Sɛ woahyɛ ahohia mu anaa woredwene sɛ wobɛpira wo ho a, ɛnyɛ wo nko ara. Wɔ US no, frɛ anaa mena 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7), mena HOME kɔ 741741 (Crisis Text Line), anaa frɛ 911 wɔ amanehunu bere mu.
Afotusɛm ntiantia
- Listen first, hold the advice for now.
- Quietly clear one small task for them.
- Keep one thread of your own life alive.
Ebia woasua adesua a ɛyɛ den sen biara dedaw, a ɛne sɛ ɔdɔ nsiesie no. Wubetumi ayɛ biribiara pɛpɛɛpɛ na wɔda so ara anyan a wɔn ho yɛ duru. Wubetumi aka asɛm a ɛyɛ pɛpɛɛpɛ na woahwɛ sɛ ɛtɔ baabi a hwee nni hɔ. Saa nea wuntumi nyɛ hwee no yɛ ɛyaw bi ankasa, na nnipa dodow no ara a wɔsoa no nnya akwankyerɛ asɛm baako mpo. Wɔbɔ mmɔden ara kwa, na wɔdwen, na komm mu wobisa wɔn ho sɛ ebia wɔrema no asɛe kɛse.
Enti ma yɛmfi nea wɔrebisa wo ankasa no ase. Ɛnyɛ ayaresa. Ɛnyɛ ogye. Adwuma no bɛn baabi a wobɛsɔ kanea wɔ mfɛnsere no ano. Wo ne ade a ɛtim a wobetumi ahu kwan asan akɔ ho, nkae a ɛkae no sɛ ɔnnyɛ ɔnkoɔ wɔ hɔ. Eyi sua sen sɛ wobɛsiesie no, na ɛho hia kɛse koraa.
Sɛnea mmoa ankasa te
Sɛ obi a wodɔ no ho yeraw no a, ɔpɛ a ɛwɔ wo mu ne sɛ wobɛyɛ biribi. Wobɛkyerɛ ɔfa pa no. Woaka sɛ wɔnkɔnantew, wɔnnom aduru bi, wɔnsesa wɔn adwene. Eyinom dodow no ara tɔ baabi sɛ nhyɛso, mpo bere a ɔdɔ ankasa na ɛhyɛ ase no. Adwenemhaw ne ahopopo nyɛ ɔhaw a ɛretwɛn akwankyerɛ a ɛfata. Ɛyɛ tebea a onipa no wɔ mu dedaw, a mpɛn pii no abrɛ no, na nyansa akyerɛkyerɛ a ɛkɔ so daa betumi ate sɛ nneɛma a ɔredi nkogu wɔ ho no nhwɛso.
Nea ɛboa kɛse no yɛ tea sen sɛnea ɛte. Tie a worenyɛ ntɛm nsiesie. Mayo Clinic akwankyerɛ a ɛma nnipa a wɔboa obi a ɔwɔ adwenemhaw mu no ka no pefee: ma wo ho nyɛ krado sɛ wobɛtie, na ko tia ɔpɛ a ɛne sɛ wode afotu bɛma anaa wobebu atɛn. Ɛnsɛ sɛ wote ase pɛpɛɛpɛ. Nea ɛsɛ sɛ woyɛ ara ne sɛ wotena dan no mu.
Nneɛma kakra a ɛtaa du hokafo a ɔreko no nkyɛn ankasa:
- Bisa, na afei ma wommua ampa. "Wo ho te dɛn, ankasa?" tɔ baabi a ɛyɛ soronko sen "Wo ho yɛ?" a wotow gu wʼabati so. Ma asɛmmisa no kwan na nhyɛ kommyɛ no ma ntɛm dodo.
- Gye wɔn di. Sɛ wɔka sɛ anɔpa no te sɛ obi a ɔnam anwea fɔkyee mu a, fa no sɛ ɛyɛ nokware. Wɔrennkyerɛ ase mma nnipa nhwɛ wɔn.
- Sesa nkuranhyɛ kasa no ma ɛnyɛ wo ho a wode wo ho hyɛ hɔ. "Mewɔ ha, na merenkɔ baabiara" yɛ adwuma sen sɛnea "dwen ade pa ho" bɛyɛ da.
