Ɔtee Yawoada sɛ ɔkyerɛkyerɛni bi a na ɔwɔ hɔ mfe aduonu a atwam no akɔ pɛnhyen so, na saa anwummerɛ no ɔtenaa ase sɛ ɔrekyerɛw biribi. Nkyerɛwde a edi kan no yɛɛ no den. Na onim nea ɔyɛe pɛpɛɛpɛ: ɔka kyerɛɛ no pɛnkoro, wɔ ɔkwan mu, sɛ ne ho yɛ den wɔ eyi mu sen sɛnea ɔdwene, na ɔde saa kasamu no na ɛkyekyeree n'adwuma bere fa kɛse a wanka ho hwee ankyerɛ no da.
Ɛkame ayɛ sɛ obiara wɔ nnipa baanum anaa baasia a wɔte saa. Ɛnyɛ nnipa a wodɔ wɔn sen biara, na mmom wɔn a wosii gyinae bi a ɛsesaa w'akwan: onipa a ogyee wo mu, onipa a ɔbɔɔ wo din, onipa a ɔka nokware kyerɛɛ wo pɛnkoro wɔ bere a anka ɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ ɔbɛka nsɛm a ɛyɛ dɛ. Wɔn mu dodow no ara nnim. Wɔn din a wobɛbɔ no gye simma du, na sɛ wobɛka akyerɛ wɔn a, ɛgye nkae ade pɔtee baako, kasamu baako a ɛfa nea ɛsesae ho, na wonkeka biribi foforo biara ho.
Hena ampa na ɔyɛɛ me sɛnea mete nnɛ, na ɛyɛ dɛn na meyɛ nhwehwɛde no?
Dwen gyinaesi ho, ɛnyɛ ɔdɔ ho. Kyerɛw obiara a osii gyinae bi a ɛsesaa w'akwan, na mpɛn pii wubenya din baanum anaa baasia, a emu mmienu bɛyɛ wo nwonwa.
Nsɛmmisa anan bɛma woanya nhwehwɛde no nyinaa ntɛm. Hena na ogyee wo mu wɔ bere a na ɛnhia sɛ ɔyɛ saa? Hena na ɔbɔɔ wo din wɔ dan a na wunni mu mu? Hena na ɔkyerɛɛ wo ade a wode di dwuma dapɛn biara de besi nnɛ? Hena na ɔka nokware kyerɛɛ wo pɛnkoro, a ɛtee ne ho ka, na na ɔteɛ?
Hwɛ sɛ saa nsɛmmisa no mu biara mmisa sɛ hena na ɔyɛɛ wo yiye. Ayamye yɛ fɛ nanso ɛnyɛ nhwehwɛde koro no ara. Onipa a ɔyɛɛ wo no, ebia na n'ano yɛ den, ebia na ɔwɔ w'asetena mu bere tiaa bi, ebia na ɔyɛ ɔhwɛfo a na w'ani nnye ne nsam adwuma ho koraa. Sɔhwɛ no ne sɛ, w'asetena akwan ayɛ soronko esiane gyinae bi a osii nti anaa. Kyerɛw din no wɔ krataa so. Nhwehwɛde no wɔ ɔkwan a ɛfa so teɛteɛ ne ho ase bere a ɛwɔ hɔ ma wutumi hwɛ.
Dɛn na mɛka akyerɛ obi a me ne no nkasaa mfe du ni?
Afaafa mmiɛnsa, wɔ saa nhyehyɛe yi mu: nkae ade pɔtee baako, kasamu baako a ɛfa nea ɛsesae ho, na abisade biara nka ho. Kasamu asia dɔɔso na anan mpo yɛ.
