Wonim eyi yɛ, na ɛno ne ɔfa a ɛsɛ sɛ wokura mu dapɛn yi. Na ɛyɛ nokware Fiada na ɛyɛ nokware seesei, na nea ɛho hia a worebɛyɛ nyinaa gyina so. Wɔabɔ amanneɛ no, obi foforo anya dibea no, na woyɛ onipa a wowɔ adwuma pa a woayɛ a woresi gyinae sɛ dɛn nti na bosome nsia a edi so no wɔ hɔ.
Biribi a ɛho hia hyɛ bere no ase. Dapɛn a edi dibea gyinae akyi no ne dapɛn a ɛyɛ papa sen biara a wubenya nsɛm wɔ mu. Wo panyin nim nea enti a mmuae no kɔɔ kwan a ɛfaa so no pɔtee, na ɔpɛ sɛ ɔka nokware pɔtee seesei sen bere biara wɔ afe yi mu. Nnipa pii ma saa dapɛn no twam a wombisa hwee, na afei wɔde bosome dubaako susuw ho kwa.
Nsusu ho kwa. Bisa ntokuru no, nya no wɔ nkyerɛwee mu, si da wɔ so, na afei si gyinae wɔ nea woresi ne baabi a woresi ho.
Dɛn na menka nkyerɛ me panyin bere a obi foforo anya dibea no?
Bisa ntokuru no, wɔ nkyerɛwee mu, wɔ dapɛn baako mu. Kasamu baako bue kwan: meda so pɛ dibea no, enti ka kyerɛ me nea na ɛnni hɔ saa bere yi ne nea ɛsɛ sɛ ɛba mu bere a edi so no.
Hyehyɛ no sɛ nkɔmmɔbɔ a ɛwɔ ne ho, na mfa nka nsɛm nhyiam bi awiei ho. Ka no pefee sɛ worenka nkyerɛ wɔn sɛ wɔnsan nhwɛ gyinae no mu, efisɛ saa ehu no na ɛma mpanyimfo ka nsɛm a emu nna hɔ. Afei bisa nneɛma mmiɛnsa na kyerɛw mmuae no. Ntokuru pɔtee bɛn na ɛda me ne onipa a onyaa no ntam. Dɛn na ɛsɛ sɛ wuhu na ama woaka saa asɛm no bere a edi so? Bere bɛn na gyinae ankasa a edi so no bɛba?
Soma nsɛm no mua tiawa akyiri yi, nkyerɛwee abiɛsa anaa anan, na ka kyerɛ wɔn sɛ wɔnsesa biribiara a manhu no yiye. Saa email no ne asɛm no nyinaa. Nkɔmmɔbɔ yera, na bɔhyɛ a obiara ankyerɛw no yera ka ho, nanso nsɛm mua a wo panyin agye ato mu wɔ nkyerɛwee mu no dan gyinapɛn a wɔde besusuw wo bere a edi so. Ɛbɔ wo ho ban nso sɛ panyin no sesa, na ɛno taa si sen dibea nhyehyɛe no ankasa.
Mɛyɛ dɛn anya mmuae ankasa sen nsɛm a emu nna hɔ?
Bisa nneyɛe, ɛnyɛ nsɛmfua a ɛkyerɛ su. Bere biara a wɔde asɛmfua te sɛ gyinabea, ahoɔfɛ, adwumadi anaa ntetee bɛma wo no, bisa bere ko a efi mu bae: dɛn na meyɛe wɔ nhyiam bi mu ɔsram mmiɛnsa yi a ɛmaa wokyerɛwee saa?
Mmuae a emu nna hɔ ntaa nyɛ dɔnkɔ. Ɛyɛ nea ɛba bere a obi a adwuma ahyɛ ne so bisa no asɛm a ɛyɛ den a wɔammɔ no kɔkɔ, na ɔsɔ asɛmfua a ɛbɛn no mu. W'adwuma ne sɛ wobɛma mmuae pɔtee no ayɛ mmerɛw sɛ ɔbɛka sen deɛ ɛtrɛw no, na nsɛmmisa a ɛyɛ tiawa yɛ saa. Dwumadi bɛn na anka ɛbɛsesa w'adwene? Hena bio na na ɔwɔ dan no mu, na dɛn na wɔkaa faa m'adwuma ho?
Ne mmuae ho nnye akyinnye bere a woregyegye mmuae no. Bere a wugyina dwumadi bi akyi no, nkɔmmɔbɔ no gyae sɛ nsɛmmisa na ɛdan apam a wɔrepɛ, na wofi hɔ a wonyaa nsɛm, na mmom nsiesiei. Gyegye kane. Si gyinae akyiri yi, wɔ w'ankasa bere mu.
