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Imikhuba Enempilo

Ukubeka Imigomo Yezempilo Ongayisimelela Ngempela

Izinqumo ezinkulu zizwakala kahle amasonto amabili. Bese ziyawa ngaphansi kwesisindo sazo. Nakhu ukuthi ungabeka kanjani imigomo yezempilo esinda isonto elimatasa, usuku olubi, kanye nesikhathi eside lapho kungekho okuzwakala kujabulisa.

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Amathiphu asheshayo

  • Guqula isifiso ngasinye sibe yisenzo esisodwa esiqondile sansuku zonke.
  • Qala ngaphansi kunalokho okwanelisayo, bese wakha.
  • Bhala inguqulo encane esekelayo yezinsuku ezinzima.

Njalo ngoJanuwari, amajimu ayagcwala. Kuthi ngoMashi, abe esengenalutho futhi. Hhayi ngoba labo bantu babebuthaka, kodwa ngoba babeka imigomo eyakhelwe ukwehluleka. Ehlisa amaphawundi angama-30. Gijima njalo ekuseni. Yeka ushukela ngokuphelele. Imigomo enjalo inomsindo futhi iyagqugquzela futhi cishe ayinakwenzeka ukuyigcina, ngoba icela ushintsho oluphelele ngobusuku obubodwa kanti iziba impilo yangempela oyiphilayo.

Umgomo osimeme uthule kakhulu. Muncane kunalokho ofuna ukuba yikho, ucace kunalokho obungacabanga ukukwenza, futhi uxolela ngokwanele ukuze usinde isonto lapho konke kuwa khona. Ake sakhe owodwa.

Kungani iningi lemigomo yezempilo lingahlali

Umgomo ovamile unezinkinga ezintathu ezakhelwe kuwo. Mkhulu kakhulu, awucaci kahle, futhi ubuthaka kakhulu.

Mkhulu kakhulu, ngoba sikweqisa lokho esingakushintsha ngasikhathi sinye bese sizibekela ukuwa. Awucaci kahle, ngoba isifiso esifana nokuthi phila kahle asikuniki lutho ongakwenza ngempela ngoLwesibili. Futhi ubuthaka kakhulu, ngoba wakhelwe embonweni wokuthi uzoba ngophelele. Usuku lokuqala oluphuthelwe luyawudabula, futhi ukudabuka kuyanwebeka kuze kuphuke yonke into.

Abacwaningi abatadisha ushintsho lokuziphatha bahlala befika embonweni ofanayo. Umgomo usebenza kangcono uma uqondile, ulinganisekayo, ungokoqobo, futhi ubophezelwe esikhathini, uhlaka oluvame ukufinyezwa kube yi-SMART. Inhloso yayo yonke leyo sakhiwo akusikho ukuba nokunaka okweqile. Ukuguqula ithemba elingacacile libe yinto umzimba wakho ongayenza ngempela namuhla, nokwazi ukuthi uyenzile yini.

Wenze ucace ngokwanele ukusebenza ngawo

Ukuthi ngifuna ukukhuthala ngokwengeziwe kungumuzwa, hhayi uhlelo. Awukwazi ukukwenza, ungakuqonda nje. Kuqhathanise nalokhu: ngizohamba imizuzu engama-20 emva kwesidlo sasemini ngezinsuku zomsebenzi. Owodwa kulawo ukutshela kahle ukuthi wenzeni ngomzuzu isidlo sasemini esiphela ngawo. Omunye ukushiya uxoxisana nawe wonke usuku, futhi lowo muntu ofuna ukweqa uvame ukunqoba.

Ngakho guqula sonke isifiso sibe yisenzo esibonakalayo.

  • Dla kangcono kuba ngizobeka imifino epuletini lami esidlweni sakusihlwa.
  • Phuza kancane kuba ngizophuza utshwala kuphela ngezimpelasonto.
  • Lala kakhulu kuba ngizobeka ifoni yami kwelinye igumbi ngo-10:30.

Umlingo awukho ebungakweni besenzo. Usekutheni akusekho sinqumo osele ukusenza. Usuvele wanquma. Manje ulandela nje umyalelo.

Qondisa ngaphansi kunalokho okuzwakala kwanelisa

Lesi yiseluleko esinzima kunazo zonke ukusithatha, ngoba umgomo omncane uzwakala njengokwaneliseka ngokuncane. Kodwa umgomo omncane owugcinayo unqoba omkhulu owulahlayo njalo. Ucwaningo ngokubeka imigomo lwenza iphuzu elifanayo ngolimi lwezokwelapha: umgomo udinga ukuba nzima ngokwanele ukukubandakanya, kodwa hhayi ngokunzima kangangokuthi wehluleke kuwo kaninginingi, ngoba ukwehluleka okuphindaphindiwe kubulala isisusa ngokushesha kunanoma yini.

Kukhona ukuhlola kwangempela okuwusizo lapha. Iseluleko esijwayelekile imizuzu engu-150 yomsebenzi ngesonto. Kumuntu ongazivocavocanga iminyaka, lowo mgomo awugqugquzeli, uyacindezela. Isinyathelo esihlakaniphile ukuqala ngaphansi kwawo kakhulu, mhlawumbe ukuhamba kabili imizuzu eyishumi ngesonto, bese wakha usuka lapho. Ungakwazi njalo ukukhuphula izinga. Awukwazi ukwenza sengathi awukayeki uma usuyekile.

