Obi panyin ayɛ wo adɔe mprenu seesei. Ɔmaa wo mmuae a ɛteɛ wɔ nhyiam bi ase, ɔfaa w'asɛmmisa aniberesɛm bere a na ɛnsɛ sɛ ɔyɛ saa, na woakyerɛw nkrasɛm ama no nnawɔtwe baako ni. Wopopa nea wokyerɛw biara, ɛfiri sɛ nea wokyerɛw biara te sɛ woresrɛ ade kɛse pa ara.
Ɛte sɛ ɔhwehwɛ kɛse ɛfiri sɛ saa na ɛte ampa. Asɛmfua ɔkyerɛkyerɛfo kyerɛ adwuma a wontua ho ka daa, bɔhyɛ a ɛnni awiei ma obi a onnim no yiye, na onipa a ne ho ayɛ hyew hu no sɛ ade a ontumi nnyae. Nkrasɛm no rentumi nkyerɛw ne ho ɛfiri sɛ ade a ɛnteɛ na woresrɛ.
Srɛ ade ketewa a ɛda adi na ɛwɔ awiei mmom: simma dunum wɔ gyinaesi baako a wode wo ho reto so. Afei san bra bɛka nea wode mmuae no yɛe. Nkɔmmɔ mmiɛnsa a ɛte saa dan ɔkyerɛkyerɛfo abusuabɔ ankasa, na ɛho nhia sɛ wobɔ asɛmfua no din koraa.
Mɛyɛ dɛn asrɛ obi sɛ ɔnyɛ me kyerɛkyerɛfo?
Nyɛ saa. Srɛ simma dunum wɔ gyinaesi baako ankasa ho mmom, bɔ gyinaesi no din wɔ nkrasɛm no mu, na ka bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wusi gyinae no.
Abisade sɛ obi nyɛ wo kyerɛkyerɛfo no nni ɔhye, wɔnkyerɛɛ ase, na wontumi nsusuw ho, enti mmuae a asiane nni ho ne sɛ wɔde obu bɛpo. Abisade sɛ wonya simma dunum wɔ sɛ wobɛfa platform dibea no anaa woatena payments so no wɔ ɔhye, ɛhyɛ anuonyam, na ɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wɔka aane. Ɛka ade a onipa no pɛ sɛ ohu paa nso kyerɛ no, na ɛne sɛ wɔde ne bere bedi dwuma wɔ ade a ɛyɛ nokware so.
Nnipa ka aane mpɛn pii sen sɛnea wususuw. Flynn ne Lake nhwehwɛmu, a Greater Good Science Center wɔ Berkeley boaboaa ano no, hui sɛ nnipa bu kwan a wobenya aane wɔ mmoa ho abisade pefee mu no fam kosi mmɔho aduonum. Nea enti ne sɛ afã biara hwɛ ade soronko. Wo de, w'ani wɔ adesoa a wode reto onipa no so no so. Wɔn de, wɔn ani wɔ sɛnea ɛyɛ den sɛ wɔbɛpo obi a wabisa pefee na wafa obu so no.
Enti kwan no ye sen sɛnea nkrasɛm a ɛda wo nkrataa adaka mu no susuw. Na sɛ abisade no sua na ɛda adi pefee sen biara a, ɛyɛ papa sen biara.
Dɛn pɛpɛɛpɛ na mɛkyerɛw wɔ nkrasɛm no mu?
Kasamu anan pɛ: gyinaesi pɔtee no, nea enti a worebisa saa onipa yi, simma dunum abisade no ne bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wonya, ne ɔkwan a ɛyɛ mmerɛw a wɔde bɛpo.
Ɛte sɛ eyi. Meresi gyinae wɔ ɔkwan a wɔfa so yɛ ade titiriw ne akwankyerɛ ho, na ɛsɛ sɛ mema mmuae bosome yi awiei. Woayɛ mmienu no nyinaa, na sɛnea wokaa nsonsonoe no ho asɛm wɔ nhyiam kɛse no ase no tenaa me mu. Mesrɛ, mɛtumi anya simma dunum wɔ nnawɔtwe mmienu a ɛreba yi mu ma mabisa nsɛm mmiɛnsa anaa. Sɛ bere no nyɛ a, ɛnyɛ hwee koraa, na merenni akyi.
