina dabɔ ankasa bi so efisɛ sɛ woyi adi a ɛyɛ asiane a, wonyɛ mmerɛw na worenyɛ asiane no ho nsusuwii kwa. Amy Edmondson, Harvard nhwehwɛmufo a wasua eyi ho mfe pii no frɛ ade a ɛyera no adwene mu ahobammɔ: gyidi sɛ wubetumi akasa de adwene, asɛmmisa, anaa mfomso aba a wunsuro sɛ wɔbɛtwe w'aso anaa wagu w'anim ase wɔ ho. Sɛ ɛwɔ hɔ a, nnipa kyerɛ ɔhaw ahorow ntɛm na adwuma no yɛ yie. Sɛ enni hɔ a, nnipa yɛ komm, na kommyɛ no de ka ba obiara so.
Ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den no taa yɛ, sɛ wɔbɛka no tee a, obi a wama akasa ho ayɛ asiane. Enti wo nhuhuhuhu no fata. Asɛm a ɛhɔ ne sɛ kommyɛ no mma ɔhaw no nkɔ; ɛkyerɛ sɛ ɛbɛba akyiri yi, akɛse, na taa ɛyɛ wo ka. Botae no nyɛ sɛ wobɛyɛ obi a onsuro ade da koro. Ɛne sɛ wubehu ade ketewa nokware a wubetumi aka, wɔ bere a ɛyɛ asiane kakra a ɛwɔ hɔ mu, na wo de afi hɔ akyekye.
Di nkɔmmɔ a emu yɛ den no a wonsɔ ogya
Ɛtɔ da bi a ɛsɛ sɛ woyi biribi adi tee. Sika a wɔrehwehwɛ no sua dodo, bere no yɛ nea wuntumi nyɛ, ɔkwan a ɔfaa so kasa kyerɛɛ wo wɔ saa nhyiam no mu no ammɔ wo so yiye. Sɛ wubeguan afi ho daa no, ɛnyɛ nhyehyɛe. Sɛ wobɛhwie wo bo agu wɔn so nso nyɛ.
Nneɛma kakra a ɛma saa nkɔmmɔdie yi kɔ yie:
- Paw bere no. Ɛnyɛ afoforo anim, ɛnyɛ bere a mo mu biara abufuw. Ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den a wɔakyere no wɔ bere bɔne mu no bɛyɛ no sɛ asɔhwɛ a ɛtia ne tumi, ɛnyɛ asɛm no. Twɛn kosi sɛ ɛbɛyɛ komm na bisa simma kakra.
- Ka ɔhaw no ho asɛm, ɛnyɛ onipa no. "Mehaw me ho sɛ yɛbɛto da no bɛto sɛ yɛde eyi ka ho a yɛnyi biribi mfi mu" ma wɔn ɔhaw a wo ne wɔn besiesie. "Wokɔ so de nneɛma boa me so" ma wɔn ɔtaa a wɔbɛko atia. Nokwasɛm koro, nkɔmmɔ a ɛyɛ soronko koraa.
- Bra a nhyehyɛe ka wo ho, ɛnyɛ anwiinwii nko ara. Fa ɔkwan a anka wobɛfa so ne nea ɛbɛkɔ mu no bra. Apanyimfo, mpo wɔn a wɔyɛ den no, hu sɛ ɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wɔbɛka aane akyerɛ afotu sen sɛ wobesiesie anwiinwii a enni awiei.
- Hwehwɛ ntease, ɛnyɛ adwene koro. Wunhia sɛ wo panyin begye atom sɛ woteɛ. Wuhia sɛ mubedu nhyehyɛe a mo baanu betumi atena mu so. Ɛnonom yɛ soronko, na sɛ wotiw nea edi kan no a, taa ɛsɛe nea ɛto so abien no.
Bɔ w'ankasa gyinabea ho ban
Sɛe pii a efi ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den hɔ ba no nyɛ nsɛm a esisi no. Ɛyɛ nea wode soa wɔ wɔn ntam, nkɔmmɔ a wosan bɔ wɔ anadwo nnɔnnum, kyɛw a wokyerɛw maa biribi a ɛnyɛ wo mfomso, ahotoso a esiɛw nkakrankakra wɔ w'ankasa atemmu mu.
Bɔ wo ho ban tia eyi pi.
Kora wo ho nkrataa komm, nna ne nsɛm pɔtee, ɛnyɛ sɛ wubetumi asi asɛm bi pi, na mmom sɛnea nokwasɛm bɛkɔ so atim bere a obi reto wo nkae no nsɛe. Fa nnipa baako anaa baanu a wonni tebea no mu a wobetumi aka nea ɛyɛ adwuma ne nea ɛnyɛ adwuma akyerɛ wo, efisɛ ɔpanyin bɔne betumi asesa wo nsusuwii a edidi kan no komm. Na tew adwene a wode ma no afi ɔkwan a wofa so ka no ho. Ɔpanyin betumi ayɛ nea ɔnyɛ fɛ ankasa nanso ɔda so ara di adwuma no ho nokware ɛtɔ da bi. Fa fa a ɛho wɔ mfaso no. To fa a ɛyɛ wɔn dadwen a ɛreba wo so kɛkɛ no gu.
