Mfaso bi aba, anaa sika bi asan aba wo nsam, anaa akatua a ɛdi kan a ɛso koraa sen deɛ ɛtwaam no. Woyɛɛ adwuma nyaa, na wowɔ ho kwan sɛ w'ani gye ho. Nanso wowɔ bɛyɛ nnawɔtwe baako pɛ ansa na ayera akɔ nea wontumi mmɔ ne din akyiri, na adwene korɔ a wowɔ seesei ne sɛ wobɛtɔ biribi a ɛsen deɛ wowɔ dedaw no.
Saa nsakrae no ne adetɔ a ɛnyɛ koraa wɔ nhwɛso no nyinaa mu, na wo ara w'asetena akyerɛ wo. Anigye a wonyaa no wɔ deɛ etwaam no mu dii nnawɔtwe kakra, na afei ade foforo no bɛyɛɛ ade a ɛyɛ daa.
Sika tɔ anigye a ɛtena hɔ ampa, wɔ akwan kakraa bi so. Deɛ ɛkyɛ sen ne nyinaa ne sika a wode sɛe obi foforo so: aduane a wotua ho ka, sukuu a wotua, ka a woyi fi w'adamfo pon so. Eyi yɛ asɛm a ɛfa deɛ wotɔ a wobɛte wɔ wo mu afe akyi ho, ɛnyɛ abrabɔ pa ho asɛm.
Adɛn nti na ade a metɔ maa me ho no anigye no yera ntɛm saa?
Efiri sɛ wo ho tɔ wo wɔ ho ntɛm na ɛyɛ koraa, na saa na w'adwene yɛ ade biara a ɛda hɔ a ɛnsakra. Ade a wowɔ no dan akyi ade wɔ nnawɔtwe kakra mu, na ɛno nti na ade a wode sesa deɛ wowɔ dedaw no yɛ adetɔ a ne nkwa yɛ tia sen ne nyinaa.
Wubetumi asɔ eyi ahwɛ wo ho so, na ɛnhia sɛ wohwehwɛ nhwehwɛmu bi. Twerɛ nneɛma anum a etwa to a wotɔe a ɛka sika kɛse wɔ w'ani so. Hyɛ nea wugu so te wɔ wo mu no agyirae. Mpɛn pii deɛ ɛka no yɛ nea ɛsakraa biribi wɔ w'asetena nhyehyɛe mu, na mpɛn pii nso deɛ ayera no yɛ nea ɛde ade foforo a ɛyɛ adwuma bɛsii ade a na ɛyɛ adwuma dedaw ananmu.
Eyi nkyerɛ sɛ gyae adetɔ ma wo ho, ɛfiri sɛ ɛno bɛyɛ asetena ketewa, na saa asɛm yi nyɛ deɛ ɛfa hia a wobɛpɛ nneɛma kakraa bi ho. Nea ɛkyerɛ ne sɛ hu deɛ worenya. Nsakrae tɔ nnawɔtwe pa kakra, enti bɔ ne bo nokware mu sɛ nnawɔtwe pa kakra, na tɔ bi sɛ nnawɔtwe no som bo ma wo.
Dodow ahe na memfa mma, na bere bɛn na mesi gyinae?
Si kyɛfa no gyinae ansa na sika no aba, ɛnyɛ akyiri yi. Sɛ wusi gyinae dedaw a, ɛyɛ gyinaesi; sɛ wutwɛn ma sika no ba ansa a, ɛyɛ atenka, na ɛno nti na obiara a ɔtwɛn sɛ ɔbɛhwɛ nea aka no hu sɛ hwee nka.
Saa asɛm yi renka nea ɛsɛ sɛ wo kyɛfa no yɛ nkyerɛ wo. Ɔha nkyɛmu pɔtee biara nni hɔ a ɛteɛ, ɛho nhia sɛ wudu baabi ansa, na obiara a ɔbɛbɔ dodow bi ama w'asetena no rekyerɛ kwa. Nea ɛho hia ne sɛ dodow no bɛba hɔ ansa na sika no aba, ɛfiri sɛ kyɛfa a wobɔɔ ne din dedaw no tumi tra bosome a wo koma mpɛ mu, na adwene pa a wode wɔ wo tirim ntumi ntra mu.
Nhyehyɛe no yɛ ade a ɛnyɛ dɛ, na ɛno ara ne nea ɛho hia. Bɔ kyɛfa din. Yi baabi a ɛbɛkɔ. Sɛ ɛyɛ sika a, ma ɛnkɔ ne kwan so da a woahyɛ so, sɛnea ɛbɛyɛ a ɛnhwehwɛ gyinaesi bio. Sɛ ɛnyɛ sika a, na mpɛn pii ɛrenyɛ sika, fa to krataa koro no ara so na fa da koro no ara ma no.
