Woyɛ saa adwuma yi yiye, na Yawoada yɛ wo hokwan sɛ wokyerɛ nnipa a wonnim saa no. Wɔmmu wo atɛn. Nnipa a wɔte pon no agya no repɛ obi a ɔbɛyɛ adwuma no, na wɔrehwɛ kwa sɛ wo na wobɛyɛ mmuae no, efisɛ sɛ ɛnte saa a, nsɛmmisa nnawɔtwe asia bio na ɛda wɔn anim.
Ɔhaw no fi ase bere a wusi gyinae sɛ wobɛyɛ obi foforo dɔnhwerew baako. Agoru gye adwene, na adwene ne ade a nsusuwii hia. Mmuae a onipa a onni hɔ na ɔde ba no we w'amemene fa a anka ɛsɛ sɛ etie asɛmmisa no.
Nhwehwɛmu wɔ eyi akyi, ɛnyɛ nkuranhyɛ nkutoo. Nhwehwɛmu bi a ɛwɔ Journal of Applied Psychology mu dii nnipa ankasa akyi wɔ adwuma a wɔfaa wɔn ankasa mu, na wɔ wɔn a wɔyɛ den paa no mu no, wɔn a na wɔpɛ sɛ wɔda wɔn ho adi sɛnea wɔte ankasa no nyaa adwuma bebree: wɔ kuw baako mu no, hokwan a wɔbɛfa wɔn no foro fii 51% kɔɔ 73%.
Mɛbua yiye a ɛrenyɛ te sɛ nea mepɛn so?
Bua fa nsɛm a esii ankasa so, ɛnyɛ nsɛm a wokyerɛw too hɔ, na ma nsɛm no mu nkitiahodi nsoa adesoa no. Asɛm a nɔma ne din wom ntumi nyɛ te sɛ nea wɔatwa so, efisɛ obiara nni wiase ha a ɔwɔ saa asɛm no.
Nea ɛma ɛte sɛ nea wɔpɛn so no fi kasa a ɛnkyerɛ hwee pɔtee, ɛnyɛ ahoboa. "Meyɛ obi a mene nkurɔfo yɛ adwuma na nhyɛso mu na mesõ" te sɛ nkontompo efisɛ nnipa ɔha kaa saa ara saa bosome yi. "Ná yɛwɔ nna dubaako sɛ yɛde sikatua nhyehyɛe no bɛkɔ baabi foforo, mekyekyɛɛ mu abiɛsa sɛnea yebetumi ayi nea asiane wom no adi kan, na yewiei a na nna abien aka" te sɛ onipa, efisɛ ɛyɛ onipa ampa. Siesie wo ho denneennen, nanso siesie nsɛm no mmom, ɛnyɛ kasamu no. Hu wo nsɛm asia no yiye na ma nkyerɛwde no mfi wo mu bere biara wɔ akwan foforo so.
Gye ahome kakra. Sikan abien a wugyina hɔ redwennwene ansa na woabua asɛmmisa a emu yɛ den no kyerɛ sɛ wo ho hia wo, ɛnkyerɛ sɛ woatwentwɛn wo nan ase. Nnipa dodow no ara de nnyigyei hyɛ saa kwan no mu efisɛ kommyɛ te sɛ ade a ne bo yɛ den bere a wopɛ adwuma no. Ne bo nyɛ den. Ɛyɛ nsɛnkyerɛnne a ne bo yɛ mmerɛw sen biara a ɛkyerɛ sɛ wodwo.
Sɛ minnim mmuae no a, dɛn na menka?
Ka sɛ wunnim, na afei ka sɛnea wobɛyɛ ahu. Saa mmuae no yɛ den sen nsusuwii hunu, efisɛ adwuma no mu ayɛ ma ɔhaw ahorow a obiara nnii ho dwuma da, na saa tebea no ara mu na wɔrehwɛ sɛnea wobɛyɛ wo ho.
