Amathiphu asheshayo
- Nquma isinyathelo sakho sokuqala, icebo lesibili, nomugqa wokugcina kusenesikhathi.
- Linganisela usuku ngendlela olwenze ngayo, hhayi ngomphumela.
- Susa noma yiziphi izinqumo ezintsha emahoreni angamashumi amabili nane okugcina.
Abanye abantu basebenza kangcono ngosuku lwangempela kunalapho besazilolonga. Sewubabonile: umuntu osebenza naye osethulo sakhe sithinta kakhulu ekamelweni kunalapho sihlolwa, umuntu ofuna umsebenzi ocabanga ngokushesha kakhulu emzuliswaneni wokugcina kunalapho ehlolwa ngocingo, umdlali obengumdlali ojwayelekile sonke isizini kodwa aphenduke aphume nesibindi esikhulu emdlalweni wokugcina. Kulula ukucabanga ukuthi lokho kuwuhlobo lwabo lokuzalwa, kungathi banikwa uhlobo olwehlukile lwezinzwa uma bezalwa.
Akunjalo. Uma ubalinganisela, ngokuvamile bathukuthele njengabanye abantu bonke abasesakhiweni. Okubahlukanisayo akusona isibalo se-adrenaline abasithwele. Yisibalo semibuzo engakaphenduleki abayithwele kanye nayo, futhi imibuzo engakaphenduleki yiyo into ingcindezi ecindezela kakhulu.
Lezi yizindaba ezinhle, ngoba inani lemibuzo engakaphenduleki liwuhlobo lwesinqumo ongasithatha ezinsukwini ezimbili ngaphambili, ekamelweni elithule, ngenkathi ingqondo yakho iphelele futhi ikhona.
Kungani ngisebenza kabi lapho kubaluleke ngempela?
Ngoba ingcindezi ayihlaseli ikhono lakho ngokuqondile, ihlasela amandla asele owawuwasebenzisa ukwenza izinqumo, futhi ngosuku olubaluleke kakhulu, uzitshiyele izinketho eziningi kakhulu kunokuvamile. Yonke isinqumo esingakenziwa, kusukela endleleni ozoqala ngayo kuya kokuzokwenzeka uma isibonelo sihluleka, siyaphushelwa esikhathini lapho ukunaka kwakho kuncane, inqondo yakho yokusebenza incane, futhi iwashi lisagijima.
Ungakubona lokhu ocwaningweni oluphathelene nokuhluleka ngenxa yengcindezi. Kolunye ucwaningo, abantu abanovalo olukhulu ngokuhlolwa banikwa umsebenzi wezibalo onzima ngaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu, futhi ababambe iqhaza ababenamandla amakhulu okusebenza kwengqondo yibo abehlulwa kakhulu, ngenxa yokuthi yibo ababenokuningi kakhulu abangalahlekelwa yikho uma le nqondo igcwele. Lapho kusetshenziswa umsebenzi omfushane wokubhala imizwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukukhulula ingxenye yaleyo mthwalo, ukwehla lokho okwakwenzeka ngaphansi kwengcindezi kwanyamalala. Amandla okusebenza kwengqondo awakaze abe yinkinga. Into ayesetshenziselwa yona yiyona eyayiyinkinga.
Ngakho-ke umbuzo osizayo akusona "ngingazizwa kanjani ngingenavalo kangako." Ngumbuzo othi "yini engisayinqumayo ngesikhathi ngingena." Zonke izinto ozingaphendula ngobusuku obandulela usuku, angamandla abuyiselwa emsebenzini.
Yini kanye okufanele ngiyinqume ngaphambili?
Izinto ezintathu, ngokubhaliwe: isiqalo sakho, icebo lakho lesibili, kanye nesiphetho sakho. Isiqalo umusho wakho wokuqala igama negama, icebo lesibili yilokho okwenzayo uma into obuyethembele kuyo ingasebenzi, kanti isiphetho ngumugqa wokugcina okuwushoyo ngaphambi kokuba uyeke ukukhuluma.
Lezi zinto ezintathu zisibekela cishe konke okungahlangana kahle. Isiqalo esiyingozi senza ikamelo linqume ngawe ngaphambi kokuba usho noma yini enomqondo. Icebo lesibili elingekho liphendula isilayidi esonakele noma umbuzo onenzondo abe ukuzenzela ngesikhathi esibi kakhulu. Nesiphetho esingekho yiso isizathu sokuthi abantu abakwazi kahle bagcine ngokuthi "yebo, kunjalo," okucisha imizuzu engamashumi amabili emihle ngamagama amane.
