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Amathiphu asheshayo
- Sho ngokusobala ukuthi awuyena umeluleki wabo.
- Funda izindlela zakho zokudlulisela ngaphambi kokuba uzidinge.
- Yenza isonto labo libe lula lapho ukwazi khona.
Othile ethimbeni lakho unenkinga. Uyakubona. Umsebenzi uwohlokile, ikhamera ihlala icishiwe, inhlansi ejwayelekile ihambile, futhi ngenye intambama bakutshela okwedlula lokho obekulindele ukukuzwa. Mhlawumbe bayakhala. Mhlawumbe basho uhlobo lwento efika esifubeni sakho ihlale khona ngemva kokuphela kocingo.
Okwenzayo okulandelayo kubalulekile. Kanjalo nalokho ongakwenzi.
Umuzwa wemvelo womholi omuhle ngaleso sikhathi uwukungena ngokuphelele. Ukukuthwala. Ukuba ngumuntu osiza ekugcineni. Lowo muzwa uvela endaweni yangempela nefanele, futhi ufanele ukugcinwa. Kodwa uma ungaqashwanga, uholela endaweni engasizi muntu: uthatha ngokuthula umsebenzi ongazange uqeqeshelwe wona, omunye umuntu wencika kuhlobo olungalungile losizo, futhi nobabili nigcina nibhajwe kakhulu kunangaphambili.
Ukwazi imikhawulo yeqhaza lakho akubona ubuqhwa. Kungenye yezinto ezinomusa, ezinobungcweti kunazo zonke ongazinikela.
Ubaluleke kakhulu kunalokho ocabangayo, futhi kancane kunalokho okwesabayo
Qala ngeqiniso elimangaza abantu abaningi. Ucwaningo olukhulu lweWorkforce Institute e-UKG, oluhlola izinkulungwane zabasebenzi emazweni ayishumi, lwathola ukuthi abantu balinganisela umthelela womphathi wabo empilweni yabo yengqondo njengocishe ulingane nowothandana naye, futhi mkhulu kunowodokotela wabo noma umeluleki wabo wezengqondo. Iningi labasebenzi kulolo cwaningo lwabiza umsebenzi wabo njengesici esisodwa esikhulu kunazo zonke sendlela abazizwa ngayo nsuku zonke.
Kuvumele lokho kushone umzuzwana. Indlela oqhuba ngayo umhlangano, unikeze umnqamulajuqu, usabele ephutheni, noma umane ubuze ukuthi umuntu unjani inesisindo sangempela empilweni yangaphakathi yomunye umuntu. Awucabangi nje ngethonya. Likhona.
Nakhu enye ingxenye, futhi kumele uzibambe zombili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Lelo thonya lihamba ngendlela ophatha ngayo abantu. Alikwenzi ube udokotela wabo. Ungabumba isonto lomuntu ngaphandle kokukwazi ukwelapha ukucindezeleka kwabo, ukuxazulula usizi lwabo, noma ukubathwala udlule enhlekeleleni. Leyo yimisebenzi ehlukene, eyenziwa abantu abaqeqeshiwe, futhi ukuxuba lokho kokubili yilapho abaholi abahle bengena enkingeni.
Umugqa uhlezi kuphi ngempela
Abaphathi abazama ukuba ngabeluleki bezengqondo bavame ukukwenza ngezinhloso ezinhle kunazo zonke nangokulungiselela okubi kunakho konke. Cishe akekho kithi oqeqeshelwe khona. KuHarvard Business Review, isazi sengqondo esilulekayo uKiran Bhatti nomprofesa wobuholi waseCambridge uThomas Roulet bakubeka ngokusobala: abaphathi akufanele bazame ukuba ngabeluleki bezengqondo. Abangakwenza ukunikeza uhlobo lokusiza kokuqala kwempilo yengqondo, okulingana nokwazi ukuthi ungamgcina kanjani umuntu ezolile ubize usizo, hhayi ukuhlinza.
Ngakho yini ehlezi ngaphakathi kweqhaza lakho?