- Boa wɔ asetena mu mfiri nketenkete no ho. Aduan a wɔanoa, ntama a wɔahoro, kar a wode kɔ ɔhwɛ. Sɛ biribiara yɛ duru a, nnwuma a ɛyɛ daa bɛyɛ mmepɔw, na sɛ wode komm yi baako fi hɔ a, ɛyɛ ɔdɔ adwuma ankasa.
- Kɔ so to nsa frɛ, brɛoo, a worenkan akontaa. Bisa sɛ ɔpɛ sɛ ɔbɛkɔ nantew. Sɛ ɛyɛ dabi a, ma ɛnyɛ dabi, na bisa bio da foforo.
Hwɛ nea afi saa nhyehyɛe no mu. Wonyɛ wɔn adwene ho dɔkota. Wo nni asɛyɛde sɛ wobɛka akyerɛ wɔn sɛ wonnnyae nea wɔte nka no. Wone onipa a ɔtena hɔ no.
Nsɛmfua a ɛboa, ne nea ɛyɛ ya
Adwene pa kɔ baabi a ɛnyɛ pa wɔ kasa mu bere biara. "Gye wʼani," "ebetumi ayɛ bɔne kɛse," "bɔ mmɔden na wonnwen ho" nyinaa kura nkrasɛm a ahintaw: sɛ nkate no yɛ nea wapaw a ɔreyɛ no fɛ. Daa wɔadi kan ate nka sɛ wɔyɛ adesoa. Kasa a ɛkyerɛ sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wopopo fi mu ara hyɛ nea ɛyɛ tan sen biara a ɔyare no reka akyerɛ wɔn no mu den.
Wunhia krataa a wɔakyerɛw. Nsɛm nokware kakraa bi kata bere dodow no ara so.
Mente sɛnea eyi te no ase pɛpɛɛpɛ, nanso migye wo di, na mepɛ sɛ mete ase.
Wonkyɛn me mu. Yɛn baanu bɛhwɛ eyi ho.
Dɛn na ɛbɛboa ampa seesei ara? Na sɛ wunnim a, ɛno nso ye.
Saa nea etwa to no ho hia. Sɛ wobisa nea wɔhia, sen sɛ wobesi gyinae ama wɔn no, ɛsan de tumi kakra ma obi a ebia ɔte nka sɛ wahwere ne nyinaa no.
Sɛnea wobɛhyɛ wɔn nkuran ma wɔahwehwɛ mmoa a worenpia wɔn mfi sukyerɛmma so
Ɔhaw bi ankasa wɔ ha. Wubetumi ahu sɛ wɔhia mmoa a ɛboro nea wubetumi de ama no so, na bio nso wuntumi ntwe ɔpanyin a wakɔ ne kɔ adwenemhaw aduruyɛ mu. Pia denneennen a wobɛyɛ nhyɛso ho nibea foforo. Nka hwee a wobɛhwɛ no sɛ ɔremem.
Nea wobɛyɛ ne sɛ wobɛbɔ nea wuhu no din wɔ ɔhwɛ mu, na woama anammɔn a edi hɔ no ayɛ ketewa. Sen sɛ "ɛsɛ sɛ wokɔ obi nkyɛn" no, sɔ "Mahu sɛ woayɛ basaa bere tenten bi, na medɔ wo dodo sɛ mɛyɛ sɛnea minhuu hwee. So ɛbɛyɛ wo dɛ sɛ yɛn baanu ne dɔkota bɛkasa?" Abusua dɔkota a ɔdedaa hɔ no yɛ nibea a edi kan a ɛfata koraa. Sɛ wode wo ho bɛma sɛ wobɛtena twɛn dan no mu, anaa wobɛboa ahwehwɛ din na woafrɛ no, betumi ama adwuma a wuntumi nyɛ no ayɛ nea wubetumi ayɛ.
Na ma wʼanidaso nyɛ nokware. APA kyerɛ sɛ nnipa dodow no ara a wɔne adwenemhaw a emu yɛ den mpo te ase no yɛ wɔn ho yiye bere bi akyi, na sɛ wokura anidaso a ɛtim na ɛyɛ nokware mu a, ɛboa nkwagye. Wonkyerɛw wo din sɛ wobɛte nka saa daa. Woreboa wɔn na wɔadu nnipa ne aduruyɛ a ɛsesa nneɛma no nkyɛn.
