Afotusɛm ntiantia
- Mute the thread during work hours.
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- Say the pace you need out loud.
Mpɛn pii no, ɛfiri wo telefoon so. Wohwɛ mu sen sɛnea wobɛpene so. Nkra ba a, wo ho nyinaa pɛ kɔ soro; mpaepaemu a edi nea ɛdi hɔ anim no yiyi wo mu dinn. Wode wo nnaawɔtwe siesie obi a wuhyiaa no bosome baako a atwam ho. Woaka akyerɛ wʼadamfo a ɔbɛn wo paa sɛ ebia ɔno ne ɔbaako no, na nne ketewa a ɛyɛ nyansa a ɛda wʼadwene akyi rebisa sɛ ɛbɛyɛ dɛn na woahu yei seesei.
Ebia wuntumi nhunu seesei. Ɛno nyɛ asɛm a ɛtia wo, na ɛnyɛ asɛm a ɛtia ɔno. Ɛda so yɛ ahyɛaseɛ kɛkɛ. Atenka no yɛ den seesei wɔ nneɛma a ɛne sɛ saa onipa yi yɛ papa ma wʼasetena nni biribiara yɛ nti.
Enti asɛmmisa a ɛfata sɛ wotena ho no nyɛ sɛ enti wɔbɛte nka kakra. Ɛyɛ sɛ wobɛtumi akura ɔdɔ no mu na woagyae nsɔmu a ano yɛ den no. Wobɛtumi. Na sɛ wobrɛ wo ho ase yie a, ɛtaa ma abusuabɔ no yɛ den, ɛnyɛ mmerɛ.
Adɛn nti na biribiara yɛ sɛ ɛyɛ ntɛm
Apɛdeɛ foforɔ hyɛ wo nhyehyɛeɛ ma. Wʼamene akatua nhyehyɛeɛ, nneɛma korɔ no ara a ɛma biribiara a ɛyɛ anigye yɛ deɛ ɛfata sɛ wotaa akyi no, sɔ saa onipa yi ho. Ɛhɔ na ahoɔden no firi, anigyeɛ no, nna a ɛyera, sɛnea wosan kae nkɔmmɔ biara. Wo honam fa no sɛ akatua a ɛpɛ sɛ ɛnya no denneenden.
Din wɔ ɔfa a emu yɛ duru no ho, bere a apɛdeɛ no dane akoma so dwennwene. Ayaresafoɔ frɛ no limerence. Cleveland Clinic kyerɛkyerɛ no sɛ adwene a ano yɛ den, a mpɛn pii no ɛnyɛ wʼapɛdeɛ, a wode si onipa foforɔ so, baabi a atenka no di wo nim sɛ wopɛ anaa wompɛ. Nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ no ne deɛ obiara a waba hɔ pɛn nim: adwennwene a ano yɛ den, atɛkyɛ a ɛfiri anigye kɔ ehu, telefoon a wohwɛ mu mpɛn pii, aduane akɔnnɔ anaa nna a ɛyera, da no a wosesa wɔ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ biara a ɛkyerɛ sɛ wɔredwene wo ho ho.
Asɛm a ɛho hia paa nie. Saa tebea no mu, wonni nkitaho ne onipa no ankasa. Wode wo ho ato adwene bi a wowɔ fa ne ho so. Apɛdeɛ foforɔ ba ne kyɛn bi a ɛma ɔyɛ sɛ ɔnni mfomsoɔ na wode deɛ ahofɛ wom paa hyɛ deɛ wonnim nyinaa mu dinn. Nneɛma nketenkete a ɛmpem no, wokyerɛkyerɛ mu yi firi hɔ. Ɛno nyɛ suban mu mfomsoɔ. Saa na amene a ɔdɔ foforɔ aka no yɛ adwuma fa. Nanso ɛkyerɛ sɛ onipa a woadɔ no, seesei, yɛ obi a wʼankasa wode wo nsa ayɛ no fa.
Ɛno mma abusuabɔ no nnyɛ atorɔsɛm. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ ɛnwiee. Wonhyiaa onipa no nyinaa, deɛ wabrɛ no, deɛ haw aka no, deɛ ɔde abasamtuo di dwuma sɛnea ebia wo ho rentɔ wo. Bere nko ara na ɛde wo bɛhyia wɔn.
Limerence ne ɔdɔ nyɛ adeɛ korɔ
Ɛyɛ mmerɛ sɛ wobu denneenden sɛ emu dɔ. Wɔte sɛ wɔn ho wɔ emu, nanso wɔyɛ adwuma fa a ɛsono.
