Adetɔn no baa awiei nnɔnnan bere mu na dan no mu huruwii. Obi kraa nsa, obi kaa kasa a ɔbɔɔ ne din wɔ mu, na ɔno de, ogyinaa nkyɛn hɔ a ne ho tɔ no yiye koraa. Ɛnyɛ sɛ ne ho adwo no. Ɛnyɛ sɛ n'abamu abu. Ne ho tɔ no ara kwa. Wɔ saa ahotɔ no akyi no, na n'adwene fa bi wɔ deɛ edi so no so dedaw, deɛ ɛso kɛse no, deɛ ɛwɔ zero baako bio wɔ n'awiei no.
Afei dadwen ketewa bi baeɛ. Ɛnsɛ sɛ eyi yɛ dɛ sen saa anaa?
Sɛ wohwehwɛ saa asɛmmisa no ho mmuae a, wobɛnya mmuae mmienu, na abien no nyinaa mfata wo. Deɛ edi kan ka sɛ atenka a emu nyɛ den no kyerɛ sɛ botae no yɛ hunu, enti ma w'ani nnye biribiara ho bio. Deɛ ɛtɔ so mmienu ka sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wonya botae kɛse ntɛm ara, na ɛno nso yɛ ehu koro no ara a wɔahyɛ no ntade fɛfɛ. Ɔkwan a ɛto so mmiɛnsa wɔ hɔ, na sɛ woadi nkonim akyɛ a, ɛno na ɛteɛ mpɛn pii. Sɛ w'akoma tɔ wo yam a, saa na duruso te bere a woabɔ ho dedaw.
Adɛn nti na sɛ meduru botae kɛse so a mente hwee?
Efiri sɛ anigyinasoɔ ne nduruso no nyinaa fa akwan ahorow so, na wo deɛ, wo ho da hɔ ntɛm. Ahoɔden no dodow no ara wɔ mmirikatuo no mu, na nsakraeɛ a ɛma awieeɛ no yɛ komm no ne adeɛ koro no ara a ɛmaa wutumi maa botae no so daa no.
Eyi yɛ tete asɛm a wɔakyerɛw ho pii. Brickman, Coates ne Janoff-Bulman nhwehwɛmu a ɛfa wɔn a wodi lottery so no huu sɛ wɔn a wodii nkonim no ani annye nsen wɔn a wɔhwɛɛ wɔn so, na deɛ ɛyɛ nwonwa no, akyire yi, nneɛma ketewaa a ɛtɔ da biara no anyɛ wɔn dɛ bio. Akyire yi, Diener, Lucas ne Scollon sesaa mfonini no wɔ ɔkwan a mfaso wɔ so mu: nsakraeɛ no yɛ nokware nanso ɛnyɛ ne nyinaa, gyinabea no nnyɛ hwee kwa, na ɛtumi tu wɔ tebea bi mu. Sɛ wode ba wo Yawoada awia mu a, ɛkyerɛ sɛ atenka a ɛyɛ komm no yɛ nhyehyɛe pa bi su, ɛnyɛ adanseɛ sɛ nkonimdi no yɛ atoro.
Ɛfata sɛ yɛbɔ mfaso no din pefee, ɛfiri sɛ obiara nyɛ saa. Ɛyɛ nsakraeɛ nti na afe a ɛyɛ den a wofaa mu no adan wo daa adwuma gyinabea afei. Adwinnadeɛ koro no ara a ɛmaa nkonimdi yi yɛɛ ade a ɛtaa ba no, ɛno ara na ɛmaa afe a etwaam botae a na ɛntumi nyɛ yiye no dan afe yi mfitiaseɛ. Ɛnyɛ sɛ woahwere tumi a wode te nka. Woamaa fam no so.
Atenka a emu nyɛ den yi kyerɛ sɛ mepaw botae bɔne anaa?
Mpɛn pii, dabi, na ɔkwan a emu da hɔ wɔ hɔ a wode behu. Botae bɔne te sɛ ahomegye sɛ ɛno ara aba awieeɛ. Botae pa a woatena ase ara kɔsi sɛ ayɛ wo ade a ɛtaa ba no te sɛ ahotɔ a deɛ edi so no resiesie ne ho komm wɔ akyi.