- Ukuqaphela. Uvame ukuba ngowokuqala ukubona ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle, ngoba ubona umsebenzi womuntu nesigqi seduze.
- Ukubuza, ngokulula nangaphandle kwengcindezi. "Awubukeki uwuwena muva nje. Unjani, ngempela?" ungumusho ophelele nonamandla.
- Ukulalela ngaphandle kokusheshela ukulungisa. Iningi labantu abasosizini abakuceli ukuba ukuxazulule. Bafuna ukungabi bodwa nako umzuzu.
- Ukulungisa umsebenzi lapho ukwazi khona ngokunengqondo. Isonto elilula, umnqamulajuqu ohanjisiwe, into eyodwa encishisiwe enqwabeni. Lokhu kuvame ukuba usizo olubonakalayo kunazo zonke ongalunikeza, futhi kungolwakho ngokuphelele ukulunikeza.
- Ukukhomba usizo lwangempela, nokulandelela. Uhlelo lokusiza abasebenzi, i-HR, udokotela, umeluleki, ulayini wezimo eziphuthumayo uma kuphuthuma.
Yini ehlezi ngaphandle kwalo? Ukuxilonga. Ukunikeza iseluleko sokwelapha. Ukuba ngusekelo lwemizwa lwansuku zonke umuntu athembela kulo esikhundleni sokunakekelwa kochwepheshe. Ukuthembisa ukuthi uzobagcina belungile. Ukuthatha ubunikazi bomphumela ongeke uwulawule. Ngomzuzu ongena kuleyo ndawo, uyekile ukuhola waqala ukwenza umsebenzi okungekho ongawenzela omunye umuntu.
Kungani ukweqa umngcele kubuyela emuva
Kuzwakala njengokukhetha okuphanayo. Akuvamile ukuba njalo.
Uma uba wumthombo omkhulu wosizo womuntu, ususa usizo olungelapha ngempela okungalungile. Umeluleki unokuqeqeshwa, imfihlo, nendlela. Wena unezinhloso ezinhle nekhalenda eligcwele ezinye izinto. Ukuma esikhundleni sochwepheshe, noma ngokuthanda kanjani, kungabambezela ngokuthula usuku abazothola ngalo lokho abakudinga ngempela.
Kukhona nezindleko kuwe, futhi azincane. Abacwaningi abafunda ukuphelelwa ngamandla bakhomba imbangela embalwa evamile: umthwalo omkhulu kakhulu, ukulawula okuncane kakhulu, kanye nokulindelwa okungacacile noma okusabalele ngokuthi umsebenzi wakho ngisho uyini. Thatha usizi lwawo wonke umuntu njengomthwalo wakho oyimfihlo bese ubhalise kuzo zontathu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Umsebenzi ongowakho ngempela awuncipheli ukuvula indawo. Uvele usebenze ushisa kakhulu, unike wonke umuntu ukunaka okubi, futhi ekugcineni ungabi nalutho olusele kubantu abathembele kuwe, emsebenzini noma ekhaya.
Umthwalo ongawuboni usinda kakhulu. Umphathi onquma ngasese ukuthi manje unesibopho sokugcina umsebenzi osenkingeni entweni ephakeme uthwele isisindo okungekho incazelo yomsebenzi eyasibeka lapho, ngokuvamile ngokuthula, kaningi izinyanga eziningi.
Indlela yokuhlala emzileni wakho uphinde ube nobuntu obujulile
Imingcele nokufudumala akuphambananga. Abaholi abakhathalela kunazo zonke engike ngababuka baphinde bacace kunazo zonke ngalokho abakhona nabangekho ukuze bakwenze. Izinto ezimbalwa ezisizayo.
Sho lokho ongakunikeza, ngokuzwakalayo. Zama okuthile okunjengalokhu: "Angiyena umeluleki, futhi bengizokwenzela okubi uma ngenza sengathi nginguye. Engingakwenza wukuqinisekisa ukuthi umthwalo wakho womsebenzi ungaphatheka nokukusiza ukuthola umuntu oqeqeshelwe lokhu ngempela. Singakwenza kokubili?" Ukuqamba umkhawulo kuyaqinisekisa, akwenqabi. Kutshela umuntu ukuthi usithatha ngokungathi sina isimo sabo ngokwanele ukuze ufune usizo olulungile kuso.
