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Ukugxila Kokubalulekile Lapho Konke Kuzwakala Kuphuthuma

Ukumatasa akufani nokusebenza ngempumelelo, futhi igebe eliphakathi kwako yilapho abaholi abaningi belahlekelwa khona usuku lwabo ngokuthula. Nakhu ukunaka okubiza ngempela, ukuthi kungani umsebenzi ohlakazekile ukwenza uzizwe kabi kakhulu, nezindlela ezimbalwa eziqotho zokusebenzisa ukugxila kwakho lapho kubaluleke khona.

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Amathiphu asheshayo

  • Qamba into eyodwa okumele yenzeke.
  • Vikela ihora elilodwa ifoni yakho ikude.
  • Beka imisebenzi engaqediwe ephepheni, hhayi ekhanda lakho.

Cabanga ukuphela kosuku olude lomsebenzi. Ubukukho amahora ayishumi. Uphendule konke, uhlale kuyo yonke imihlangano, ucime imililo emithathu ongayiqalanga. Nokho, ulele embhedeni, awukwazi ukuqamba into eyodwa oyihambise phambili ngempela. Usuku lwenzeke kuwe. Awuluholanga.

Lowo muzwa ongenalutho unembangela, futhi akubona ubuvila noma ukushoda kwamahora. Yilapho ukunaka kwakho okuye khona. Ungamatasa ngokungenamkhawulo kodwa usashelela ude nezinto ezimbalwa ebeziyokwenza isonto libe nokubaluleka. Iningi lethu alizange lifundiswe umehluko phakathi kokugcwalisa isikhathi sethu nokusebenzisa ukugxila kwethu. Kuzwakala kufana ngaphakathi. Akufani nhlobo.

Ukumatasa yinto elula. Ukugxila yinto enzima.

Kunesizathu sokuthi siye ekumatasa. Ukumatasa kunikeza impendulo esheshayo. I-inbox iyakhithika, isaziso siyasuka, ibhokisi elincane liyamakwa, futhi ubuchopho bakho bukunika ukukhululeka okuncane. Umsebenzi obalulekile awukwenzi lokho kaningi. Uyahamba kancane, awucaci, futhi awukuklomelisi kuze kube emva kwesikhathi eside, uma nje ukwenza. Ngakho sishelela siye kokuphuthumayo sisuke kokubalulekile, izikhathi ezingamakhulu ngosuku, ngaphandle kokuke sinqume.

Abaholi bakuzwa lokhu kakhulu, ngoba ingxenye enkulu yosuku inikezwa bona abanye abantu. Lapho abacwaningi be-Harvard Business School uMichael Porter noNitin Nohria belandelela ukuthi izikhulu eziphezulu zazisebenzisa kanjani isikhathi sazo ngempela, ihora nehora amasonto, kwaqhamuka okukodwa okwatholakala: isikhathi siyinto encane kunazo zonke umholi anazo, futhi lapho siya khona kubumba konke okunye. Umsebenzi akukona ukwenza okwengeziwe. Ukugcina umthombo wakho oyingcosana kunayo yonke ukhomba ezintweni wena wedwa ongazinyakazisa.

UMaura Thomas wakubeka ngokucacile ku-Harvard Business Review. Lapho umphathi ekhononda ukuthi ithimba line "nkinga yokuphatha isikhathi," uthi, inkinga yangempela ngokuvamile ukunaka. Abantu bamatasa. Bacindezelekile. Bamatasa nje ezintweni ezingalungile, endaweni yomsebenzi eqhubeka idonsela ukugxila kwabo ndawozonke. Unganika umuntu ikhalenda elingcono kodwa ngeke lisize, ngoba ukuvuza akukho ohlelweni lwabo. Kusekunakeni kwabo.

Yini ngempela ukushintsha okukubiza yona

Nansi ingxenye emangaza abantu. Izindleko zokuphazamiseka akuyona imizuzwana engamashumi amathathu oyichitha kuko. Yilokho okwenza emsebenzini obuyela kuwo.

Usosayikholoji uSophie Leroy waqamba lokhu ngokuthi insali yokunaka. Lapho weqa usuka komunye umsebenzi uya komunye, ucezu lwengqondo yakho luhlala lunamathele kowokuqala, ikakhulukazi uma uwushiye ungaqedile. Uhlala phansi ukuze ubhale imemo yesu, kodwa ingxenye yobuchopho bakho isahlafuna i-imeyili oyiphendule ingxenye. Ukhona ngokomzimba kodwa ngokwengqondo ukhona ingxenye kuphela. U-Leroy wathola ukuthi lokhu kuhudula akunyamalali emva kokulungisa okusheshayo. Kungakusithela kuwo wonke umsebenzi olandelayo.

Qoqa lokho kuwo wonke usuku lokushintsha njalo bese izibalo ziba nonya. Abacwaningi abafunda ukwenza izinto eziningi ngasikhathi sinye, okufinyezwe yi-American Psychological Association, balinganisela ukuthi izithiyo ezincane zengqondo ezidalwa ukweqa phakathi kwemisebenzi kungakubiza kufike kumaphesenti angamashumi amane wesikhathi sakho esisebenzayo. Amaphesenti angamashumi amane. Lokho cishe uhhafu womzamo wakho, uphelile, hhayi ngenxa yomsebenzi onzima kodwa ngenxa yokungqubuzana kokuqala kabusha kaninginingi.

