Amathiphu asheshayo
- Ungalokothi uvumele izinsuku ezimbili ezingenalutho zilandelane.
- Osukwini lokululama, yenza inguqulo encane.
- Yeqa icala bese uphinda uhambe nje kusasa.
Uzethembise ukuthi uzohamba njalo ekuseni. Bese kuba nobusuku obunzima, umhlangano wasekuseni, ingane egulayo, kuthi ngokuzuma sekusemini futhi ukuhamba akwenzekanga. Ngokwakho, lokho akulutho. Inkinga yilokho ingqondo yakho ekuhlebezayo ngokulandelayo: kulungile, sengikonile manje. Futhi ukucabanga kwe-sengikonile kunendlela yokuphendula ukuhamba okukodwa okuphuthelwe kube isonto, bese kuba ukubekwa ngokuthulile eshalofini komqondo wonke.
Umthetho wezinsuku ezimbili uyingcosana yomshwalense wokulwa nalokho kanye. Uhamba kanjena: ungalokothi uphuthelwe kabili kulandelana. Phuthelwa kanye, kulungile, impilo iyenzeka. Ungavumeli nje usuku olulandelayo lube ukuphuthelwa nalo. Igebe elilodwa liwukwehluka. Amagebe amabili aqala ukuzwakala njengokujwayelekile okusha.
Kungani usuku olulodwa lungabalulekile ngempela
Kunengcosana eduduzayo yesayensi ngaphansi kwalokhu. Ucwaningo lwase-University College London lwalandela abantu abakha imikhuba yansuku zonke lwathola ukuthi kwathatha cishe izinsuku ezingama-66 ngesilinganiso ukuze ukuziphatha kuzizwe kuzenzakalela, ngobubanzi obukhulu kusuka kumuntu kuya komunye. Okubalulekile ngokufanayo, abacwaningi babona ukuthi ukuzenzakalela kwakheka kancane kancane, ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphinda. Akuwona umkhondo obuthakathaka ohlephuka ngomzuzu owuphula ngawo. Inqubekela phambili osuyibekile ayinyamalali ngenxa yosuku olulodwa oluphuthelwe.
Lokho kubalulekile ngoba abaningi bethu baphatha imikhuba njengeketango lezixhumanisi zephepha, lapho ukudabuka okukodwa konakalisa yonke into. Ifana kakhulu nendlela egqotshwe otshanini. Ngolunye usuku awuyihambi, indlela isekhona kusasa. Yeka ukuyihamba amasonto, bese utshani bukhula buncane buncane futhi. Isifundo akusona ukuba uphelele. Kungukuqhubeka ubuya ngaphambi kokuba indlela inyamalale.
Ugibe umthetho owakhelwe ukuluphepha
Ososayikholoji banegama eliqondile lendilinga elandela ukushelela. Kuwugibe lwakho-konke-noma-lutho, futhi kuzwakala kanjena: sengivele ngiphuthelwe namuhla, ngakho isonto seliphelelwe, ngizoqala kabusha ngoMsombuluko. Lowo mqondo uzwakala unengqondo kuleso sikhathi futhi ubhubhisa ngokuthulile, ngoba uMsombuluko ulokhu engafiki.
Iseluleko se-Mayo Clinic ngokwenza imikhuba inamathele sifika kumbono ofanayo kusuka kolunye uhlangothi. Bakhomba ukuthi imigomo eqinile, ephelele-noma-uphele yileyo abantu abayidelayo, nokuthi ukuguquka yikho okugcina umkhuba uphila. Ukwenza lokho ongakwazi, ngisho nalapho kungekhona lokho obukuhlelile, kusabalwa njengokuzimisela okungaguquki. Ukuwohloka, bayaphawula, kuyinto cishe wonke umuntu ayihlangabezanayo ngesikhathi esithile. Ikhono akusona ukugwema ukuwohloka. Kungukululama kukho ngokushesha.
Umthetho wezinsuku ezimbili unika lokho kululama isikhuthazi esicacile. Akudingeki uxoxisane nawe noma ulinde ugqozi olusha. Umyalelo ulula: izolo ngiphuthelwe, ngakho namuhla ngiyabonakala, ngisho noma kuyinguqulo encane kunazo zonke ezingenzeka.
Indlela yokuwusebenzisa ngaphandle kokucabangisisa
Izindlela ezimbalwa zokuwusebenzisa:
- Chaza inguqulo yakho encane kunazo zonke eyamukelekayo. Uma ukuhamba kungenzeki, iyiphi inguqulo yemizuzu emibili esabalwa? Isiyingi esisodwa sokujikeleza indawo. Ukugoba amadolo kahlanu. Ikhasi elilodwa. Ibhalidi osukwini lokululama kufanele libe phansi cishe ngendlela ehlazisayo, ngoba ukuvele ubonakale kuyilo lonke iphuzu.
- Kulandelele ngokukhululekile. Uphawu olulula ekhalendeni noma inothi eselulwini lakho lwanele. Awujahi ulayini ongenaphutha wezimpawu zokuqinisekisa. Uqinisekisa nje ukuthi amabhokisi amabili angenalutho awalokothi ahlale eceleni komunye nomunye.
- Hlela ukubuyela ngaphambi kokuba ukudinge. Nquma manje ukuthi ikusasa libukeka kanjani ngemva kosuku oluphuthelwe. Ukwazi isenzo ngaphambili kusho ukuthi akudingeki ubize amandla entando esikhathini esiphansi.
- Yeka icala. Ucwaningo ngokushintsha kokuziphatha lulokhu luthola ukuthi abantu abazivumela ukushelela ngezinye izikhathi babambelela emikhubeni isikhathi eside kunalabo abafuna ukuphelela. Ugqozi lokukhuthazwa lusinda kunogqozi lwehlazo. Zikhulume njengoba ubungakhuluma nomngane ophuthelwe usuku. Ubuzomtshela ukuthi kulungile futhi aphinde ahambe kusasa. Kunjalo nakuwe.
Lapho ukushelela kuqhubeka kubuthelana
Uma uqaphela ukuthi uphuthelwa kakhulu kunalokho okwenzayo, noma ukuthi ukuqala noma yini kuzwakala kunzima ngokungenzeki amasonto ngamasonto, lokho kufanele ukunakwa. Ngezinye izikhathi umkhuba ongafuni ukunamathela akuyona inkinga yokuziqhelanisa. Amandla aphansi, isimo somqondo esibuthaka, noma ukuzizwa ungakwazi ukwenza izinto obuvame ukuzenza kungaba izimpawu zokuthi okuthile okujulile, njengokucindezeleka, kudinga ukunakekelwa. Udokotela noma udokotela wezengqondo angasiza ukuhlunga okwenzekayo, futhi ukufuna lolo sekelo kuwuhlobo lwako lokubonakala.
Kokushelela kwansuku zonke, nokho, umthetho wezinsuku ezimbili uyinto emnene, ehlala isikhathi eside ongabambelela kuyo. Uzophuthelwa izinsuku. Wonke umuntu uyaphuthelwa. Usuku olulodwa olubaluleke ngempela yilelo elilandela ngqo.
Imithombo
- University College London, How Long Does It Take to Form a Habit?
- Mayo Clinic Press, What Makes a Habit Stick?
- CDC, 3 Steps to Building a Healthy Habit