Dem close di deal for four o'clock for afternoon and di whole room burst. Person order champagne, another person stand up give speech wey carry her name inside, and she just dey stand for corner dey feel fine well well. No be say her body numb. No be say she disappoint. She just dey fine. Behind di fine, her mind don already dey waka go di next one, di bigger one, di same kind win but with another zero for di end.
Then small worry come enter. Abi dis one no suppose sweet pass dis?
If you google dat question, two answers go come out, and di two no correct for you. Di first one go tell you say di flat feeling prove say di goal empty and say you suppose want small tin. Di second one go tell you say you need bigger goal now now, wey na di same panic wey just wear better cloth. But e get third way to read am, and for person wey don dey win for a while, na almost always di correct one. Steady na wetin arrival dey feel like once you don practice am well.
Why I no dey feel anytin after I hit big goal?
Na because di waiting and di arrival dey run for different system, and your own body dey adapt sharp sharp. Most of di sweetness dey inside di chase, and di same adaptation wey flatten di finish line na di same tin wey make you fit continue dey raise di target from beginning.
Dis tin old and dem don study am well. Brickman, Coates and Janoff-Bulman study lottery winners find say di winners no happy pass ordinary people, and wetin shock pass, na say small small tins no dey sweet dem again after. Later, Diener, Lucas and Scollon adjust di picture for better direction: adaptation dey real but e no dey complete, set point no dey neutral, and e fit shift for some condition. Bring am come your Thursday afternoon, e mean say di flatness na sign say your system well calibrated, no be say di win na lie.
E good make we call di good side by name, because nobody dey do am. Adaptation na why di hard year wey you survive don just become your normal level now. Di same machine wey make dis win feel ordinary na im turn last year impossible target to dis year baseline. You no lose di ability to feel tin. Na di floor you raise.
Di flat feeling mean say I pick wrong goal?
Most times, no, and e get clean way to check am. Wrong goal dey feel like relief say e don finally finish. Correct goal wey you just adapt to dey feel like steady body, with di next tin dey form quietly for back.
Di mistake wey plenty people dey make na to think say di fireworks na di payment. E never be. Di payment na wetin di win actually buy for you, and dat one na list wey you fit read, no be feeling wey you go dey interpret. Take ten minutes write am out. Wetin you fit do now wey you no fit do for January? Whose call dem dey return now? Wetin you fit say no to wey you no fit refuse before? Dat list na di receipt, and e dey almost always sweet pass how di afternoon feel.
E get one more reason why di big wins dey land steady, and na body matter. People wey dey carry pressure well build dat capacity somewhere, and for plenty high output people, na under barbell or for road around di area dem build am, no be inside journal. Di Lancet Psychiatry study wey cover pass one million adults for United States find say people wey dey exercise report far fewer days of bad mental health pass people wey no dey. Di link strong pass around three to five sessions every week. Your body na di equipment wey di next ten years go run on, na why training belong inside talk about ambition, no be only inside talk about health.
How I go take know steady from tired?
Run one test dis month: offer to corner person else through dem own big day. If di idea give you energy, you don arrive. If di idea heavy you well well, you don tire, and tired na different problem wey get different medicine.
Dis na di cleanest test for dis whole write-up because e no need make you interpret your own mood, wey na di tin wey you no too sabi do now. Pick person wey get presentation, interview, first competition, or hard conversation for calendar. Offer to run dem rehearsal, pick dem call di night before, or sit down inside di room. Then notice wetin happen for your chest when dem say yes.
E dey work as test because helping person prepare dey carry your attention comot from your own nervous system for exactly di moment wey focusing on yourself dey cost pass. Na also di cheapest rehearsal wey dey for your own next big day. You go hear yourself dey tell dem di tin wey you yourself need to hear, wey usually na di tin wey you don stop to dey do.
If di answer come back say e heavy you, take am as information, no be failure. To tire after long push na normal, and e dey answer normal tins: sleep, one week wey nothing dey scheduled for seven in di morning, and movement wey no be performance too.
E get second reason to run di test even when you don already know di answer. To corner person through dem big day na di one use of a win wey nobody fit collect from you later. Dem fit renegotiate deal, dem fit reorganize title, but di person wey you steady for seven in di morning before dem first big presentation go remember am for ten years time. No be moral lesson about giving be dis. Na observation about which part of a good year dey actually last.
How I go pick di next direction without adrenaline?
Wait two weeks, then choose am for paper on a normal morning. Target wey you pick inside di forty-eight hours after a win na di win pick am, but target wey you pick on ordinary Tuesday na you pick am.
When you sit down, answer three questions for dis order. Wetin di last win actually buy, from di receipt wey you don already write. Wetin you for do with am if nobody clap? And who else dey inside di next one, by name.
Dat last question no be decoration. Goal wey get person else inside am dey survive di month wey your motivation no survive, na why to coach person through dem year na correct answer to wetin next, no be consolation prize. Bigger dey allowed here, and bigger dey correct plenty times. Di only rule na say bigger must come from steady place, no be from fear say di last win no count.
Direction easy to pick and easy to forget by Thursday, so write di direction down for somewhere wey you fit touch and put date on am.
Steady na di equipment, no be consolation
KEEP CALM founder, Kaʻohele Carlos, dey tell im own story for one particular order, and di order na di whole point. He hustle all im life for wetin he want. He find way to stay calm through am, and training na one of di ways he take carry di pressure of building di career. He reach where he dey go, and he continue after. Calm no be wetin he settle for when di ambition finish. Na di equipment wey make twenty years of ambition possible.
So take dat flat afternoon as good sign. E mean say di system wey carry you reach here dey work, say you don adapt to level wey before dis you no fit reach, and say you dey position to choose di next target with sense instead of just grabbing one. Go bigger if bigger correct. Na just say you go dey do am with your hand steady, wey na di only way anybody dey do dis tin for another ten years.
Sources
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Lottery winners and accident victims: is happiness relative?
- American Psychologist, Beyond the hedonic treadmill: revising the adaptation theory of well-being
- The Lancet Psychiatry, Association between physical exercise and mental health in 1.2 million individuals in the USA between 2011 and 2015: a cross-sectional study