Sɛ mmuae no kɔ so a emu nna hɔ bere a woabisa ne mu pɔtee mprenu a, ɛno nso yɛ nsɛm. Ɛtaa kyerɛ sɛ na gyinae no nnyina ntokuru a ɛwɔ w'adwuma mu so.
Ɛsɛ sɛ metena hɔ sɔ hwɛ bio, anaasɛ mefi ase hwehwɛ baabi foforo?
Mmuae abien yi nyinaa ye, na sɛ wokyinkyin kwa afe baako a, ɛno nkutoo ne nea enye. Tena hɔ sɛ ntokuru no yɛ nokware, ɛsua na ɛwɔ wo tumi ase, na sɛ wufi dan no mu a nhwehwɛmu da bi wɔ hɔ; fi ase hwehwɛ baabi foforo sɛ mmuae no kɔɔ so a emu nna hɔ bere a woabisa tẽẽ mprenu, sɛ dibea no nni ha koraa, anaa sɛ onipa a osi gyinae no asi wo ho gyinae dedaw.
KEEP CALM hyɛfo, Kaʻohele Carlos, ka n'ankasa adwuma ho asɛm a afa mmienu wɔ mu a ɔmpɛ sɛ ɔtetew mu. Ɔbɔɔ mmɔden ne nkwa nna nyinaa, ohuu akwan a ɔfaa so tenaa asomdwoe mu wɔ mu, na oduruu baabi a na ɔrekɔ. Ahotɔ no ansi mmɔdenbɔ no ananmu da. Ɛyɛ nea ɛmaa mmɔdenbɔ no kɔɔ so mfe aduonu sen bosome dunwɔtwe. Ɛfata sɛ wote eyi dapɛn yi, efisɛ ehu a ɛda wo asɛmmisa ase ne sɛ bosome nsia foforo a wobɛpia no bɛyɛ bosome nsia foforo a ɛbɛsɛe kwa. Bosome nsia a wode bɔ mmɔden botae bi a obi bɔɔ ne din pefee ho nsɛe kwa, ɔdan biara mu a wobɛyɛ.
Krataa bi wɔ nkyerɛwee kuw yi mu a wɔfrɛ no The Hidden Cost of Ambition, na ɛka nokware fa nea ɔpɛ kɛse gye fi onipa mu ho. Nneɛma mmienu no nyinaa yɛ nokware bere koro. Ka no yɛ nokware na wubetumi atua ka no, na nsonsonoe a ɛda sɛ wubetua no adwene mu ne sɛ wubetua no kwa no ntam ne nea krataa yi fa ho dodow no ara.
Dɛn ankasa na ɛsɛ sɛ ɛwɔ bosome nsia a edi so no mu?
Nneɛma mmiɛnsa: ntokuru a wɔabɔ ne din, adwuma baako a ɛso a obiara hu sɛ ɛsen wo dibea a wowɔ mu seesei, ne nkyerɛwee a ɛkyerɛ mmienu nyinaa. Fa nhwehwɛmu da no hyɛ w'adekyerɛ krataa mu da a wopene so ara, efisɛ ntokuru a da nni ho yɛ apɛde kɛkɛ.
Ɔsram a edi kan no yɛ nkrataayɛ sram. Nya ntokuru no, nya da no, paw adwuma baako no, na fi fael bi ase a nkyerɛwee abiɛsa wɔ mu: nea woyɛe, nea ɛsakraeɛ efi so, ne onipa a ohui. Afei fa wo ntetee san hyɛ w'adekyerɛ krataa mu ansa na bosome nsia a edi so no afa mmeae hunu no. Ɛno nyɛ apɔmuden asɛm a wɔde ka ho kwa. Ɛyɛ hyɛfo no ankasa kwan a ɔfaa so soaa adwuma nhyɛso, apɔwmuden dwumadi a emu yɛ den yɛ ahotɔ a woyɛ no wɔ adesoa ase, na ɛtua wo ka wɔ ade koro no ara a saa nhyehyɛe yi gyee fii wo hɔ mu, a ɛyɛ atenka sɛ woredu baabi wɔ bere a wo na wohwɛ so.
Ɔsram a ɛto so mmienu ne baabi a nnipa pii yɛ komm, na ɛyɛ ɔsram a kwan wɔ mu kɛse. Nneɛma mmienu fata saa kwan no mu, na emu biara nnyina gyinae a ɛtiaa wo dedaw no so.