Nkae ade pɔtee no ne adwuma no nyinaa. "Na woyɛ ɔkyerɛkyerɛni pa" yɛ ayeyi a ɛfa ne ho kɛkɛ, na ɛworɔw gu. "Wugyinaa me wɔ dan a ɛto so akron no akyi ɔkwan mu na woka kyerɛɛ me sɛ me ho yɛ den wɔ eyi mu sen sɛnea misusuwii" yɛ adanse sɛ na ɔwɔ hɔ, sɛ ɛtenaa hɔ, na sɛ ɛho hia araa ma etumi tenaa hɔ mfe aduonu. Afei ka nea ɛsesae, pefee, wɔ kasamu baako mu: nea woyɛe akyiri yi, nea woyɛ nnɛ, nea anka worensɔ nhwɛ da.
Nicholas Epley ne Amit Kumar bɔɔ amanneɛ wɔ Psychological Science mu sɛ nnipa a wɔkyerɛw aseda nkrataa no antumi anhu sɛnea onipa a ɔbɛnya no ho bɛtɔ no yiye koraa, na wɔdwennwenee dodo sɛ asɛm no nyinaa bɛyɛ animguase. Nkrataa no duu yiye sen sɛnea wɔn a wɔsomae no susuwii. Nea ɛkyerɛ ne sɛ, ahopopo a wote ansa na woasoma no nkyerɛ nea ɛbɛba akyiri no yiye, na adanse no ma ɛfata sɛ wobu so.
Adɛn nti na abisade a wode bɛka ho sɛe no?
Efisɛ ɛdan akyɛde ma ɛyɛ nsesagye, na onipa a ɔrenya no te sɛ ɛresakra wɔ nkra no mfimfini. Bere a aseda soa abisade no, ɛsɛ sɛ onipa no san susuw sɛ ɛdeɛn ho na na aseda no fa.
Eyi ne mmara a nnipa bu so mpɛn pii, na ɛno ne nea ɛkyerɛ sɛ wɔbɛkae nkra no anaa. "Mepɛ sɛ yehyia bere bi" nni mu. "Mɛpɛ w'afotu wɔ biribi ho" nni mu. Link nni mu, ade a wode bata ho nni mu, kalɛnda nni mu. Sɛ ampa ara wopɛ ne mmoa a, ɛno yɛ nkra foforo wɔ da foforo so, na ɛbɛdu yiye kɛse efisɛ nea edi kan no ammisa hwee.
Mmara koro no ara fa nkra a wode kɔma obi a ɔda so wɔ w'adwumakuw mu no ho. Aseda a ɛsan kanyan adamfo a ne so wɔ mfaso yɛ nkitahodi adeyɛ, na nkitahodi adeyɛ nyɛ bɔne, nanso ɛnyɛ eyi. Eyi de, ɛwie wɔ awiei hɔ. Anammɔn foforo biara nni mu. Ɛno ne nea ɛma ɛdu.
Sɛ aka akyɛ dodo a, ɛnyɛ dɛn?
Kyerɛw ara na fa kɔma obi a na onim no: ɔba barima anaa ɔbabea, ɔyɔnko adwumayɛfo, sukuu no, ekuw no. Kasamu no da so ara yɛ n'adwuma, na ɛdu nnipa a wɔntaa nte nea onipa a wɔahwere no no yɛe ankasa.
Ma ɛnyɛ tiaa na ma ɛnyɛ pɔtee, sɛnea anka wobɛyɛ ama ɔno ankasa no ara pɛ. Nkae ade baako, kasamu baako a ɛfa nea ɛsesae ho. Mmusua kora saa nneɛma no so. Na sɛ obiara nni hɔ a wode bɛkɔma no a, kyerɛw no nyinaa ara na fa sie, efisɛ adeyɛ a wobɛbɔ nea obi yɛ maa wo din pɛpɛɛpɛ no ne nea ɛma nkyekyɛmu a edi so wɔ krataa yi mu ba.
Bere bɛn na ɛsɛ sɛ meka wɔ baguam mmom?
Bere a nnipa a wobetumi de adi dwuma no wɔ dan no mu. Kokoam aseda ne akyɛde no, na baguam ayeyi ne tumi no. Ɛyɛ adeyɛ mmienu a ɛsono emu biara, na ɛsɛ sɛ abien nyinaa ba.
