Quick tips
- Waka for ten minutes before you review anything.
- Thank one person, call wetin dem really do.
- Three keeps and one change, tomorrow, no be tonight.
You don do am. Whatever happen for inside, you enter one room wey matter and you give am everything wey you get, and twenty minutes later you dey stand outside, your hand dey shake small, and one sentence wey you talk dey replay for your head like film. That mixture no be verdict on how you perform. Na plenty stress chemical dey finish their work for one body wey no need dem again.
Di hour wey come after big moment na real part of di job, and almost nobody dey plan for am. E get four things wey suppose happen, and none of dem na review. Move your body, make di chemical get where e go. Chop something, because most times you never chop. Give specific thank-you to di people wey carry part of di day. Then hold your assessment reach tomorrow, when di instrument wey you go use measure don work well again.
Wetin I suppose do for di first hour after big presentation?
Waka for ten minutes and chop something before you check even one message. Your body just run full stress response, and dat hour na for clear am, e no be for you mark yourself.
Stress response na physical event wey get tail. Adrenaline enter your blood, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, energy release, and di systems wey shut down dey come back on now. Ten minutes of easy movement na di simplest way to use wetin your body mobilize, and e dey work pass make you dey sidon for car dey autopsy yourself.
Then tell one person one true sentence about how e go. No be full gist, no be defense, just di honest headline: e better pass di rehearsal, or I lost am for middle but I catch am back. To talk am out loud one time dey comot am from di loop wey e dey run, and e give you fixed version wey you go compare with tomorrow, because your memory of tonight go don quietly edit itself.
Why my own sense of how e go dey feel like say I no fit trust am?
Because di same energy wey make you sharp for di room still dey run as you dey replay am, and e dey weight di one sentence wey you miss pass di forty minutes wey work well well. Judgment wey you make inside dat chemical tail no be real judgment, na just mood wey get evidence tie for am.
E fit go both sides, and na dis part people dey miss. Some people go comot, dem believe say na disaster. Others go comot, dem believe say e sweet well well, and next day di notes go shock dem. Neither one dey worth plenty, and if you take tonight opinion as data, na so people go end up dey rewrite one talk wey dey work fine.
E get better thing wey you fit do with dat energy pass to dey interpret am. Research on reappraisal show say people wey dem tell make dem see their stress energy as something useful, no be sign say something dey wrong, dem show better cardiovascular response and dem no too dey pull go negative side pass people wey nobody tell anything. Di same new way of naming am dey available for you as you dey comot. Na body wey dey finish hard work, e no be body wey dey tell you truth about di work.
Wetin I go talk when people ask how e go?
One sentence, true, nothing more until tomorrow. Somebody go ask you within di hour, and whatever you talk go quietly become di version wey you go remember, so choose am well instead of make you let adrenaline write am give you.
Use di simple headline wey you don already give your one person. E go better pass di rehearsal. I lost am for middle but I catch am back. Dem ask about pricing and I don ready. Then make di gist move on, because di second and third minute of dat answer na where di loop go start again and go start dey edit di tape.
Two versions make you avoid. No be di apology tour, wey dey teach everybody wey hear you to read your work di way wey you dey misread am now, and e hard well well to undo once three people don hear am. And no be di oversell, wey you go dey take back tomorrow when di notes dey in front of you. Both of dem na di chemical dey talk. Short true sentence na di only version wey go still correct for morning.
Who I suppose thank, and wetin exactly I go talk?
Call wetin di person do and wetin e save you from, for one sentence, and talk am for where somebody wey their opinion about di person matter fit hear am. Thank-you wey no clear na just noise. Di specific public version na career event for dem, and e go cost you about one minute.
Somebody make dis one easy for you. Somebody take di timeline comot for your hand, send di file for eleven for night, drive you, cover your other work, or mention your name for room wey you no dey, and na so plenty times di date sef enter calendar. Di general version, "thank you for support," dey disappear as e land. Di specific version no dey disappear: you rebuild di pricing slide and na di only question wey dem ask, so na you cause am.
Then find di room. Message to dem alone good. But di same sentence for front of their manager or their group na different thing entirely, because e dey change how other people see dem, no be just how dem feel. Na dis step most people dey skip, because di hour after big moment na di hour wey person dey focus on demself pass, and na exactly why e worth to dey for your list.
E get side effect wey worth make you know, and I go talk am di way di evidence support am. For di first experiments wey put gratitude for proper foundation, people wey dey keep short regular record of wetin dem thank for, dem report better mood pass people wey dey keep record of their wahala, and better mood na di strongest result among all. Dat one na about to notice am, no be about to send am, so make you see di message as di useful part and di better mood as bonus. Na good move wey get good side effect, na di kind move wey you want for one list wey you plan to run for another twenty years.
When I suppose do di real review?
Tomorrow, and for one shape: three keeps and one change. To wait till next day no be say you dey soft for yourself, na say you dey wait for instrument wey you fit trust.
Three keeps first, and dem must clear well: di opening catch their attention, di demo run clean, I no rush di numbers. Then one change, just one, and make you talk am as thing wey you go do, no be thing wey you be. "Cut di second example" na change. "Be more confident" na just mood.
One change na deliberate limit. Four changes na rewrite, and to rewrite after day wey mostly work well go throway di parts wey dey work. One change per outing, wey you actually keep to am, dey add up faster pass wetin anybody expect across one year of dem.
Di hour after na for somebody wey plan to do dis again
Treat di landing hour as maintenance for instrument wey you plan to still dey use, because na so e be exactly. Move your body, chop, thank di people by name, sleep, and make tomorrow version of you do di analysis with clear head.
E no be say you dey wind down because you wanted too much. Na di reason wey you go fit raise hand for di next one wey go reach for three weeks, and stand steady when e reach, and di one after am, and di ones wey dem never even offer you. Di people wey dey last no be di ones wey feel less as dem dey comot. Na di ones wey know wetin di hour after dey for.