Adwuma a saa fa yi kyerɛ ne sɛ si gyinae pɛnkoro, dedaw, sɛnea ɛbɛyɛ a bosome a emu yɛ den rentumi nnye nkyerɛkyerɛmu foforo, na ɔdɔ a wode ma ne baabi a eye sen biara a wobɛtumi asua saa adwuma no, ɛfiri sɛ biribiara a ɛwɔ akyi nhyɛ wo.
Deɛ aka no, dɛn na mentɔ mma me ho?
Tɔ bere san kan. Wɔ nneɛma a wubetumi atɔ ama wo ho nyinaa mu no, ɛno nkoara na ɛsan de nnɔnhwerew ba, na nnɔnhwerew ne nea wode kyekyere nea worekyekyere no ankasa.
Nhwehwɛmu a wɔtintimii wɔ Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences mu a ɛfa bere tɔ ho no hui sɛ, sɛ wode sika yi nnwuma a wompɛ fi wo so a, na w'ani gye w'asetena ho kɛse, na wɔ nhwehwɛmu bi a wɔyɛɛ no abrabɔ mu no, nkurɔfo kaa sɛ wɔn ani gyei kɛse wɔ adetɔ a ɛkora bere so so sen ade a wɔde nsa sɔ mu. Wɔ abrabɔ mu no, ɛno ne dan mu hohoro, akwantu a wutu kɔ adwuma, ne ade a woyɛ no bɔne daa Kwasiada awia. Na nsakrae bi wɔ hɔ a ɛsɛ sɛ wobɔ ne din: nnɔnhwerew a wotɔ san na wode di dwuma wɔ w'ankasa ahoɔden so, wɔ ntetee so, wɔ nna so, wɔ nimdeɛ bi so, tua ka wɔ adesoa dodow a wubetumi asoa afe a edi w'anim mu, ɛnyɛ sɛnea nnawɔtwe kakra a edi w'anim bɛte.
Afei akwan mmiɛnsa a ɛgyina pintinn. Nsɛnneɛ a wo ne nnipa a wo ne wɔn te yiye yɛ, na ɛno kɔ so tua ka ɛfiri sɛ wokɔ so ka ho asɛm. Anigye nketewa a ɛba mpɛn pii sen anigye kɛse a ɛba pɛnkoro, ɛfiri sɛ mpɛn a ɛba dodow di nkonim wɔ kɛse so bere a wo ne wo ho a ɛtɔ wo ntɛm redi asi. Ne haw ketewa bi a ɛba daa a woyi fi hɔ, na ɛno ne adetɔ a wɔmmu no yiye sen ne nyinaa, ɛfiri sɛ ɛyi tow ketewa bi a na wutua no dapɛn biara fi wo so.
Sɛ minni sika a mede bɛma a, dɛn na metumi de ama?
Fa deɛ wunim yɛ ankasa ma, na fa ma onipa pɔtee bi. Ayamye a ɛsom bo sen ne nyinaa wɔ adwuma mu asetena mu no, sika biara nka ho gye akokoduru nko ara. Ɛno ma ɛda hɔ ma wo anadwo yi, sɛ mfaso no yɛ dodow biara.
Yɛn hyɛasefo ka n'ankasa deɛ no pefee. Ɔka sɛ ne nkonimdi ho ahintasɛm foforo ne sɛ ɔsan de maa afoforo, sɛ na ɔhwehwɛ akwan bere biara sɛ ɔbɛkyerɛkyerɛ, atetew, atu fo, apagyaw, ayi ayɛ na wagyina nnipa a wɔatwa ne ho ahyia no akyi, na ahoɔden ne mmoa a ɛsan bae no dɔɔso mmɔho du. Ɛno yɛ n'ankasa mfe aduonu ho amanneɛbɔ, ɛnyɛ mmara a ɛfa sɛnea wiase tua ka ho, na ɔyɛɛ saa wɔ ne kwan no nyinaa so, ɛnyɛ bere a ɔduruu soro no, na ɛno ne fa a obiara mpo nyɛ.
Akwan anum, ne nyinaa nka hwee, na wubetumi ayɛ ne nyinaa dapɛn yi. Fa onipa a anka wubetumi de asie no kyerɛ obi. Kyerɛkyerɛ nea wunim, kasa denden, kyerɛ obi a onnim, na ɛno nso ne kwan a ɛyɛ ntɛm sen biara a wobɛfa so ate ase yiye. Fa w'akokwaw a wonya so sika no som ɛnyɛ wo nnɔnhwerew nko ara, ɛfiri sɛ awia baako a wode nea wunim yɛ som no som bo sen dapɛn baako a wode mmoa kwa yɛ adwuma. Ka wo ho akatua ankasa kyerɛ obi a ɔda w'ase wɔ adwuma no mu, na ɛno yɛ kasasin kakraa bi a ebetumi asakra nea wotua onipa foforo. Na gyina obi akyi a wammisa, ɔrenhu da, na ontumi ntua wo ka.