Limerence gyina ehu so. Ɛyɛ akoma a ɛbɔ ntɛm, nsusuiɛ a ɛkɔ so daa, ehu sɛ adeyɛ baako a ɛnyɛ pɛ bewie biribiara. Ɔdɔ, deɛ ɛgyina pintinn no, te ɛsono. Ɛyɛ ayamyɛ na ɛyɛ anigye, nokware, nanso ɛsane ma wohome. Wobɛtumi ayɛ mpaepaemu a wo ho ammu. Wobɛtumi aka asɛm a ɛhaw wo pefee sen sɛ womene de sie asomdwoeɛ.
Nokware a ɛyɛ den baako a ɛfiri nhwehwɛmu mu a ɛfata sɛ wɔka pefee ne sɛ: deɛ ɛyɛ akoma so adeɛ no taa sɛ ɛdwo ansa na deɛ ɛyɛ nokware no atumi anyini. Adwene mu adeɛ ne onipa ankasa ntumi nntena baabi koro. Enti sɛ wobrɛ wo ho ase a, ɛnyɛ sɛ woresɛe ɔdɔ kɛseɛ bi. Ɛyɛ sɛ woreyɛ kwan ama deɛ ɛyɛ nokware no.
Sɛnea "ntɛm dodo" taa yɛ
Bere nhyehyɛe a ɛwɔ hɔ ma obiara nni hɔ, na mma obiara ntɔn baako mma wo. Nnipa mmienu a wɔbom kɔ ntɛm, ahoɔhare korɔ, denam wɔn nyinaa pɛ so, bɛtumi ayɛ apɔmuden ankasa. Ɔhaw fi ase wɔ baabi pɔtee bi:
- Mo mu baako retu mmirika na ɔbaako renyɛ. Sɛ koho no nyɛ pɛ a, deɛ ɔyɛ ntɛm no ho yɛ no hu na deɛ ɔyɛ brɛoo no te nka sɛ wɔakyere no mu. Saa adaesane a wɔnkae no, dinn ma nneɛma yɛ den.
- Wʼatenka nyinaa ahyɛ ne nsam afei. Wo ho kɔ soro bere a ɔkyerɛw wo, na wo werɛ how bere a ɔnkyerɛw, na wo nnamfo, wo nna, wʼadwuma nyinaa ayɛ duumduum kakra.
- Wode wo ho ahyɛ su bi a wonhyiaa no ankasa nkann ho, woreka asetena anaa daapem ho ansa na woahunu sɛnea ɔde nnaawɔtwe bɔne di dwuma.
- Worebu "hm" a ɛyɛ dinn so. Biribi te sɛ ɛnteɛ na woreka wo ho kɔ akyi ɛfiri sɛ anigyeɛ no yɛ dɛ paa.
Sɛ yeinom mu kakra ka wo a, wonyɛ deɛ asɛe na abusuabɔ no nso nyɛ deɛ asɛe. Ɛyɛ sɛ worekɔ ntɛm sen wo nimdeɛ.
Sɛnea wobɛyi wo nan afiri so a wo ho nyɛ nwunu
Sɛ wobrɛ wo ho ase a, ɛnya din bɔne, te sɛ deɛ ɛkyerɛ sɛ woredi agorɔ anaa woreyɛ sɛ wʼani nnye sɛnea ɛteɛ. Ɛyɛ deɛ ɛne no bɔ abira. Ɛyɛ sɛ wʼani gye ho araa sɛ wopɛ deɛ ɛyɛ nokware sen ahopere no. Nneɛma kakra a ɛboa ankasa:
Ma wʼankasa wʼasetena nkɔ so
Adeyɛ a ɛbɔ ho ban sen biara nso ne deɛ ɛyɛ mmerɛ koraa. Nto wo nnamfo ho nko. Nnyae deɛ wʼani gye ho yɛ no. Mma gym, side project, anaa adidi a ɛkɔ so daa nnyera dinn. Sɛ wʼahotɔ nyinaa fa onipa foforɔ baako so a, kommyɛ ketewa biara a ɔbɛyɛ no yɛ asasewosoɔ. Ayaresafoɔ a wɔne nnipa a wɔtɔ denneenden na ntɛm yɛ adwuma no kyerɛ yei bere biara: sɛ wokura wʼankasa wo nan mu a, ɛno na ɛma wuhu obi pefee, ɛfiri sɛ wonni ɔpɛ kɛseɛ sɛ ɔnhyɛ baabiara ma.