Ɛno mu wɔ afã abiɛsa na egye bɛyɛ sikan dunum. Ka nea wunim no ano. Ka nea wobɛyɛ akan. Ka onipa anaa ade a wobɛhwɛ so. "Menyɛɛ nsakrae kɛse a ɛte saa da. Anka mefi ase asusuw baabi a adesoa no wɔ ankasa mprempren, sen sɛ megye nkrataa no di, na anka mebisa obi a odii nea etwaa mu no ho dwuma no nea ɛyɛɛ no nwonwa." Obiara a ɔwɔ dan no mu no rensusuw sɛ ɛno yɛ mmerɛwyɛ. Wɔn a wobisa nsɛm no nyinaa atra obi a ɔdaadaa wɔn anim pɛn, na wɔkae daadaa no akyɛ bere a wɔn werɛ afi mmuae pa no.
Daadaa nso bo yɛ den kwan bi so a nnipa nsusuw ho. Sɛ woasusuw hunu wie a, ɛsɛ sɛ wugyina akyi ma no, na sɛ wugyina nsusuwii hunu akyi a, ɛsɛe nsɛmmisa no nkae nyinaa.
Nsɛm ahe na ɛsɛ sɛ mesiesie, na dɛn na ɛma bi yɛ papa?
Asia kata nsɛmmisa a wobebisa wo no nyinaa so bɛyɛ. Nea eye no yɛ tiawa, ɛyɛ nokware, nɔma anaa nea efi mu bae wom, na ɛde nea ɛsakraee wie, ɛnyɛ nea na wopɛ sɛ woyɛ.
Paw asia a ɛgu ahorow: biribi a wuyii adi, biribi a ɛsɛee ne nea woyɛe akyi, bere a wo ne panyin bi anyɛ adwene, bere a wosesaa w'adwene, bere a wokyerɛɛ obi ade, ne ade a wode hoahoa wo ho paa. Nsɛmmisa a ɛfa suban ho nyinaa bɛyɛ, ɛyɛ saa asia no mu baako a wɔasesa ne kyɛw. Eyi nti na wɔn a wobisa nsɛm no bisa wo nea woyɛe dedaw ho asɛm. Nhwehwɛmu a ɛfa nsɛmmisa a wɔhyehyɛ so gyina nnyinaso tiawa bi so, sɛnea nhwehwɛmu a ɛfa ayaresafo paw ho kaa no pefee: nea onipa yɛe dedaw kyerɛ nea ɔbɛyɛ daakye.
Kyerɛw wɔn to hɔ. Ɛnyɛ nkyerɛwde a wokenkan, nsɛnkyerɛwde anan pɛ ma biara: tebea no, nea woyɛe, nea ɛsakraee, ne nea anka wobɛyɛ no soronko. Nkyerɛwde a etwa to no na ɛtetew onipa a ɔrepɛ adwuma ne obi a ɔrekenkan n'anuonyam nsɛm mu, na wɔn a wobisa nsɛm no bisa no tẽẽ mpɛn pii sen sɛnea obiara susuw.
Dɛn na memmisa wɔn, na bere bɛn?
Bisa nsɛm abien a wopɛ mmuae ankasa, na bisa baako wɔ mfimfini, ɛnyɛ sɛ wode abien no nyinaa besie awiei. Nsɛmmisa a efi koma mu sesa dan no mu tebea, efisɛ ɛdan nsɔhwɛ ma ɛyɛ nnipa baanu a wɔrebom asi gyinae.
Nea eye no fa saa adwuma yi ho pɔtee, na wontumi nnya ho mmuae mfi adwuma ho krataa so. Obi a ɔreyɛ yiye wɔ saa adwuma yi mu asram asia akyi no, dɛn ankasa na ɔde kyerɛ? Saa adwuma yi fa bɛn na ɛyɛ den ma nnipa? Gyinae bɛn ho na fekuw no regye akyinnye mprempren? Wo nso woreboaboa nsɛm a wubehia bere a adwuma nsɛmfrɛ abien ba pɛnkoro. Wɔ nnipa a wogyaee adwuma wɔ 2021 mu no mu, Pew Research Center hui sɛ akatua ketewa ne kwan a ennim sɛ obi bɛkɔ n'anim yɛ nneɛma abien a ɛtaa ba paa, ne nyinaa wɔ 63%, enti bisa nnɛ sɛ kwan a ɛda hɔ wɔ ha te sɛn.