Sɛ wobɔ nea obi yɛe din, pɔtee, wɔ ne hwɛfo, ne mfɛfo, n'asuafo anaa ne bagua anim a, ɛyɛ adwuma bere mu asɛm kɛse ma no a ɛgye wo kasamu baako pɛ. Ɛno nso ne kwan koro pɛ a nnipa foforo betumi asan aka bio, na saa na din trɛw ampa. Enti yɛ abien nyinaa: soma kokoam nkra no a abisade biara nka ho, afei, wɔ ɔkwan foforo so wɔ baabi a ɛho hia, ka asɛm pɔtee koro no ara denneennen wɔ nnipa a wɔn adwene fa ne ho no anim.
Ɔkwan bi wɔ hɔ a wubetumi de eyi adi dwuma wɔ nnipa a wɔte ase a wɔatwa wo ho ahyia seesei so, na ɛnyɛ w'abakɔsɛm so. Dapɛn baako biara, wɔ nhyiam a wote mu dedaw mu, bɔ ade pɔtee baako a onipa baako yɛe din. Ɛnyɛ "adwuma pa wɔ ɔsram mmiɛnsa yi mu." Ade no ankasa, wɔ kasasin baako mu, ne nea efi mu bae. Robert Emmons ne Michael McCullough bɔɔ amanneɛ wɔ Journal of Personality and Social Psychology mu sɛ nnipa a wɔyɛɛ no su sɛ dapɛn biara wɔbɛkan nneɛma a wɔn ani sɔ no, wɔn ani gyee wɔn asetena ho, na wɔ wɔn nhwehwɛmu no baako mu no, na wɔreteɛteɛ wɔn nipadua mu kɛse bere a ɛreba awiei. Su a ne bo yɛ fo saa a ɛkɔ akyiri saa no fata sɛ wode di dwuma wɔ nhyehyɛe so, ɛnyɛ sɛnea wo ho te.
Ɔkwan a ɛkɔ so yɛ adwuma
Yɛ eyi wɔ kalɛnda so, ɛnyɛ sɛnea wo ho te so. Din baako ɔsram biara yɛ nnipa dumienu afe biara, na ɛno bewie wo din baanum anaa baasia a edi kan no wɔ asram asia a edi kan mu, na afei ɛde wo akɔ baabi a ɛyɛ anigye kɛse: nnipa a wɔreyɛ wo seesei ara.
Ɛno ne ɔfa a nnipa dodow no ara nnu so da. Nhwehwɛde no nto mu. Afe yi obi bɛka kasamu bi akyerɛ wo wɔ ɔkwan mu a wode bɛtu mmirika de akosi 2046, na ɔkwan koro a wobɛfa so ahu onipa ko a ɔyɛe no ne sɛ wobɛkɔ so ayɛ eyi akyɛ araa ma woahu sɛ ɛresi. Bere koro no ara mu no, kasamu pɔtee koro no ara a wode soma kɔ akyiri no yɛ adwuma kɔ anim nso, sɛ woka denneennen fa obi a ɔda w'akyi ho wɔ dan a ɛho hia mu.
Eyi mu biara nyɛ sɛ woreguan afi adwuma no ho. Ɛgye simma du ɔsram biara, ɛma nnipa a wɔatwa wo ho ahyia no yɛ wɔn nnwuma yiye, na ɛde ade baako a ne tɔ yɛ den kɛse bere biara a woforo kɔ soro no ma wo, a ɛne nnipa kuw a wɔn ani gye ampa bere a wobɔ wo din. Soma nea edi kan no anadwo yi. Ɛyɛ kasamu anan.
Nsɛm a wonyaa mu
- Psychological Science, Undervaluing Gratitude: Expressers Misunderstand the Consequences of Showing Appreciation
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Counting blessings versus burdens: an experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life
- Harvard Health Publishing, Giving thanks can make you happier