Nsɛm mmiɛnsa na ɛma nsonoe ba. Bɔ gyinaesi ankasa no din, ɛfiri sɛ ɔhaw ankasa yɛ anigye na abisade a mu nna hɔ sɛ wɔmma wo adwuma ho afotu de yɛ adesoa. Ka nea enti a ɛyɛ wɔn pɔtee, ɛfiri sɛ nkrasɛm a anka wobetumi de akɔ nnipa aduanan hɔ te sɛ nea ɛkɔɔ nnipa aduanan hɔ ampa. Na ma ɔkwan a wɔde bɛpo, ɛfiri sɛ dabi a ɛyɛ mmerɛw na ɛma aane no bo yɛ mmerɛw.
Afei ba a woasiesie wo ho. Nsɛmmisa mmiɛnsa a woakyerɛw, bra bere ano, na wie simma mmienu ansa. Sɛ wowie ntɛm no yɛ ade ketewa a nnipa kae, na ɛno ne ɔkwan a ɛyɛ mmerɛw sen biara a wobɛfa so ayɛ obi a ɔfata simma dunum foforo.
Sɛ wɔka dabi, anaa wɔammua koraa a, dɛn?
Bu no sɛ na ɛyɛ nhyehyɛe no, ɛnyɛ wo, na gyaa mu fitaa. Mmena hwee asram mmiɛnsa, na afei mena nkyerɛwee baako a ɛka gyinae a wusii ne sɛnea ɛkɔe, a abisade biara nka ho koraa.
Sɛ wɔammua a, mpɛn pii ɛyɛ nkrataa adaka a ayɛ ma wɔ nnawɔtwe bɔne bi mu. Nkrasɛm a ɛnsrɛ hwee na mmom ɛka nea ebae no yɛ soronko ara ma wɔkenkan, na ɛde wo fi obi a ɔpɛ biribi so ba obi a ɔyɛ biribi so. Abusuabɔ pii fi nkrasɛm a ɛto so mmienu no mu.
Sɛ mmuae no yɛ dabi ankasa a, gye no sɛnea ɛte na da no ase pɛnkoro. Nnye ho akyinnye na nkyerɛkyerɛ nea enti a ɛsɛ sɛ ɔsan susuw ho. Woresi din a ɛbɛdi mfe aduonu, na wɔkae onipa a ogye dabi tom fɛfɛɛfɛ no yiye sen onipa a onyaa nhyiam no.
Na trɛw mu. Nnipa a wowie sɛ wɔanya afotu pa no nni ɔkyerɛkyerɛfo baako, wɔwɔ nnipa asia a wobetumi abisa wɔn mu biara asɛm baako. Obi a odi w'anim mfe mmienu no taa boa sen obi a odi w'anim mfe aduonu, ɛfiri sɛ ɔkae nsɛm nketenkete no na ne mmuae da so wɔ hɔ.
Mɛyɛ dɛn anya nkɔmmɔ a ɛto so mmienu?
San bra na ka nea wode afotu no yɛe. Saa ade baako no na ɛdan nhyiam baako abusuabɔ, na ɛkame ayɛ sɛ obiara nyɛ.
Ma ɛnyɛ nnawɔtwe mmienu anaa mmiɛnsa, na afei mena nkyerɛwee anan. Nea wokae ni. Nea meyɛe ni. Nea ebae ni. Meda wo ase. Sɛ woamfa wɔn afotu no anni dwuma a, ka no nso na kyerɛ nea enti, ɛfiri sɛ onipa a odwenee mmuae no ho ne ho yɛ anigye sɛ wɔtu no fo sen onipa a odi so kwa.
Sɛ wosan bɛbɔ amanneɛ no nyɛ obu kɛkɛ. Ɛyɛ adanse a ɛwɔ hɔ nkutoo sɛ wɔn simma dunum no dan biribi, na ɛno ne nea ɛma nhyiam a ɛto so mmienu no yɛ mmerɛw bere a nea edi kan no yɛɛ den no. Afotufo kɔ so tu wɔn a wɔn abrabɔ kɔ so pefee no fo.
Afei fa biribi bra bere a edi hɔ. Wonyɛ panyin, nanso wo nsa nso nyɛ pan. Wunim sɛnea adwuma no te ampa wɔ wo mmerantebere yi, wunim afidi a ɛyɛ adwuma, wuhu adwumakuw no fã bi a wɔn de wontumi nhu, na wubetumi de asɛm a ɛfa wɔn ankasa adwuma ho a ɛpaa wɔn ho no akɔma wɔn. Abusuabɔ a ɛtena hɔ ne nea ɛkɔ akyi ne anim, na sɛ wo dea yɛ saa ntɛm a, ɛgyae sɛnea ɛte sɛ adɔe ntɛm.
