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Ukuzivocavoca Lapho Ungakhuthaziwe

Ukulinda ukuzizwa ukhuthaziwe yindlela evame kakhulu abantu abayeka ngayo ukunyakaza. Nansi indlela yokuqhubeka nokuvela ezinsukwini ezijwayelekile, ezikhathele, zokungakhathaleli, lapho ugqozi lungezi futhi kufanele uqale ngaphandle kwalo.

Owesifazane ogqoke ihembe elingenamikhono elibomvu le-satin

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Amathiphu asheshayo

  • Zibophezele kuphela ekugqokeni izicathulo zakho nasekuqaleni.
  • Namathisela ukunyakaza emkhubeni onawo kakade.
  • Ungalokothi weqe izinsuku ezimbili zilandelana.

Ugqozi luyaqamba amanga, futhi luqamba amanga cishe kuwo wonke umuntu. Luvela lukhanya luphinde lube nomsindo ekuqaleni, lapho uthenga izicathulo ulungise nekhalenda, bese luhamba ngokuthula cishe ngesonto lesithathu. Cishe uhhafu wabantu abaqala uhlelo lokuzivocavoca sebehambile phakathi nezinyanga eziyisithupha, futhi ugqozi oluncipha luvame ukuba yisizathu. Uma lokho kuke kwaba nguwe, ngaphezu kwakanye, awubuthakathaka. Ujwayelekile.

Abantu abaqhubeka nokunyakaza unyaka nonyaka akubona labo abanamandla engqondo angapheli. Bavele bayeka ukuthembela emandleni engqondo. Bakhe izinhlelo ezimbalwa ezincane ukuze ezinsukwini abangazizwa lutho ngazo, banyakaze noma kunjalo, cishe ngephutha. Yilokho ikhono lonke. Asilwakhe.

Yeka ukulinda ukuzizwa uzimisele

Nansi indlela yokucabanga kabusha eshintsha konke: ugqozi luvame ukufika ngemva kokuqala, hhayi ngaphambili.

Cabanga ngesikhathi sokugcina wesaba ukuzivocavoca, kodwa waziphoqa waphuma, wazizwa kahle emva kwemizuzu emihlanu. Lokho akulona ithuba lenhlanhla. Lokho kuwuhlelo olujwayelekile lwezinto. Ingxenye enzima cishe njalo yimizuzu embalwa yokuqala, ukubopha izicathulo, ukuphuma emnyango, umjikelezo wokuqala. Uma umzimba wakho usunyakaza, ukumelana kuvame ukuncibilika. Ngakho umgomo akukona ukuzizwa ukhuthaziwe. Umgomo ukudlula kuleyo mizuzu embalwa yokuqala ngokuyenza ibe lula futhi izenzakalele ngangokunokwenzeka.

Okusho ukuthi umbuzo awusabi "ngithola kanjani ugqozi?" kodwa uba "ngehlisa kanjani izinga ukuze ngiqale?"

Yenza ukuqala kube lula ngendlela ehlekisayo

Lapho ugqozi luhambile, ukunxusa yisitha sakho. Umgomo omkhulu owuyeqayo awenzi lutho. Umgomo omncane owenzayo ngempela wakha umkhuba. Ngakho wunciphise uze ube cishe uhlekisa.

  • Esikhundleni seseshini lejimu lehora elilodwa, zibophezele ekugqokeni izingubo zakho zokuzivocavoca uhambe imizuzu eyishumi. Ungenza okwengeziwe njalo uma usunyakaza. Ngokuvamile uzokwenza.
  • Zitshele ukuthi kufanele wenze kuphela ukushisa umzimba. Imvume yokuma emva kwalokho yilokho okwenza uqale.
  • Sebenzisa inombolo encane kangangokuthi awukwazi ukuphikisana nayo. Ama-squat amahlanu. Ukudansa okulingana nengoma eyodwa. Izitebhisi zezigaba ezimbili.

Izikhungo zezempilo ziyavuma ukuthi okuthile kunqoba ukungabikho lutho ngomkhawulo omkhulu, nokuthi ungahlukanisa umsebenzi ube yizinqubuko ezifushane usuku lonke esikhundleni sengxenye eyodwa enkulu. Imizuzu eyishumi noma eyishumi nanhlanu iyabalwa. Amaseshini ambalwa amancane abuthelelana afinyelele isamba esifanayo neseshini elilodwa elide. Lokho akuwona umklomelo wokududuza. Kuyindlela yangempela, esekelwe ubufakazi, iningi labantu abanamathelayo elinyakaza ngayo.

Ukuzivocavoca ozokwenza ngempela kunqoba okuphelele ozokweqa. Ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Yakha izikhumbuzo, hhayi ukuziqinisa

Imikhuba iqhutshwa yizikhuthazi. Awunqumi ukuxubha amazinyo akho njalo ebusuku, ukubona isinki kukwenzela lokho. Ukuzivocavoca kungasebenza ngendlela efanayo uma usukunamathisela entweni oseyenza kakade.