Eyi ho hia boro w'ahomeka so. Wiase Apɔmuden Kuw bɔ adwumayɛbea tebea bɔne din, a ɛka ho ne tumidi a ɛyɛ den, ɔtaa, ne tumi a wunni wɔ w'ankasa adwuma so, sɛ asiane ankasa a ɛtia adwene mu apɔmuden, ɛnyɛ anwiinwii a ɛnyɛ den. WHO susuw sɛ adwenemhaw ne dadwen ma adwumayɛ nna bɛyɛ ɔpepem 12 sɛe wiase nyinaa afe biara. Ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den no nnyɛ ɔhaw kɛkɛ. Sɛ ɛkɔ so a, ɛyɛ apɔmuden asɛm, na sɛ wofa w'ankasa apɔmuden sɛ ade a ɛfata sɛ wobɔ ho ban a, ɛno ne mmuae a ɛfata, ɛnyɛ nea ɛboro so.
Hu hye no, na hu bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wokɔ
Biribiara a ɛwɔ soro no susuw ɔpanyin a ɔyɛ den sɛ wode ne yɛ adwuma nanso ɔredi adwuma wɔ apɛde pa mu. Ebinom nyɛ saa. Basabasayɛ, ahunahuna, nyiyimu, ɔtaa, anaa biribiara a ɛka wo ahobammɔ ho no yɛ tebea soronko, na botae a ɛwɔ hɔ no nyɛ sɛ wobɛhwɛ abusuabɔ no so yie. Ɛne sɛ wobɛkyerɛw nea ɛrekɔ so no na woanya mmoa, denam HR, ɔpanyin a wugye no di, anaa ɔkwan biara a w'adwumakuw de ma. Wonni onipa a ɔyɛ wo saa no abodwokyɛre a enni awiei ho ka.
Sɛ ɛnnu saa hye no mpo a, ɛho wɔ mfaso sɛ wubesi gyinae ato hɔ wɔ nea wopɛ sɛ wugye tom ne bere a ɛbɛkɔ. Ahonyade a enni awiei ne ɔkwan a nnipa pa fa so wie brɛ na wogye di sɛ wɔn ne ɔhaw no. Si nsɛnkyerɛnne. "Sɛ eyi ansesa bere a ɔbosome abiɛsa no rewie a, mefi ase hwehwɛ." Sɛ wowɔ saa hye no, mpo wɔ kokoam, a, ɛsesa sɛnea daa ntɔkwaw no te, efisɛ wugyae afiri mu na wofi ase yɛ obi a ɔreyɛ gyinaesie.
Sɛ wode managing up yɛ adwuma yie a, ebetumi adan apanyimfo a wɔyɛ den pii ayɛ wɔn a wo ne wɔn betumi ayɛ adwuma, na ɛno yɛ nimdeɛ ankasa a ɛbɛsom wo bo wɔ w'adwumayɛ nkae mu nyinaa. Ɛrentumi nsiesie tebea biara, na ɛnsɛ sɛ ɛyɛ saa nso. Sɛ ɛka a ɛba w'apɔmuden, w'ahotoso, anaa wo fie asetena so kɔ so foro a ɛmfa ho nea wobɔ mmɔden biara a, ɛno nso yɛ nsɛm. Ɛtɔ da bi a, adeyɛ a ɛyɛ den paa a wobɛyɛ ne gyinaesi komm sɛ eyi nyɛ wo dea sɛ wobɛsiesie, na dan a emu dwo wɔ baabi.
Sɛ ɔhaw no afa adwuma mu akodu wo nna, w'adwene, anaa sɛnea woyɛ nnipa a wodɔ wɔn no a, ɛho wɔ mfaso sɛ wo ne ɔyaresafo anaa ɔbenfo bedi ho nkɔmmɔ. Ɛnsɛ sɛ wode adwuma a emu yɛ den soa wo nko ara, na sɛ wuhia mmoa na ama woafa mu a ɛnkyerɛ biribiara bɔne fa wo ho koraa.
Mmeae a wonya nsɛm fi
- Harvard Business Review, Managing Your Boss (John J. Gabarro and John P. Kotter)
- Harvard Business Review, How Do I Work with a Difficult Boss? (Coaching Real Leaders, Muriel Wilkins)
- Harvard Business Review, In Tough Times, Psychological Safety Is a Requirement, Not a Luxury (Amy C. Edmondson)
- World Health Organization, Mental health at work