Wɔama wo kwan sɛ wo nso woyɛ onipa
Eyi ne ɔfa a obiara nkyerɛ ɔboafo no: sɛ wobɛdɔ obi wɔ eyi mu yɛ den ampa, na sɛ woyɛ sɛnea ɛnte saa a, awiei koraa no ebebu wo. Ahwɛfo, sɛ yɛka no kɛse mu a, daa ka sɛ wɔn ahohia boro nnipa a wonsoa obi foforo no so. Wuntumi nhwie nguo mfi kuruwa a hwee nni mu, na wuntumi nyɛ ade a ɛtim sɛ wo nso komm mu woremem wɔ ne nkyɛn a.
Enti fa wo ankasa wo yiyedi sɛ nhyehyɛe no fa, ɛnyɛ ade a wode wo ho hyɛ nea wobenya akyiri no.
- Ma wo ankasa wʼasetena nhama biako anaa abien ntena ase. Adamfo a wo ne no kasa, ade a woyɛ a ɛyɛ wo nko ara dea. Sɛ wiase nyinaa bɛbɔ ahyɛ wɔn yare mu a, ɛmmoa obiara.
- Ma wo ho kwan sɛ wobɛte awerɛhow, abufuw, abooboo mpo a ɛba no nka, a wunsi gyinae sɛ ɛma woyɛ hokafo bɔne. Ɛma woyɛ onipa.
- Hwehwɛ obi a wo ne no bɛkasa a ɛnyɛ wɔn. Adamfo, afotuni, mmoa kuw a wɔn a wɔte ase. Wohia baabi a wode adesoa no besi.
- Hwɛ nkyemu a ɛda mmoa ne ɔyera ntam. Sɛ woagyae nna, woagyae aduan a edi yiye, woagyae wo ho a wuhu a, ɛno nyɛ ɔdɔ. Ɛyɛ kɔkɔbɔ kanea.
Wo ho a wobɛbɔ ho ban nyɛ pɛsɛmenkominya. Ɛno na ɛma wutumi kɔ so ba ɔkyena, ne ne kyena, a ɛno nko ara ne nea ɛbɛboa da.
Bere a ɛboro mo baanu so
Bere a emu yɛ den dodow no ara yɛ nea mo ne mo ho bɔ mu de aboterɛ ne adwumayɛfo mmoa a ɛfata gyina ano. Bere bi hia nea ɛboro saa, ntɛm. Sɛ wo hokafo ka sɛ ɔmpɛ sɛ ɔbɛtena ha, sɛ ɔyɛ adesoa a anka obiara ho bɛtɔ no sɛ ɔnni hɔ a, anaa ofi ase de ne nneɛma ma na ɔka nkrabɛ a, fa no aniberesɛm na mfa nsie sɛ worebɔ ne mpɛ ho ban. Bisa pefee sɛ ɔredwen sɛ obekum ne ho ana. Bisa no nndua adwene no. Ebue ɔpon.
Saa mmere no mu no, ɛnsɛ sɛ woyɛ ɔbenfo. Wɔ Amerika no, wubetumi afrɛ anaa woakyerɛw 988 bere biara, awia anaa anadwo, akodu afotuni a wɔatete no nkyɛn, na wubetumi de adi dwuma ama wo ankasa bere a wusuro ma obi a wodɔ no, ɛnyɛ obi a ɔwɔ ahohia mu no nkutoo. Sɛ asiane bi wɔ hɔ ntɛm ara a, ɛno yɛ prɛko a wofrɛ, na wofa no saa.
Eyinom mu biara nyɛ ɔdɔ a wode wʼani huu no. Ɛyɛ duru na ɛyɛ komm na mfaso nni mu wɔ bere no mu. Nanso sɛ wobɛtena hɔ, woatie, woayi mmepɔw nketenkete no afi hɔ, woakyerɛ mmoa ankasa kwan, na woagyina hɔ bere a woreyɛ no, ɛno yɛ ɔdɔ ankasa bi, na ɛno na ɛtaa de obi kɔ ɔfa baako no.
Nsɛm a wonyae mu
- American Psychological Association, How to cope when a loved one has a serious mental illness
- Mayo Clinic, Depression: Supporting a family member or friend
- American Psychiatric Association, Helping a Loved One Cope with Mental Illness
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, Help Someone Else