Kubhale kwenye indawo engabonakala, hhayi ekhanda lakho kuphela. Ikhadi ephakethe, umugqa ophezulu ekhasini, incwadi encane enamathelwe ngaphakathi kwefolda. Inani alikho ephepheni, likhona ekutheni uphendule izinqumo ezintathu eziphilayo zaba amaqiniso amathathu asenqunyiwe, into ingqondo yakho engayiqinisekisa ngokubheka kanye lapho isiyeka ukuzethemba.
Kukhona nomunye umthombo wamaqiniso asenqunyiwe okufanele ushiwo, ngoba yiyo inzuzo eshibhile kakhulu kulesi sigaba futhi ayikho umuntu okhokhelwa yona: cishe konke umuntu ozolile akwaziyo ngekamelo elithile watshelwa umuntu owayesevele ekhona. Ngakho lapho uphuma, tshela umuntu olandelayo ukuthi bekunjani ngempela. Ubani owabuza ini, isikhathi abakunika sona ngempela, noma isikrini siyasebenza yini: imizuzu emibili yesikhathi sakho, futhi lokho kunika omunye umuntu leyo thuba efanayo owayinikwa wena.
Ngingakuyeka kanjani ukwenza izinqumo ezintsha ngosuku olwandulela?
Yenza ukuthi amahora angamashumi amabili nane okugcina abe ivenkathi evaliwe. Akukho okuthile okusha, asikho isilayidi esisha, azikho izindaba ezintsha, alukho iseluleko esisha owamukela kumuntu ohlose okuhle.
Lo umthetho ozwakala engalungile kodwa ulungile. Izinguquko ezenziwa sekwephuze azihlale zithuthukisa okuqukethwe ngokulingana nendlela ezibiza ngayo ekugeleni kolimi lwakho, ngoba into entsha yingxenye okungakaze ukuyisho ngokuzwakalayo ngesivinini. Iphinde ibe yingxenye ukunaka kwakho okuzobambeka kuyo ekamelweni, okuyindlela lapho ukuthuthuka okukodwa kudonsa isigaba sonke phansi kanye nakho.
Kukhona nesizathu sesibili, esicashile kodwa esifanele ukwaziwa. Ngaphansi kwengcindezi yangempela yokuncintisana, ngisho nabadlali abanekhono elikhulu baqala ukuzichazela ubuchule ngokwabo. Lapho abadlali begalofu becelwa ukuba bacabange kakhulu ngesikhathi somjaho wokuncintisana lapho izindondo zemali zibekiwe futhi amaphuzu abo eyofundwa emuva kwiqembu lonke ngemuva kwesikhathi, abadlali abanekhono baqala ukuzichaza ngamazwi imithetho yobuchule eminingi kakhulu kunalapho bezilolonga, ikakhulukazi lapho befaka ibhola emgodini. Lokho kuwuphawu lwekhono eliphinde liqondiswe ngesandla ngemuva kweminyaka igijima yodwa. Okuthile okusha kwandisa inani lezindawo lokho kuqondiswa kungenzeka kuzo, ngoba yonke into engajwayelekile idinga ukulawulwa ngokuqonda ngokwencazelo yayo.
Ngakho usuku olwandulela lolokunciphisa, hhayi ukwengeza. Funda okukhona kanye. Hlela lokho ozokuphatha. Bese uvala ifayela, futhi wenze lokho ozilolongele kona kube yilokho okwenzayo.
Ngilinganisela kanjani usuku uma umphumela ungekho ezandleni zami?
Linganisela indlela okwenze ngayo, hhayi umphumela. Ngaphambi kokuba ungene, bhala izinto ezintathu ezingasho ukuthi wenze umsebenzi wakho kahle, zonke zibe ngaphansi kokulawula kwakho, bese uziqhathanisa nalolo hlu esikhundleni sokuqhathanisa nokuthi wathola yini impendulo ethi "yebo".
Lokhu akusona induduzo futhi akusona ukwehlisa izinga. Yiyo kuphela indlela yokulinganisa ethuthukisa umzamo wakho olandelayo. Awukulawuli isabelomali sephaneli, abanye abaqokwayo, umoya osekamelweni noma ukuthi ibhodi yeklayenti ihlangane yini ngaleyo kusasa. Kepha uyakulawula ukuthi waqala yini njengoba uhlelile, ukuthi wafinyelela yini ezinyathelweni zakho ezintathu, ukuthi waphendula yini umbuzo onzima esikhundleni sokuwugwema, kanye nokuthi waphetha yini ngomugqa wakho. Lezo yizinto eziqhubekela komunye umzamo.