Fa nhyehyɛe kakra to nkitaho no ho
Sɛ wode reyɛ ahyehyɛnae a ɛkɔ so da mu nyinaa a, deɛ ɛba mmerɛ biara no rehyɛ ahopere no ahoɔden. Ɛnsɛ sɛ wuyi wo ho fi mu koraa. Wobɛtumi de ɔkwansiwdeɛ kakra aka ho, te sɛ wode notifications dum bere a woreyɛ adwuma, anaa worennyina simma du mu nkyerɛw mmuaeɛ bere biara. Botaeɛ no nyɛ sɛ wobɛyɛ sɛ wʼani nni hɔ. Ɛyɛ sɛ wobɛyi wo nkwagyenam afiri kɔkɔbɔ kɛseɛ so sɛnea wobɛtumi adwene ankasa.
Ma bere nyi nneɛma adi
Wuhu sɛnea obi te denam ɔhwɛ so, ɛnyɛ ɔbisa so. Deɛ ɔka no ne deɛ ɔyɛ no hyia? Sɛnea ɔteɛ bere a nhyehyɛe bi sɛe, anaa bere a moanyɛ adwene, anaa bere a haw aka no a ɔnni ahosiesie? Yeinom mu biara mpue da a ɛtɔ so mmiɛnsa. Ɛpue wɔ abosome mu, wɔ tebea ahodoɔ mu. Sɛ woma abusuabɔ no koho yɛ brɛoo a, ɛyɛ sɛ woma wo ho bere a ɛdɔɔso a wode bɛboaboa nokware nsɛm ano ansa na wode wʼakoma ama.
Ka koho no pefee
Yei te sɛ ɛhaw wo, na ɛno ara nti na ɛyɛ adwuma. "M'ani gye wo ho paa, na mepɛ sɛ yɛfa koho a metumi agyina pintinn so" yɛ asɛm a ɛyɛ pefee na ɛyɛ ayamyɛ a wode bɛka. Sɛnea ɔbɛyɛ ho ade kyerɛ wo pii. Obi a ɔgyina pintinn bɛbu so. Obi a ɔsi so denneenden, anaa ɔma wote nka sɛ sɛ wopɛ sɛ wobrɛ wo ho ase a, ɛyɛ sɛ wapo no, ɔrekyerɛ wo biribi a ɛho wɔ mfasoɔ ntɛm ara.
Pɛ sɛ wubehu sen sɛ wo ho bɛyɛ wo pi
Ahoɔhare no fa kɛseɛ yɛ ehu a ɛhyɛ ntade. Ehu sɛ sɛ wankura yei mu seesei a, ɛbɛyera. Ehu sɛ sɛ wobrɛ wo ho ase a, ɛkyerɛ sɛ worehwere no. Nnipa bi deɛ, titiriw obiara a ehu taa ka no fa abɛnneɛ ho no, saa ehu no betumi ama brɛoo a wobrɛ wo ho ase ayɛ sɛ ɛyɛ den honam mu araa.
Sɔ saa nsakraeɛ adwene yi hwɛ. Abusuabɔ a ɛtumi tena ase wɔ ahoɔhare mu nko ara no nyɛ deɛ ɛgyina pintinn. Sɛ wo nan a woyi firi koho no so ma biribiara dwiri gu a, na ɛgyina ahopere so, ɛnyɛ fapem so, na ɛyɛ sɛ wubehu yei wɔ bosome a ɛto so mmienu mu sen afe a ɛto so mmienu mu. Abusuabɔ a ɛfata sɛ wokura mu no mmubu bere a wohome. Wɔdwoodwoo.
Sɛ wokɔ brɛoo a, ɛnyɛ ɔkwan a ahwɛyie wom a anigyeɛ nni mu. Ɛyɛ sɛnea woma biribi kwan ma ɛyɛ nokware.
Bere a ɛfata sɛ wonya mmoa foforɔ
Ɛtɔ da a, su no so sen abusuabɔ baako biara. Sɛ wuhu sɛ woretɔ denneenden saa, ntɛm saa, mpɛn pii, na ɛtaa ba awieeɛ a ɛyɛ ya korɔ no ara a, ɛno fata sɛ wote ase, ɛnyɛ sɛ wode ahoɔden bedi mu kɛkɛ. Saa ara na ɛte sɛ adwennwene a ano yɛ den no resɛe wʼadwuma, wo nna, anaa wʼadamfofa ankasa, anaasɛ sɛ abusuabɔ bi ma wote nka sɛ woaketewa, ehu aka wo kɛse, anaa wunni gyidie wɔ wʼankasa nokware ho a. Ɔyaresafoɔ pa betumi aboa wo ahunu deɛ ɛrekanyan ahoɔhare no na ɔde biribi a ɛgyina pintinn akyekyere ase. Kasa ho ayaresa, a cognitive behavioral akwan ka ho, fata yei pɛɛ. Sɛ wokɔ pɛ saa mmoa no a, ɛnyɛ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ sɛ wonim ɔdɔ. Ɛyɛ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ sɛ wode wʼankasa wʼakoma yɛ aniberesɛm.
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