Kyerɛ ade a wutumi yɛ sen biara. Yɛ adwuma no mu nkyerɛkyerɛ, kyerɛw akwankyerɛ krataa a obiara nkyerɛwee, fa onipa foforo a ɔbaa adwuma no mu fa nhyehyɛe a wunim no yiye no mu. Nkyerɛkyerɛ ne ɔkwan a ɛyɛ ntɛm sen biara a wode behu w'ankasa nimdeɛ afa a na woredaadaa wo ho, na ɛma obi a ɔreyɛ ade a ɛsen ne dibea seesei da adi pefee, na ɛno ara ne nea nhwehwɛmu a etwa toɔ no kae sɛ wonhu.
Afei gyina obi a ɔwɔ w'ase baako akyi. Ɛnyɛ sɛ wobɛkyerɛkyerɛ no kɛkɛ, na mmom gyina n'akyi, na nsonsonoe no ne asɛm no nyinaa: ɔkyerɛkyerɛfo ne wo kasa, na obi a ogyina w'akyi bɔ wo din wɔ dan a wonni mu mu. Paw onipa baako a wubetumi aka n'adwuma ho asɛm wɔ kasamu pɔtee baako mu, na ka saa kasamu no wɔ nhyiam a onni mu mu. Wɔnhwɛ kwan sɛ wɔbɛtua wo ka, na ɛho nhia. Ɛyɛ adwuma a ɛka ho, ɛwɔ wo tumi ase, na obiara ntumi nnye mfi wo nsam.
Ɔsram a ɛto so mmiɛnsa ne gyinae no. Si wɔ ha anaa si baabi foforo, na ka kyerɛ obi pefee na ayɛ nokware.
Mɛyɛ dɛn agyina pintinn bere a mmuae no nni me nsam?
Kyekyɛ tebea no mu: nea ɛwɔ wo tumi ase ne nea ɛnni wo tumi ase, pɛnkoro, wɔ nkyerɛwee mu, na fa w'adwene si nea edi kan no nkutoo so. Ka a nhyɛso a wonhwɛ so gye fi adwuma so no, wontua no wɔ dapɛn bɔne no mu da. Wotua no wɔ bosome dubaako a wode san susuw asɛm no ho akyiri yi no mu.
Nneɛma kakra fata sɛ wusi ho gyinae pɛnkoro na woansi ho gyinae da biara. Ka nokware kasamu baako a wode ma onipa a onyaa adwuma no ahoɔden na afei gyae ho kasa, efisɛ wo a wo bo afuw wɔ mukaase no ne nea nnipa kae wɔ nhyiam a edi so no mu. Ma w'adwuma nyɛ gyinapɛn koro no ara wɔ nnawɔtwe nsia a obiara nhwɛ mu, efisɛ saa bere no ne sɔhwɛ ankasa no. Na ma asɛm no nyɛ tiawa bere a wo mfɛfo bisa: mibisaa ntokuru pɔtee no, mereyɛ ho adwuma, mehu pii wɔ osutɔbere mu.
Wɔn a wɔwɔ w'ase nso rehwɛ wo, na sɛnea wugye eyi no ne ade a ɛkyerɛ wɔn ade sen biara a wobehu afe yi nyinaa. Ɛno yɛ din pa a ne bo yɛ mmerɛw sen biara, na wɔde ahotɔ a ɛyɛ daa na esi, ɛnyɛ kasa kɛse.
Bosome nsia a edi so no yɛ wo dea ɔkwan biara so
Biribiara a ɛwɔ ha nka nkyerɛ wo sɛ pɛ dibea no kakra. Sɛ wopɛ no yɛ afiri no, na ɛsɛ sɛ woma ɛkɔ so hyew. Nea nhyehyɛe a etwa toɔ no ka kyerɛɛ wo ankasa sua sen sɛnea ɛtee anɔpa a ɛbaa no: biribi pɔtee na na enni hɔ, anaa obi pɔtee antumi anka w'adwuma ho asɛm, na ɛnonom mmienu nyinaa yɛ ɔhaw a wobetumi asiesie, ɛnyɛ atemmu.
Enti kɔ na kɔfa. Bisa asɛmmisa tẽẽ no dapɛn yi bere a mmuae no bo da so yɛ mmerɛw, kyerɛw nea wote, paw adwuma a ɛka asɛm no ma wo, kyerɛ obi ade, bɔ obi din wɔ dan mu, na fa da hyɛ w'adekyerɛ krataa a wuhu no fi baabi a wote mu. Afei kɔ so pia sɛnea na worepia dedaw, a woayi ehu ka no afi so. Wɔnsi adwuma nkwa ho gyinae wɔ nhyehyɛe baako mu. Nea osi ho gyinae ne obi a ɔda so resi ade, komm na ɔwɔ atirimpɔw, nhyehyɛe anan akyi.
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