Mfomsoɔ a ɛwɔ nsɛm a wɔka fa eyi ho no mu ne sɛ wɔfa anigyeɛ mmobɔmu no sɛ ɛno ne akatua. Ɛnte saa da. Akatua no ne deɛ nkonimdi no tɔ maa wo ankasa, na ɛno yɛ nkyerɛwee a wutumi kenkan sen atenka a ɛsɛ sɛ wokyerɛ aseɛ. Fa simma du kyerɛw. Akwan bɛn na wowɔ mprempren a na wonni no Ɔpɛpɔn mu. Hwan na wɔsan frɛ no seesei. Ɛdeɛn na wutumi ka sɛ dabi ho a na ɛpɛn no wontumi nka sɛ dabi. Saa nkyerɛwee no ne wo nsa ano nkrataa, na mpɛn pii ɛso sen sɛnea awia no yɛeɛ.
Adeɛ baako bio wɔ hɔ a ɛma nea ɛso duru kɔsi hɔ komm, na ɛfa nipadua ho. Nnipa a wɔsoa nhyɛsoɔ yiye no, baabi na wonyaa saa ahoɔden no firi, na nnipa pii a wɔyɛ adwuma kɛse no, wɔ dua ase anaa ɔkwan bi so wɔ mpɔtam hɔ na wonyaa no, ɛnyɛ nkyerɛwee nwoma mu. The Lancet Psychiatry nhwehwɛmu a ɛfa mpanyimfoɔ bɛboro ɔpepem baako ho wɔ United States no huu sɛ wɔn a wɔyɛ apɔwmuden dwumadie no kaa sɛ wɔn adwene mu nna bɔne no sua kɛse sen wɔn a wɔnyɛ, na abusuabɔ no mu yɛ den paa wɔ mmere mmiɛnsa kɔsi anum wɔ nnawɔtwe biara mu. Nipadua no ne adwinnadeɛ a mfeɛ du a edi w'anim no bɛgyina so, na ɛno nti na nteteeɛ fata nkɔmmɔ a ɛfa botae ho, na ɛnyɛ apɔwmuden nkutoo ho nkɔmmɔ.
Mɛyɛ dɛn ahu ahotɔ ne ɔbrɛ ntam nsonsonoeɛ?
Sɔ eyi hwɛ bosome yi mu: ka sɛ wobɛboa obi foforɔ afa ne da kɛse no mu. Sɛ adwene no ma w'ani gye a, na woadu. Sɛ adwene no yɛ adesoa a wuntumi nsoa a, na woabrɛ, na ɔbrɛ yɛ ɔhaw foforɔ a ne ano aduru nso yɛ soronko.
Eyi ne nsɔhwɛ a emu da hɔ sen biara wɔ asɛm yi mu, ɛfiri sɛ enhia sɛ wokyerɛ w'ankasa atenka aseɛ, na ɛno na seesei wo nsa nsɔ mu. Paw obi a ɔwɔ ɔkasa bi, adwuma ho nsɛmmisa, akansie a ɛdi kan, anaa nkɔmmɔ a ɛyɛ den a wɔahyehyɛ. Ka sɛ wobɛtena wɔn ho ama wɔasiesie wɔn ho, gye wɔn frɛ anadwo a edi anim, anaa tena dan no mu. Afei hwɛ deɛ ɛsi wɔ wo koko mu bere a wɔka sɛ aane no.
Ɛyɛ nsɔhwɛ pa ɛfiri sɛ sɛ woboa obi ma ɔsiesie ne ho a, ɛde w'adwene firi wo ho kɔ akyi wɔ bere a wo ho a wobɛdwene ho no boɔ yɛ den sen biara. Ɛnso ne nsiesieɛ a ne boɔ yɛ mmerɛw sen biara ma wo ankasa da kɛse a ɛdi w'anim. Wobɛte sɛ woreka asɛm a na ɛsɛ sɛ wo ara wote akyerɛ wɔn, na ɛno ne adeɛ a woagyae yɛ mpɛn pii.
Sɛ mmuae no san ba sɛ wuntumi nsoa a, fa no sɛ nkra, na ɛnyɛ sintɔ. Ɔbrɛ a ɛba mmɔdenbɔ tenten akyi no yɛ ade a ɛtaa ba, na nneɛma a ɛyɛ mmerɛw na ɛsa: nna, nnawɔtwe a wɔnhyehyɛɛ hwee wɔ anɔpa nnɔnson, ne nipadua kekaeɛ a ɛnyɛ dwumadie a wɔrehwɛ wo.