Yazi izindlela zakho zokudlulisela ngaphambi kokuba uzidinge. Thola namuhla ukuthi uhlelo lwakho lokusiza abasebenzi lusebenza kanjani, yini i-HR engayenza nengeke iyenze, nokuthi yiziphi izinsiza zezimo eziphuthumayo obungakhomba umuntu kuzo esimeni esiphuthumayo. Ukuphuthaza lokhu esikhathini esinzima kwenza konke kube kubi kakhulu. Ukukuba nakho kulungile kukuvumela ukuba uzole futhi ube wusizo lapho kubalulekile.
Landelela ngaphandle kokuthatha izintambo. Umbuzo omfushane othi "Ingabe ukwazile ukuthinta umuntu? Ingabe kukhona engingakulungisa ohlangothini lwami?" ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva ukhombisa ukuthi awukhohliwe, ngaphandle kokuzenza wena uhlelo. Umgomo wukuba yibhuloho eliya osizweni, hhayi usizo ngokwalo.
Qaphela isikali sakho. Uma ulahlekelwa ubuthongo ngezinkinga zelungu lethimba, uphinda izingxoxo ebusuku, noma uzizwa unesibopho ngokwakho ngokuthi baphephile yini, lokho kuwuphawu lwakho lokuthi usuphambukile weqa iqhaza lakho. Khuluma nomphathi wakho, i-HR, noma umeluleki wakho. Ukuzinakekela lapha akukona ubugovu. Yikho okukugcina ukwazi ukuhola nhlobo.
Phatha ukudlulisela njengempumelelo, hhayi ukwehluleka. Ukusiza umuntu afinyelele kuchwepheshe kuwukunqoba. Kuyinto ewusizo kunazo zonke ozoyenza kuso sonke isimo. Uma umphathi edlulisela umsebenzi osenkingeni ekunakekelweni kwangempela, okuqeqeshiwe, wenze umsebenzi wakhe ncamashi ngendlela efanele.
Uma ngokusobala kudlula thina sonke
Eminye imizuzu idinga okwedlula ukudlulisela nesonto elilula. Uma othile ekutshela ukuthi ucabanga ngokuqeda impilo yakhe, noma unesizathu esikhulu sokwesabela ukuphepha kwakhe, lokhu akusekhona ngokwenza umsebenzi futhi kudlule kakhulu lokho noma yimuphi umphathi akuphatha yedwa. Hlala nabo, kuthathe njengokubalulekile, futhi ubaxhume kusizo lwezimo eziphuthumayo noma ulayini wezimo eziphuthumayo ngokushesha. Faka abantu nezinsiza inhlangano yakho enazo ngalokhu kanye. Akudingeki wazi amagama afanele. Kudingeka nje ungabashiyi bebodwa nakho, futhi uthole umuntu oqeqeshiwe abambe iqhaza ngokushesha.
Impumuzo kukho konke lokhu iyiqiniso uma usukuvumela kungene. Awuzange kufanele ube yikho konke kuwo wonke umuntu omholayo. Kufanele ube ngobukhona obuzinzile, obufanele obuqaphelayo, obukhathala ngokwanele ukuthembeka ngemikhawulo yakho, futhi obwaziyo ukuthi kukhonjwa kanjani usizo olukhulu kunawe. Kwenze lokho, bese unikeze okwedlula lokho iningi labantu abake balithole kumphathi. Uphinde wagcina okwakho okwanele kuphelele ukuze uqhubeke ukwenza kusasa.
Imithombo
- SHRM, Report: Managers Have Bigger Impact on Employee Mental Health than Therapists
- Harvard Business Review, Helping an Employee in Distress
- Harvard Business Review, What New Managers Can Do to Support Employee Mental Health
- Frontiers in Psychology, Leadership and Job Demands-Resources Theory: A Systematic Review