Nkrasɛm bi baa Benada bi firi obi a na ɔnkae no yie nkyɛn, de aseda kɛseɛ a ɛware brɛɛ no wɔ afotuo simma aduonu a ɔde maa no mfeɛ nwɔtwe a atwam mu no ho. Ɔkenkanee mprenu na ɛnyɛ yie ara na ɔkae nkɔmmɔ no. Ɔkae saa afe no yie. Nanso simma aduonu no deɛ, na ɔnkae ho hwee koraa.
Deɛ ɔhunuu wɔ dapɛn no mu akyire yi na ɛyɛ anigye paa. Adwuma a na ɔgyina so de afotuo no maa no, na ɛwɔ hɔ ɛfiri sɛ obi bɔɔ ne din wɔ dan bi mu wɔ 2011 mu, wɔ nhyiamu a wɔamfrɛ no bi mu. Obiara anka ankyerɛ no da. Mfeɛ a ɛdi so no, na ɔyɛ ɔkyerɛkyerɛfoɔ pa ma nnipa kakraa bi, nanso na ɔnyɛɛ obiara deɛ wɔyɛ maa no no bi da.
Saa adeɛ no wɔ din. Wɔfrɛ no gyinabea, na ɛnyɛ afotuo.
Nsonsonoeɛ bɛn na ɛda ɔkyerɛkyerɛfoɔ ne obi a ɔgyina wo akyi ntam?
Ɔkyerɛkyerɛfoɔ ne wo kasa, na obi a ɔgyina w'akyi deɛ, ɔka wo ho asɛm. Ɔkyerɛkyerɛfoɔ ma wo afotuo wɔ dan a mo baanu te mu, na obi a ɔgyina w'akyi bɔ wo din wɔ dan a wonni mu mu, kyerɛ nnipa a wɔbɛtumi de biribi ama wo.
Nnipa pii, wɔankyerɛ wɔn sɛ yeinom yɛ nneyɛeɛ mmienu soronko, enti wɔyɛ deɛ ɛdi kan, wɔte nka sɛ wɔayɛ ayamyɛ, na wogyae. Herminia Ibarra, Nancy Carter ne Christine Silva kaa wɔ Harvard Business Review mu sɛ, nnipa a na wɔnya ɔkyerɛkyerɛ pii no nyɛ wɔn a na wɔnya ɔsoro adwuma pii. Ná afotuo abu so na obi a ɔgyina obi akyi deɛ, na ɔsua. Deɛ ɛmaa nnipa kɔɔ soro ne sɛ, obi kɛseɛ de n'ankasa din pa gyina obi din pɔtee akyi, na mfeɛ nkron akyi no, Harvard Business Review kaa saa nsonsonoeɛ no ara ho asɛm bio.
KEEP CALM hyɛfoɔ, Kaʻohele Carlos, kyerɛkyerɛ saa nneyɛeɛ yi mu wɔ n'ankasa nsɛm mu:
Another secret to my success is giving back. Doing volunteer work. Always looking for opportunities to coach, train, advise, lift up, commend, champion those in my sphere. The positive energy and support I get back in return is 10 fold.
Ɛno yɛ n'ankasa mfeɛ aduonu ho amanneɛbɔ, ɛnyɛ mmara a ɛfa wo deɛ ho, na deɛ mfasoɔ wɔ so ne nhyehyɛeɛ no. Ɔyɛɛ saa berɛ a na ɔgu so reforo, na ɛnyɛ berɛ a ɔduruu soro dada no.
Ɛboɔ no: kasamu baako, ne w'ankasa din pa kakra a wode to obi foforo so. Nsɛm a wobɛka: "Sɛ worehwehwɛ obi ama saa adwuma no a, fa Rosa ka ho. Ɔdii migration no anim nkyekyɛm a ɛtwaam no mu na hwee ansɛe." Mpɛn dodoɔ: pɛnkoro wɔ bosome biara mu, wɔ dan a wɔresi gyinaeɛ mu.
Hwan na ɛsɛ sɛ megyina n'akyi, na mɛyɛ dɛn apaw?
Paw onipa a wobɛtumi aka n'adwuma ho asɛm wɔ kasamu pɔtee baako mu, na ɛnyɛ obi a ɛda adi sɛ obi asoa no dada. Pɔtee yɛ ne nyinaa, ɛfiri sɛ din a wonni nokwasɛm a wode bɛgyina akyi no, wobɛka wɔ berɛ a dan no mu ayɛ den.
Nsɔhwɛ mmiɛnsa. Wo ara w'ani ahunu adwuma no, na ɛnyɛ sɛ wotee, sɛdeɛ ɛbɛyɛ a wo ara w'atemmuo na wode rebɔ. Wɔdi w'akyi anammɔn baako, na ɛnyɛ anum, ɛfiri sɛ dan a wote mu no bɛn wɔn anammɔn a ɛdi hɔ, na ɛnyɛ deɛ ɛtwa toɔ. Na wɔanbisa, na ɛno de wɔn a wɔyɛ adwuma pa dinn na wɔnnim sɛ wɔbisa no ba mu.