Hlela imvelo yakho ukuze ukunyakaza kube yindlela enokumelana okuncane:

  1. Beka isikhumbuzo. Beka izicathulo zakho zokugijima eduze komnyango. Beka phansi imethi yeyoga ngobusuku bangaphambili. Gcina ipheya lezisindo zesandla eduze kwedeski lakho. Into ebonakalayo iyisikhumbuzo ongeke ukwazi ukuyedlula ngokuskrola.
  2. Yibeke phezu komkhuba okhona. Hamba ngokushesha emva kwekhofi lakho lasekuseni. Nweba umzimba ngesikhathi iketela libila. Yenza umsebenzi wakho wamandla ngaphambi kokugeza kwakho kwakusihlwa. Ukunamathisela umkhuba omusha komdala kuboleka ukuthembeka komdala.
  3. Wuhlele njenge-aphoyintimenti. Bekela eceleni isikhathi esithile usiphathe njengoba ungaphatha umhlangano ongeke uwususe. Izinhloso ezingacacile ezinjenge "ngizozivocavoca kamuva" cishe njalo ziyahlulwa yinoma yini enye ekulethwa kamuva.

Akukho kulokhu okudinga ukuthi uzwe ulutho. Yiyo iphuzu. Uhlela ukukhetha ukuze inguqulo yakho engenagqozi igcine isanyakaza.

Thola inguqulo ongayizondi

Ingxenye yesizathu sokuthi ugqozi lufe ukuthi abantu bagxishelela ekuzivocavoceni abangakuthandi ngokuthula. Ucwaningo lucacile ukuthi sinamathela emsebenzini esiwuthokozelayo bese siyekela lowo esingawuthandi. Uma wesaba iseshini ngalinye, inkinga ingase ingabi ukuziqinisa kwakho. Ingase ibe umsebenzi ngokwawo.

  • Uma amajimu ekwenza ukhathazeke, hamba, khwela izintaba, lima ingadi, noma ulandele ividiyo ekhaya.
  • Uma ukuphindaphinda kukudinisa, zama umdlalo, ikilasi lokudansa, noma umdlalo nabangani.
  • Uma uthanda abantu, zivocavoce nabantu. Uma uwuhlobo oluthanda ukuba lodwa, vikela isikhathi sakho sokuba wedwa uvumele ukunyakaza kube kuthula.

Okuthakazelisayo, ubuntu bethu bubonakala busikhomba kokusinamathelayo. Abantu abakhululekile bavame ukuchuma ezimeni zamaqembu, kanti abantu abavame ukukhathazeka bavame ukwenza kangcono ngokuqubuka okufushane komsebenzi kanye nobumfihlo obuncane. Ayikho indlela eyodwa elungile yokunyakaza. Kukhona kuphela indlela ozobuyela kuyo.

Sebenzisa abanye abantu, futhi wehlise izindleko zosuku olubi

Ezinye izinto ezimbili zenza umehluko ngaphezu kokuba ugqozi lungake lwenze.

Okokuqala, hamba nomunye umuntu. Umngane wokuhamba naye, umngane okuthumela imiyalezo, ikilasi elinobuso obujwayelekile, konke lokho kwengeza ukuziphendulela okumnene. Ucwaningo ngabantu abadala luthole ukuthi labo ababevele bexoxa ngezinhlelo zabo zokuzivocavoca nezontanga zabo banamathela ekunyakazeni kangcono kunalabo abathembela ekuzikhuthazeni kuphela. Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi uvelele umuntu kunento engabambekiyo.

Okwesibili, hlelela ukuphuthelwa kusenesikhathi, ngoba kuzoba khona ukuphuthelwa. Zama ukungalokothi weqe izinsuku ezimbili zilandelana. Usuku olulodwa oluphuthelwe yimpilo. Ezimbili zilandelana yindlela umkhuba ophela ngayo ngokuthula. Uma weqa ukuzivocavoca, okulandelayo akusona isijeziso noma iseshini lecala, kumane kuwukuphinda okulandelayo. Akukho ukubamba, akukho ukuphindaphinda, akukho ndaba yokuthi uphinde wahluleka kanjani. Weqe okukodwa. Usubuyile. Lobo bumnene yibo obugcina yonke into iphila iminyaka.

Lapho ukungabi nagqozi kuyinto engaphezulu

Ngezinye izikhathi ukungabi nagqozi ngokuphelele, okuhlala isikhathi eside, kokwenza noma yini, hhayi nje ukuzivocavoca, kungaphezu kwesikhathi esijwayelekile. Uma ulahlekelwe intshisekelo ezintweni owawuzithokozela, uzizwa ukhathele noma ngabe uphumula kanjani, noma ubulokhu uzizwa uphansi noma ungenathemba amasonto amabili noma ngaphezulu, lokho kufanele ukuxoxe nodokotela. Ukungabi nagqozi kungaba uphawu lokucindezeleka engqondweni noma ezinye izinkinga zempilo, futhi lokho kufanele ukwesekwa kwangempela, hhayi inkulumo yokukhuthaza. Futhi uma unesimo sempilo noma ubulokhu ungasebenzi isikhathi eside, ukuhlola ngokushesha nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuqala kukuvumela ukuthi wakhe umkhuba ngokuphepha.

Kodwa ezinsukwini ezijwayelekile zokungasebenzi, lezo lapho umane ukhathele futhi ungakholiseki, awudingi ukuthola ugqozi. Udinga ukwenza isinyathelo sokuqala sibe sincane kangangokuthi ukusithola akunandaba. Gqoka izicathulo. Hamba uye ekhoneni. Vumela amandla okunyakaza akuthathe kusukela lapho.

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