Ntease foforɔ wɔ hɔ a ɛma wosɔ hwɛ mpo sɛ wunim mmuae no dedaw. Sɛ woboa obi fa ne da kɛse mu a, ɛno ne nkonimdi no mu deɛ obiara ntumi nnye mfiri wo nsam akyire yi. Wɔsan susu adetɔn ho, wɔsesa dibea ahodoɔ, nanso onipa a wo ne no gyinaeɛ anɔpa nnɔnson ansa na ɔreyɛ ne kasa kɛse a ɛdi kan no, ɔbɛkae wɔ mfeɛ du mu. Ɛnyɛ ɔkyerɛkyerɛ a ɛfa ɔdɔmaadeɛ ho. Ɛyɛ nhunumu a ɛfa afe pa mu nneɛma a ɛtena hɔ daa ho.
Mɛyɛ dɛn apaw deɛ edi so a ahopereɛ nka ho?
Twɛn nnawɔtwe mmienu, afei kyerɛw wo gyinaeɛ anɔpa a ɛyɛ ade a ɛtaa ba. Botae a wopaw wɔ nnɔnhwerew aduanan awotwe a ɛdi nkonimdi akyi no, nkonimdi no na apaw, na botae a wopaw Benada a ɛyɛ ade a ɛtaa ba no, wo na wopaw.
Sɛ wotena ase a, bua nsɛmmisa mmiɛnsa yi wɔ nhyehyɛeɛ yi mu. Ɛdeɛn na nkonimdi a etwaam no tɔ maa wo ankasa, firi nsa ano nkrataa a woakyerɛw dada no mu. Ɛdeɛn na anka wode bɛyɛ sɛ obiara ammɔ ne nsam. Na hwan bio na ɔwɔ deɛ edi so no mu, bɔ ne din.
Asɛmmisa a etwa toɔ no nyɛ ahoɔfɛ nkutoo. Botae a obi foforɔ wɔ mu no tena ase kɔsi bosome a wo mmɔdenbɔ atɔ ase, na ɛno nti na sɛ woboa obi fa n'afe mu a, ɛyɛ mmuae pa ma deɛ ɛdi so, ɛnyɛ akyɛdeɛ a wɔde kyekye wo werɛ. Wɔama wo kwan sɛ kɛse, na kɛse taa yɛ deɛ ɛteɛ. Mmara baako pɛ ne sɛ, kɛse no, ɛsɛ sɛ wofiri ahotɔ mu paw no, na ɛnyɛ ehu sɛ nkonimdi a etwaam no anyɛ hwee.
Ɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wobɛpaw akwan na Yawoada aduru a wo werɛ afiri, enti kyerɛw ɔkwan no wɔ baabi a wubetumi de wo nsa aka, na to da so.
Ahotɔ ne adwinnadeɛ no, ɛnyɛ awerɛkyekyerɛ
KEEP CALM hyɛfoɔ, Kaʻohele Carlos, ka n'ankasa asɛm wɔ nhyehyɛeɛ pɔtee mu, na nhyehyɛeɛ no ne asɛm no. Ɔbɔɔ mmɔden ne nkwa nna nyinaa maa deɛ ɔpɛ. Ɔhuu akwan a ɔfa so tena ahotɔ mu wɔ mu, na nteteeɛ yɛ akwan no mu baako a ɔfaa so soaa adwuma no si ho nhyɛsoɔ. Ɔduruu baabi a ɔrekɔ, na ɔkɔɔ so akyire yi. Ɛnyɛ ahotɔ na ɔgyee toom bere a ne botae no saeɛ. Ɛyɛ adwinnadeɛ a ɛmaa mfeɛ aduonu mu botae bɔne tumi baeɛ.
Enti fa awia a emu nyɛ den no sɛ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ pa. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ nhyehyɛeɛ a ɛde wo baa ha no reyɛ adwuma, sɛ woatena gyinabea a na ɛnyɛ mmerɛw kane no so, na sɛ wowɔ tebea a wubetumi apaw deɛ edi so no wɔ adwene mu, na ɛnyɛ sɛ wobɛsɔ biribi mu kwa. Kɔ deɛ ɛso sɛ deɛ ɛso na ɛteɛ. Wode wo nsa a ɛgyina pintinn na ɛbɛyɛ, na ɛno nkutoo ne ɔkwan a obiara fa so yɛ eyi mfeɛ du foforɔ.
Nnyinasoɔ
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- American Psychologist, Beyond the hedonic treadmill: revising the adaptation theory of well-being
- The Lancet Psychiatry, Association between physical exercise and mental health in 1.2 million individuals in the USA between 2011 and 2015: a cross-sectional study