Wonhia dibea biara wɔ yei nyinaa mu. Ɔyɔnko a ɔka sɛ "Rosa na ɔdii saa migration no anim" wɔ nhyehyɛeɛ nhyiamu mu no sɛe sika a ɔpanin nso sɛe, na ɛnyɛ tumi. Ɛyɛ sɛ wobɛka asɛm pɔtee wɔ badwam na akyire yi wɔahunu sɛ na ɛyɛ nokorɛ.
Sɛ mekamfo obi wɔ badwam a, asɛm bɛn na menka?
Bɔ adeɛ pɔtee baako a ɔyɛeɛ no din, wɔ nnipa a wɔn adwene wɔ ne ho no anim. Ayeyie a ɛnyɛ pɔtee tu yera, na kasamu a ɛyɛ pɔtee a woka wɔ ne wura anim no yɛ adwuma mu asɛm kɛseɛ a ɛgye wo bɛyɛ sikan dubaako pɛ.
Adam Grant ne Francesca Gino, a wɔtwerɛɛ wɔ Journal of Personality and Social Psychology mu, hunuu sɛ aseda a wɔda no adi ma nnipa pɛ sɛ wɔboa bio kɛseɛ, na deɛ ɛde ba ne sɛ wɔte nka sɛ nnipa bu wɔn, na ɛnyɛ sɛ ɛhyɛ wɔn so. Sɛ obi ka kyerɛ wo sɛ wosom bo a, ɛno na ɛyɛ adwuma no. Ɛno nti na "woayɛ adwuma pa" nyɛ yie, na "ɔkwan a ɔfaa so twerɛɛ ɔfa a ɛtɔ so mmienu no bio no na ɛmaa adetɔfoɔ no de ne nsa hyɛɛ ase" no ka wɔn koma. Yeinom mu baako pɛ na obi foforo bɛtumi aka bio akyire yi.
Ɛboɔ no: sikan dubaako, ne wo ho adwene kakra a anka wode rebɛdwene wo ho. Nsɛm a wobɛka: "Ansa na yɛbɛkɔ so no, mepɛ sɛ meka deɛ Daniel yɛeɛ wɔ ha, ɛfiri sɛ ɛno nti na yɛtumi maa yei fii." Mpɛn dodoɔ: dapɛn biara mu, wɔ nhyiamu a wote mu dada.
Nkitahodie bɛn na ɛsɛ sɛ meyɛ dapɛn yi?
Deɛ wode asie ɛfiri sɛ ɛte sɛ deɛ worema adɔeɛ bi akɔ. Bisa afa biara kokoam ansa, na afei twerɛ kasamu mmiɛnsa a ɛkyerɛ deɛ enti a obiara som bo ma ɔfoforɔ berɛ, na yi wo ho firi nkrasɛm no mu.
Nkitahodie yɛ ade a ne boɔ yɛ den, ɛfiri sɛ wode w'atemmuo rebɔ ma nnipa baanu prɛko, na ɛno nti na ɛsom bo paa ma obi a ɔnya bi. Sɛ wobisa kane a, ɛdane adɔeɛ a asiane wɔ mu no adeɛ a ne boɔ yɛ mmerɛ. Nkitahodie a anka wobɛtumi de asie no taa yɛ adeɛ a ɛsom bo sen biara a wobɛtumi de ama obi wɔ dapɛn mu, na ɛno ne deɛ nnipa pii nnya kwan nyɛ da.
Ɛboɔ no: simma enum ne wo dibea kakra wɔ wɔn baanu nyinaa mu. Nsɛm a wobɛka: "Ɛsɛ sɛ mo baanu hunu mo ho. Priya, Marcus na ɔyɛɛ adeɛ a wokaa ho asɛm Yawoada no. Marcus, Priya ne onipa a mekaa ne ho asɛm no." Mpɛn dodoɔ: baako wɔ bosome biara mu dɔɔso.
Mɛyɛ dɛn akyerɛ deɛ menim a m'ahoɔden renyera?
Kyerɛ ara. Wonni ahoɔden biara a ɛbɛwu sɛ wɔtwerɛ to hɔ, na ɔkyerɛkyerɛ ne ɔkwan a ɛyɛ ntɛm sen biara a wode behunu w'adwuma no fa a wo ara wo de.