Hena na ɛsɛ sɛ megyina n'akyi, na asɛm bɛn na meka?
Gyina obi akyi denam ne din bɔ so, ne ade pɔtee a ɔyɛe, wɔ dan a ɔnni mu mu. Ɔfotufo ma afotuo wɔ kɔfe dan mu, na ɔgyinabea kasa wɔ dan a wosisi gyinae wɔ mu, na wɔnkaa nsonsonoe no nkyerɛɛ nnipa pii da.
Nsonsonoe no nyɛ nsɛmfua ho pɛ. Harvard Business Review krataa a ɛfa deɛ enti a mmarima nya nkɔso wɔ adwuma mu sen mmaa no kaa nsonsonoe no pefee: nnwumakuw de wɔn ahoɔden nyinaa kyerɛkyerɛ wɔn adwumayɛfo a wɔyɛ papa, nanso saa dwumadie no nyinaa mma wɔn nkɔso, na ɛno na ɛmaa ɔbaa baako a ɔwɔ mu kae sɛ wɔakyerɛkyerɛ no akyerɛkyerɛ no akum no. Wosisi akatua ne akwannya ho gyinae wɔ dan no mu. Wɔde afotuo ma wɔ kɔfe dan mu. Sɛ woyɛ nea etwa to no nko ara a, na woreyɛ ayamye, na ɛnka onipa no hwee na ɛntɔ hwee mma no nso.
Ɛkwan a obiara hu no ne ayeyi, na nea wobɛka pɔtee no ne adwuma no nyinaa. Ayeyi a mu nna hɔ yɛ dede kwa. Bɔ adeyɛ no din, bɔ din wɔ nnipa a wɔn adwene fa wɔn ho ho hia no anim, na yɛ no wɔ dapɛn baako mu bere a obiara da so kae. Gallup nhwehwɛmu a ɛfa ayeyi ho no hui sɛ ayeyi a ɛtena adwene mu sen biara no fi onipa no panyin anaa mpanyimfo a wɔwɔ soro hɔ, ɛyɛ nokware na ɛfa onipa no ankasa ho, na ɛtena yiye bere a ɛba mpɛn pii na ɛba ntɛm sen sɛ wɔbɛkora so. Ɛno kyerɛ sɛ kasasin a woahyɛ da sɛ wobɛka wɔ nhyiamu a edi hɔ no mu no som bo sen krataa fɛfɛ a wobɛkyerɛw no da bi.
Deɛ eyi yɛ wo sika dodow a ɛwɔ wo fon so
Hwɛ ɔfa a ɛfa sika ho ankasa, ɛnyɛ nea ɛyɛ dɛ nko ara. Onipa a wasi gyinae sɛ kyɛfa bi kɔ obi foforo hɔ no asakra nea sika no dodow kyerɛ bere a obue hwɛ.
Sika a woapaw sɛ wode bɛkɔ baabi wɔ adwuma. Ɛyɛ ade a wɔde ayɛ biribi, na dodow a ɛwɔ adwuma yɛ mmerɛw sɛ wobɛhwɛ Benada anadwo sen dodow a ɛyɛ atemmu a ɛfa sɛnea woreyɛ ho. Ɛno nyɛ atenka, ɛyɛ nsakrae wɔ ɔkwan mu: woasi ɔfa a ɛwɔ hɔ ma ho gyinae dedaw, enti sɛ wubue fon no a, na worehwɛ nhyehyɛe bi mu, ɛnyɛ sɛ woregye atemmu.
Nnipa a wobetumi abue wɔn fon a wɔn ho mpopo no di nkitahodi yiye, wɔtwɛn kyɛ, na wonsisi gyinae a ɛka kɛse ntɛm ntɛm, na ɛyi yɛ akwan a ɛnyɛ den a wɔfa so nya saa gyinapɛn no bi.
Enti fa dapɛn a wowɔ no yɛ adwuma. Bɔ kyɛfa no din ansa na sika no atu. Tɔ nnɔnhwerew bi san. Fa onipa baako kyerɛ obi na bɔ onipa baako din denden wɔ dan a ɔnni mu mu. Afei kɔ na kɔnya pii, ɛfiri sɛ eyinom mu biara nkyerɛ sɛ tena ase ketewa. Ɛyɛ ɔkwan a ɛso asetena kɛse no fa so tena ase a ɛsom bo.
Nsɛm a wɔfaa mu
- Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PubMed Central), Buying time promotes happiness
- Harvard Business Review, Why Men Still Get More Promotions Than Women
- Gallup, The Importance of Employee Recognition: Low Cost, High Impact