Sɛ me ne obi ketewa no a, dɛn na ɛsɛ sɛ mede ma?
Fa ade a woresrɛ no ma. Woyɛ panyim ma obi mprempren, gyinabea biara a wowɔ, na simma dunum a woahwɛ kwan sɛ wubenya no yɛ simma dunum a wubetumi de ama bosome yi.
Bua nkrasɛm a anka wobɛpopa no. Fa obi a odi w'akyi mfe mmienu kɔ kɔfe ase na ma ommisa nsɛm mmiɛnsa. Afei kɔ akyiri bi na ka ne din wɔ dan a onni mu mu, na ɛno ne nea ɛma adwuma kɔ so ankasa, na ɛkame ayɛ sɛ wɔnkyerɛɛ obiara sɛ ɔnyɛ saa. Nkyerɛwee foforo wɔ ha ha a ɛfa saa ade no ho pɛpɛɛpɛ, Becoming the Obvious Choice: sɛ wokasa ma nnipa na ɛnyɛ sɛ wo ne wɔn kasa nko ara.
Nokware nea enti mmienu, na wɔn mu biara nnyɛ akatua ho asɛm. Sɛ wobɛtena ɔpon no fã foforo no yɛ ɔkwan a ɛyɛ ntɛm sen biara a wobɛfa so asua nea ɛma abisade yɛ mmerɛw sɛ wɔka aane, na ɛno ma w'ankasa abisade yɛ papa ntɛm ara. Na nnipa a wowie sɛ wɔwɔ mpanyimfo mmiɛnsa a wɔgyina wɔn akyi no taa yɛ obi akyi gyinafo kan. Ɛyɛ dan koro no ara, su koro no ara ne nkɔmmɔ koro no ara, a ɛkɔ akyi ne anim.
Ɔkyerɛkyerɛ pa yɛ na sen sɛnea ɛsɛ sɛ ɛyɛ. Gallup nhwehwɛmu tenten a ɛfa sukuupɔn awiefo ho no hui sɛ mmɔho dunan pɛ na wɔpenee so denneennen sɛ na wɔwɔ akyerɛkyerɛfo a na wɔdwene wɔn ho, ma wɔn ani gyee adesua ho na wɔhyɛɛ wɔn nkuran sɛ wɔnti wɔn adaeso akyi. Saa ɔhye no nyɛ nnipa a wɔmpɛ. Ɛyɛ asɛmmisa a obiara ammisa wɔn wɔ ɔkwan ketewa a ɛbɛma wɔaka aane so.
Ɔkwan tenten no yɛ nkitahodi a woanhyehyɛ da sɛ wobɛyɛ
Mfe du fi nnɛ no, wobɛnya nnipa kakraa bi a wubetumi afrɛ wɔn, na wɔn mu biara nyɛ nea wokɔfrɛɛ no bae. Wɔbɛyɛ nnipa a wobisaa wɔn asɛmmisa pa baako, wokɔɔ, woyɛɛ ade no, na wosan baa bɛkae, na wɔn mu kakraa bi bɛyɛ nnipa a wo na wodii kan yɛɛ saa maa wɔn.
Ɛno yɛ ɔkwan a ɛyɛ brɛoo sen ɔkyerɛkyerɛ nhyehyɛe a wɔahyehyɛ, na ɛyɛ nea wode wo ho to so sen saa, ɛfiri sɛ hwee wɔ mu nnyina pɛ, krataa anaa nhyehyɛe bi a wɔbɛtwa mu wɔ nsakrae bere mu so. Ɛde simma dunum yɛ adwuma, na saa simma dunum no mu biara wɔ hɔ ma wo nnawɔtwe yi.
Enti mena nkrasɛm a woakɔ so apopa no. Bɔ gyinaesi no din, srɛ dɔnhwerew fa, ma ɛnyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wɔpo, na fa da a wobɛsan abɔ amanneɛ hyɛ wo nhyehyɛe mu ansa na woamena. Afei mena nea ɛto so mmienu no, nea wo na woyɛ onipa a ɔde simma dunum no rema. Ne mmienu nyinaa yɛ nimdeɛ koro no ara, na w'ankasa w'adwuma so bɛyɛ papa ɛfiri sɛ wodii kan yɛɛ ɔmaa fã no ho dwuma.
Nnyinaso
- Greater Good in Action, University of California, Berkeley, Ask for Help at Work
- Gallup, Life in College Matters for Life After College
- Harvard Business Review, Why Men Still Get More Promotions Than Women
- Catalyst, Managing with a sponsorship mindset: Why mentorship isn't enough