Nhwehwɛmufoɔ a wɔtwerɛɛ wɔ Memory and Cognition mu hunuu sɛ, nnipa a wɔsuaa asɛm bi a na wɔhwɛ kwan sɛ wɔbɛkyerɛkyerɛ mu no kaee emu pii, na wɔhyehyɛɛ no yie sen wɔn a na wɔhwɛ kwan sɛ wɔbɛsɔ wɔn ahwɛ. Sɛ wusiesie wo ho sɛ wobɛkyerɛkyerɛ biribi mu a, ɛsesa sɛnea wokura mu. Afaafa a wontumi nka wɔ kasa a emu da hɔ mu no yɛ afaafa a na woreyɛ atosɛm, na osuani baako a ɔtie yie hunu no ntɛm sen afe a wode bɛbɔ mmɔden wo nko. Ɛno ne ɔkwan a ɛnyini: dɔnhwerew a wode ma obi a ɔwɔ w'akyi no, wonyi mfiri w'ankasa adwuma so, ɛyɛ w'ankasa nimdeɛ mu nsraahwɛ a ɔdansefoɔ wɔ dan no mu.
Ɛboɔ no: ahosiesie nnɔnhwerew mmienu, na emu dodoɔ tu w'ankasa adwuma mpɔn. Nsɛm a wobɛka: "Yawoada no mɛkyerɛ nnipa mmiɛnsa sɛnea meyɛ yei. Wopɛ sɛ woka ho?" Mpɛn dodoɔ: abosome mmiɛnsa biara mu, ɛdɔɔso sɛ ɛbɛma woatena nokorɛ mu.
Ɛsɛ sɛ mede sika ma anaa nimdeɛ a wɔtua me ho ka no?
Fa nimdeɛ no ma. Dɔnhwerew baako a wode wo nimdeɛ ankasa yɛ adwuma no som bo sen ɛda koro mmoa a ɛda hɔ kwa ma fekuo ketewa bi, na wonya no mfeɛ pii ansa na woanya sika no.
Yei ne ɔkwan a wɔfa so ma a ɛnsɛ sɛ obi twɛn. Ɔdwumfoɔ a ɔde Memeneda baako yɛ aduane akoradan bi nsɛnkyerɛnne no aka biribi a sika a ɛte saa rentumi nka. Sika yɛ mmerɛ na sika ho hia, na biribiara nsɛe ho sɛ wobɛsi ɔfa bi so dua. Nanso nimdeɛ no ne deɛ wo nko ara na wowɔ, na sɛ wode ma kwa a, ɛno na wode hunu sɛnea wo ho akokwaw ampa, wɔ dan a obiara nsɔ wo nhwɛ mu.
Ɛboɔ no: awiaberɛ baako wɔ abosome mmiɛnsa biara mu, ne ɔhaw kakra a ɛba sɛ woreyɛ adwuma wɔ dan a ɛnyɛ wo dea mu. Nsɛm a wobɛka: "Yei na medi ma mikɔ so. Wopɛ mu nnɔnhwerew mmienu?" Mpɛn dodoɔ: abosome mmiɛnsa biara mu.
Deɛ obiara nnhunu da
Nneyɛeɛ nsia, na deɛ ɛtwa toɔ no ne deɛ ɛbɛka wo ho. Gyina obi a wanbisa akyi, obi a ɔrenhunu da sɛ woyɛ maa no, na ɔntumi ntua wo ka. Din a wode ba anim berɛ a wɔnni dan no mu. Adanseɛ a wɔnte da. Ɔkwan a wode dinn bua ɔhaw bi wɔ akwantempɔn so ansa na aduru wɔn nkyɛn.
Ɛfata sɛ woyɛ wɔ nnyinasoɔ a emu da hɔ so: ɛyɛ adwuma, na nneyɛeɛ no ma woyɛ onipa a nnipa afoforɔ de wo din ba anim. Ɛno nso ne nsia no mu baako pɛ a mmuaeɛ biara nni ho, enti deɛ enti a wobɛyɛ ara ne sɛ wo ara wosii gyinaeɛ sɛ wobɛyɛ onipa a ɔyɛ saa.
Afe baako mu, ɛyɛ din aduonum mmienu, na nnipa pii nkyerɛw emu biara to hɔ. Kyerɛw wo deɛ to hɔ. Kratafa a ɛwɔ da, din, ne nsia no mu deɛ woyɛeɛ, ɛno nko ara ne adanseɛ a wobɛnya da sɛ woyɛ yei koraa, na ɛgye sikan nwɔtwe dapɛn biara mu.
Yeinom mu biara nka sɛ pɛ kakraa bi anaa yɛ adwuma kakraa bi. Ne mfinimfini. Wobɛde mfeɛ du a ɛreba yi apere biribi ho denneennen, na nnipa a wɔda so gyina hɔ awieeɛ no nyɛ wɔn a wɔbɔɔ deɛ wɔwɔ nyinaa ho ban. Wɔyɛ wɔn a wɔbɔ wɔn din wɔ mmeaeɛ a wɔnni hɔ, ɛfiri sɛ wɔde mfeɛ du bɔɔ nnipa afoforɔ din.
Nsɛm a wɔgyee firii mu
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