Kukhona nezindleko zomzwelo futhi, futhi zithola isikhathi esincane sokukhulunywa. Usuku oluhlukene lukushiya uvuselelekile futhi uphelelwe amandla ngasikhathi sinye. Awulokothi ushone kokuthile ngokujulile ngokwanele ukuze uzwe ukwaneliseka okuthule kwenqubekela phambili yangempela, ngakho ugcina ukhathazekile futhi ngokungajwayelekile ungafezanga lutho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthinte izinto ezingaki. Umuzwa ohlakazekile nomsebenzi ohlakazekile kuyinkinga efanayo egqoke ubuso obubili.

Ukunquma okubalulekile, ngamabomu

Ukugxila kuqala ngaphambi kosuku lomsebenzi, ngesinqumo iningi labantu elisiyeqayo. Uma ungazikhethi izinto zakho ezisemqoka, izwi elinomsindo kunawo wonke ku-inbox yakho likukhethela zona.

Ukuhlolwa okulula kunquma umsindo omningi: uma kuleli sonto into eyodwa kuphela beyenziwa, kufanele ibe yini? Hhayi into ememezayo. Into, ngenyanga kusukela manje, ozojabula ukuthi wayivikela. Ngokuvamile ngumsebenzi othule, obalulekile, futhi olula ukuwuhlehlisa, isu, ingxoxo enzima, into ekhulisa abantu abakuzungezile. Yiqambe ngaphambi kokuba usuku lugcwale, ngoba emva kwalokho sekwephuze kakhulu.

Bese uyivikele njengokungathi ingokoqobo, ngoba injalo.

  • Nika into yakho ephambili kunazo zonke indawo yangempela, hhayi izinsalela. Bekela eceleni isikhathi sangempela somsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu, ngehora lapho ubuchopho bakho bubukhali khona, uphathe leso sikhathi ngendlela ongaphatha ngayo umhlangano nomuntu omhloniphayo. Umsebenzi owenziwayo ngumsebenzi othola indawo yokwenzeka.
  • Khetha izinto ezimbalwa uvumele okunye kulunge. Awukwazi ukwenza konke kahle, futhi ukuzenzisa ukuthi ungakwazi yindlela konke okwenziwa ngayo ingxenye. Ukukhetha okubalulekile kusho ukukhetha okungabalulekile. Zitshele ngokusobala: lokhu, hhayi lokho.
  • Vikela isikhathi esisodwa sokunaka okungaphukanga ngosuku. Ngisho nemizuzu engamashumi ayisithupha ethule, ifoni ekamelweni elinye, izaziso zicimile, kwanele ukuzwa ukuthi ukugxila okungahlukaniswanga kunjani futhi. Abantu abaningi sebekhohliwe. Kubuya ngokushesha.
  • Qeda into encane ngaphambi kokushintsha, noma uyibeke ephepheni. Njengoba imisebenzi engaqediwe iyiyo enamathela engqondweni yakho, yikhiphe ekhanda lakho uyibeke ohlwini oluthembayo. Umsebenzi obanjiwe uyeka ukuhlupha olandelayo.
  • Yakha ukuvala okufushane ekupheleni kosuku. Imizuzu emithathu yokubheka lokho okuhambile, ubhale into eyodwa ebalulekile yakusasa, uvale i-laptop. Kutshela ingqondo yakho ukuthi usuku selenziwe ngempela, okuyindlela oyeka ngayo ukuthwala umsebenzi uwuse emahoreni okumele akugcwalise kabusha.

Akukho kulokhu okudinga i-app entsha noma uhlelo lokukhiqiza. Kudinga ukunquma okubalulekile bese uvikela leso sinqumo ngokumelene nosuku oluzokusebenzisa ngenjabulo kukho konke okunye.

Lapho ukuhlakazeka kungaphezu kwesikhathi sokumatasa

Kithi abaningi, umuzwa wokuhlakazeka uyakhuphuka wehle nomthwalo womsebenzi, futhi amasonto ambalwa okuvikela ukunaka kwethu uwubuyisa. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kunalokho, futhi kufanele siqotho ngomehluko.

Uma ngempela ungakwazi ukugxila noma uwenza lula kangakanani, uma ukungazinzi noma inkungu isihlalile yahlala, uma kungena ebuthongweni bakho noma ebudlelwaneni bakho, noma uma wonke umsebenzi uzwakala ubiza okwengeziwe kunalokho onakho ukukunika, lokho kungase kukhombe okuthile okungaphansi komsebenzi. Inkinga eqhubekayo yokugxilisa ingahamba nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka engqondweni, ukuphelelwa amandla, usizi, noma umehluko wokunaka, futhi akukho kulokho okulungiswa uhlu lomsebenzi olungcono. Udokotela noma umelaphi angakusiza utshele umehluko phakathi kwesikhathi esinzima nento efanele ukwesekwa kwangempela. Ukufuna lolo sizo akukona ukwehluleka kokukhiqiza. Kuwuvelelo olufanayo olwenza umholi omuhle, okuwukwazi ukuthi yini ngempela edinga ukunaka kwakho.

Umgomo bewungakaze ube ukwenza okwengeziwe. Ukufinyelela ekupheleni kosuku wazi ukuthi amahora akho aye lapho ubuhlose ukuthi aye khona. Lolo uhlobo oluthule lwamandla, futhi cishe akekho oluwasebenzisa ngamabomu. Ungaqala kusasa, ngento eyodwa.

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