Ngakho beka inguqulo yokuqala yomgomo wakho ezingeni ocishe uqiniseke ukuthi ungalifinyelela, ngisho nangesonto elibi. Ukuzethemba kuyanda. Sonke isithembiso osigcinile kuwe senza esilandelayo sibe lula.

Ukubophezele esizathwini esingesakho ngempela

Imigomo eboleke kwabanye abantu ayibambeleli. Uma udla kangcono ngoba udokotela wakwethusa noma ngoba wonke umuntu ku-inthanethi ubukeka enza kanjalo, isisusa siyanyamalala ngomzuzu ingcindezi enyamalala ngawo. Umgomo uyabambelela uma isizathu esingaphansi kwawo singesakho ngempela.

Ngakho zibuze ukuthi kungani ukufuna lokhu, futhi uqhubeke ubuza uze ushaye entweni engempela. Hhayi ukwehlisa isisindo, kodwa ngifuna ukukwazi ukuhambisana nabantwana bami ngingaphelelwa umoya. Hhayi ukuzivocavoca ngokwengeziwe, kodwa ngifuna ukuzizwa nginganovalo olukhulu ekupheleni kosuku. Xhuma isenzo esincane sansuku zonke empilweni oyifuna ngempela, futhi isenzo siyeka ukuzwakala njengomsebenzi onzima siqale ukuzwakala njengevoti lokuthile okukukhathalelayo.

Hlelela izinsuku ezimbi ngaphambi kokuba zifike

Wonke umgomo osimeme udinga uhlelo lokwehluleka, ngoba ukwehluleka kuyeza. Hhayi mhlawumbe. Nakanjani. Uzoba nesonto lapho ugula, ucindezelekile, uhamba, noma umane nje ushwabadelwe yimpilo.

Nquma manje ukuthi kwenzekani ngaleso sikhathi.

  1. Qamba izithiyo ezingase zibe khona. Imihlangano ephuzayo, isimo sezulu esibi, ukukhathala, ukuhamba.
  2. Kuyileso naleso, bhala inguqulo encane esekelayo. Uma ungakwazi ukwenza ukuhamba kwemizuzu engama-30, wenza imizuzu emi-5 uzungeza ibhulokhi. Isekelo ligcina iketango liphila.
  3. Chaza ukuthi yini ebalwa njengokunqoba ngosuku olunzima. Ngalezo zinsuku, ukuvela nje kuphela kuwukunqoba, hhayi ibanga.

Lokhu kubalulekile ngenxa yokucabanga kwakho-konke-noma-lutho, umbulali othule wezinhloso ezinhle. Umcabango uthi: sengivele ngona, ngakho usuku lonakele, ngakho ngizihluphelani. Isekelo elihleliwe liyakunqamula lokho. Akukho konke-noma-lutho uma uchaze indawo ephakathi.

Kulandelele, ngobumnene, futhi ukubuyekeze

Umgomo ongawubheki uyanhlanhlatha. Indlela elula yokuwulandelela iwugcina uwuqiniso, uphawu lokuhlola ekhalendeni, inothi efonini yakho, umkhuba ongawubona. Ukubuka izimpawu zanda kugqugquzela buthule, futhi izikhala zikutshela ngokwethembeka ukuthi kuhamba kanjani.

Bese uyabuyekeza njalo emva kwamasonto ambalwa. Lesi yisinyathelo cishe wonke umuntu asieqayo. Ngabe umgomo sewulula kakhulu manje? Wukhuphule. Unzima kakhulu? Wehlise ngaphandle kwehlazo. Uyisicefe? Shintsha umsebenzi. Umgomo osimeme yinto ephilayo oyilungisayo, hhayi isivumelwano osayine ngegazi. Inhloso ukuwugcina uhleli kuleyo ndawo emnandi lapho ucela okuthile kuwe kodwa ungakwephuli.

Nini ukungenisa usizo

Iningi lemigomo yezempilo ngeyakho ukuyibeka nokuyigcina. Kodwa eminye ifanelwe ingxoxo kuqala. Uma uphethe isifo esingamahlalakhona, usebenzisa imithi, ululama ekulimaleni, ukhulelwe, noma uhlela ushintsho olukhulu endleleni odla noma onyakaza ngayo, xhumana nodokotela wakho ukuze umgomo wakho ufanele umzimba wakho nempilo yakho.

Futhi qaphela umugqa phakathi komgomo onempilo nowujezisayo. Uma umgomo wezempilo uqala ukuzwakala njengendlela yokuzilawula noma yokuzijezisa, uma ukhulisa uvalo, ukugxila ngokweqile, noma icala esikhundleni sokukwehlisa, lokho kuyisignali sokuthi uhlehle bese ukhuluma nodokotela noma udokotela wengqondo. Yonke inhloso yomgomo omuhle wezempilo yimpilo ezinzile, egcwele. Uma owakho wenza izinsuku zakho zibe ncane futhi zibe nzima, kukhona okumele kushintshe kuwo, futhi ukuthola usekelo ngalokho kuwamandla.

Imigomo ehlalayo akuyona emangazayo. Yileyo emincane, ecacile, exolelayo ongayigcina ngoLwesibili olujwayelekile, uhlobo olusaqhubeka buthule emva konyaka, isikhathi eside emva kokuba izinqumo ezinomsindo sezikhohlakele.

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