Bisa sika ho asɛm bere a nhyehyɛe no adu baabi a sika ho asɛm ba. Sɛ wubisa ntɛm a, ɛnyɛ animtiaabu, nanso ɛgye asɛmmisa baako, na wowɔ kakraa bi pɛ.
Mɛyɛ dɛn ama me ho adwo me da no anɔpa?
Ma wo nipadua nkeka ne ho ansa na woakɔ mu, na di biribi. Onipa a wayɛ adwuma dedaw saa anɔpa no gyae nsɔhwɛ agoru, efisɛ ne nipadua anya baabi a ɔde ahoɔden no besi, na ɛnkɔ ne nne mu.
Simma aduonu dɔɔso. Mmirikatu, apɔmuden dwumadi den bi, anaa nantew a wode benantew akɔ ɔdan no mu. KEEP CALM ne hyɛfo dii nhyɛso a ɛwɔ adwuma kwan mu no so denneennen fa apɔmuden dwumadi so, na eyi ne saa ade no fa a ɛsua na ɛyɛ nokware paa: nipadua adwuma anɔpa dan nsɛmmisa ho ahopopo ma ɛyɛ anibue kwa. Afei wɔ simma anum a etwa to no mu, yɛ nneɛma a ɛnyɛ dɛ no. Du hɔ ntɛm sɛnea wubetumi atena hɔ akwadwo. Kenkan wo nsɛm asia no pɛnkoro, na fa krataa no si nkyɛn, efisɛ sɛ wokenkan bio wɔ lift mu a, ɛno na ɛma ɛte sɛ nea wokenkan too hɔ.
Sɛ wo nsa wosow ara a, ɛnwosow. Ma w'ahome a wuyi no nkyɛ, fa wo nan abien nyinaa si fam, na fi ase kasa. Ehu nyɛ ɔhaw no. Ehu ne nnaadaa a wɔaka abom no ne ɔhaw no, na wɔn a wobisa nsɛm no ahu abien no nyinaa dodow a wotumi tetew mu. Adwodwo kyerɛ nimdeɛ ntɛm sen sɛnea ahoɔfɛ a wɔasiesie yɛ.
Dan a ɛpɛ wo ankasa no ne dan a wubetumi ayɛ adwuma mu
Afotu bi wɔ hɔ a ɛfa wo sɛ ade a ɛsɛ sɛ wɔdwiw so ma ɛyɛ trontrom, na ɛma nnipa a wɔrepɛ adwuma nyinaa yɛ pɛ, na wontumi nkyekyɛ wɔn mu. Wɔn a wɔfa wɔn fi kuw a wɔyɛ den mu no yɛ wɔn a wɔn a wobisaa wɔn nsɛm no da so tumi ka wɔn ho asɛm dɔnhwerew akyi. Na nea wɔka no yɛ ade pɔtee: onipa a na onim ne nɔma, onipa a ɔgyee toom sɛ ade bi bɔ no, na ɔkaa sɛnea ɔbɛhwɛ so, onipa a obisaa asɛm a ɛmaa adwumawura no dwennwenee.
Eyi mu biara nhwehwɛ sɛ wompɛ adwuma no kɛse, anaa sɛ woyɛ wo ho sɛ w'ani agye gyinae a ɛbɛsakra wo mfe abiɛsa ho. Pɛ no pefee. Siesie wo ho denneennen. Afei fa wo ho kɔ mu sɛ onipa a ɔyɛɛ saa ahoboa no nyinaa, ɛnyɛ obi a wobɔɔ ne ho Benada.
Wubebisa nsɛm no yiye, na wubehu ade foforo a mfaso wɔ so nso. Dan a ɛpɛ wo ankasa no yɛ dan a wubetumi ayɛ adwuma mu ampa.
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