Kukhona nenzuzo yangaleso sikhathi, hhayi eyokuhlaziya kuphela ngemuva kwesikhathi. Umuntu ozilinganisa ngomphumela kufanele ahlale ehlola umphumela, okusho ukuqapha ubuso babantu maphakathi nomusho ukubona uphawu lokuthi kuhamba kanjani. Lokho kuqapha kubiza kakhulu futhi ngokuvamile akulungile. Umuntu ozilinganisa ngendlela asebenza ngayo unohlu angaluqonda ngaphakathi kuye, ngakho ukunaka kwakhe kuhlala emsebenzini.
Ngenzenjani lapho izinto ziqala ukuceka ekamelweni?
Yiya ecebo lesibili osewalibhala, ngezwi eliphakeme futhi ngaphandle kokuxolisa. Sho lapho oya khona, thatha ikamelo uhambe nalo, futhi ugcine isivinini sakho sivamile.
Cishe konke okonakalayo ekamelweni kuyakwazi ukumelwana nakho uma ungakwengezi ukwesaba. Isilayidi siyahluleka, ngakho ukhuluma ngaphandle kwaso. Umbuzo uza kusenesikhathi, ngakho uwuphendula kusenesikhathi bese usho ukuthi uzobuyela kokusele. Omunye osesikhundleni esiphakeme ujoyina eshaya imizuzu eyishumi, ngakho umnika umusho owodwa wolwazi bese uqhubeka. Akukho kulokho okuwukwehluleka. UnguLwesibili nje, futhi umuntu onecebo lesibili uyalubhekela njengoLwesibili.
Okufundwa ikamelo ngempela isivinini sakho. Isivinini luphawu izethameli eziluthola ngokushesha kunazo zonke, ngoba yiyona nto kuphela abangayifunda ngaphandle kokwazi okuqukethwe yisethulo sakho. Ukugcina umzuliswano wakho ojwayelekile phakathi kwenhlekelele encane yikho okwenza ibe yinhlekelele encane.
Ukufisa kakhulu akuyona inkinga
Akukho lapha okuphakamisa ukuthi kufanele ukufise kancane. Abantu abasebenza kahle ngosuku lwangempela ngokuvamile bakufisa kakhulu kunalabo abangakwenzi, futhi akunankinga ngalokho, ngoba ukufisa kakhulu yikho okwenza umuntu alungiselele kusukela ekuqaleni. Inkinga ayikaze ibe isifiso. Kwakuwukushiya isifiso siphethe izinqumo esasingakaze sakhelwe ukuzenza.
Umsunguli we-KEEP CALM ubeka indlela yakhe yalokhu ngokusobala. Wasebenza kanzima impilo yakhe yonke ukuze athole akufisayo, wathola nezindlela zokuhlala ezolile phakathi nalokho, futhi zombili lezi zinto zaziyiqiniso ngesikhathi esifanayo. Yiso leso isimo esisizayo salokhu. Ukuzola akuyona into oyithola ngemuva kokuphumelela, futhi akuphambene nokushisekela. Yiyo into egcina ukushisekela kuwusizo ngoLwesine lapho okubekiwe kuyiqiniso, futhi yingakho abanye abantu besakwenza lokhu ezingeni eliphakeme ngemuva kweminyaka engamashumi amabili.
Ngakho nquma izinqumo zakho ezintathu, uvale ivenkathi ngosuku olwandulela, ulinganisele indlela osebenze ngayo bese uyokuthatha. Lokho kuhlangana kuyaphindeka, okuyisimangalo esikhulu kakhulu kunokuba nekhono kanye kuphela.
Imithombo
- National Library of Medicine (Umtapo Wezincwadi Wezempilo Kazwelonke wase-USA), Ubufakazi Bomehluko Wamazinga Amakhono Ezindleleni Zokucabanga Zabadlali Begalofu Ngesikhathi Sezimo Zengcindezi Ephezulu Nephansi
- National Library of Medicine, Imiphumela Yokubhala Okuveza Imizwa "Ekwehlulekeni Ngaphansi Kwengcindezi" Kubantu Abanovalo Olukhulu Ngokuhlolwa
- National Library of Medicine, Isilinganiso Sesine: Umbono Wezinyakazo Ngobudlelwane Phakathi Kovalo Nokusebenza