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Umsebenzi Ojulile Ngaphandle Kwemithetho Eqinile: Izikhathi Zomsebenzi Ezifanele Isonto Lakho

Awudingi indlu encane noma isikhathi samahora amane. Umsebenzi ojulile ungangena esontweni elivamile ngezikhathi zomsebenzi zemizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye, ngasinye sinomphumela oqanjiwe, ucingo lusekamelweni oluhlukile, futhi kungekho mthetho othi isonto eliphukile lichitha lo mkhuba.

Umuntu ohlezi etafuleni enosiba nekhompyutha ephathekayo.

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Amathiphu asheshayo

  • Sebenzisa imizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye enomphumela owodwa ocacile.
  • Beka ucingo ekamelweni oluhlukile, hhayi ubuso buqondile phansi.
  • Phatha isonto eliphukile njengesonto, hhayi njengesigwebo.

Umsebenzi wakho uwenza kahle, futhi ufuna ukuba ngcono engxenyeni edinga ukucabanga ngempela. Hhayi izimpendulo, hhayi izicelo. Umsebenzi wangempela: ukuklama, ukuhlaziya, ukubhala, into ekhona nje ngoba umuntu wahlala phansi wayenza.

Uyifundile incwadi. Uyayazi impikiswano. Uzame isikhathi sasekuseni samahora amane, futhi sahlala izinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye ngaphambi kokuthi ukuqalwa komsebenzi omusha, ukusa ingane esikoleni, kanye nombuzo owodwa osheshayo kusidilize. Iningi labantu liphetha ngokuthi abasona isibindi sokwenza lokhu, futhi lokho kuphetha kubabiza iminyaka.

Isikhathi samahora amane akulona iqhinga elisebenzayo. Ukugxila yiqhinga elisebenzayo, futhi kufika ngesikhathi esincane kakhulu kunalokho okushiwo yileyo ndaba edumile. Imizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye enomphumela ocacile owodwa, ngezinsuku isonto lakho elinazo, ikhiqiza umsebenzi wangempela owengeziwe onyakeni kunekuseni yasesontweni ongayigcina izinsuku eziyisishiyagalolunye kuphela.

Ngingawenza yini umsebenzi ojulile uma ikhalenda yami igcwele imihlangano?

Yebo, futhi okubalulekile akusiwo amahora amihlangano onawo, ukuthi izikhala eziphakathi kwayo zivikelwe kangakanani ngokuhlanzekile. Usuku olunemihlangano emithathu nesikhala esisodwa esingathintwa semizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye, usuku oluhle lomsebenzi ojulile. Usuku olunemihlangano emithathu nemigodi eyisithupha ehlakazekile yemizuzu eyishumi nesihlanu, akunjalo, noma amanani ebonakala kanjani.

Isizathu wumthamo wokushintsha. Uma ushiya umsebenzi ungakapheli, ingxenye yokunaka kwakho isala kuwo, umsebenzi olandelayo uthole inguqulo encishisiwe yakho. USophie Leroy waqamba lokhu ukusala kokunaka, futhi lokhu kuchaza into abantu abayiqonda kabi njalo. Imizuzu eyishumi nesihlanu phakathi kwemihlangano emibili akuwona umsebenzi wemizuzu eyishumi nesihlanu, kungukufika kwemizuzu eyishumi nesihlanu.

Ngakho yeka ukufuna amahora amane, uqale ukufuna isikhala esisodwa esihlanzekile. Bheka ikusasa, uthole isikhathi esikhulu kunazo zonke esingaphazamiseki, ubeke isikhathi somsebenzi lapho. Uma isikhathi esikhulu kunazo zonke simizuzu engamashumi amahlanu, thatha amashumi amahlanu. Ikhono olakhayo ukungena emsebenzini ngokushesha, futhi leli khono lithuthuka ngokuphindaphinda, hhayi ngobude besikhathi.

Kunesu lokuhlela okulandela kulokhu, futhi lifanele ukungakhululeki okuncane. Bumbanisa imihlangano yakho ndawonye kunokuyisabalalisa ngenhlonipho osukwini lonke. Imihlangano emine elandelanayo ishiya isikhala esisodwa esikhulu ngemuva kwayo. Leyo mine efanayo uma isatshalaliswa ngokulinganayo ikushiya nesikhathi sokufika kuphela. Amakhalenda amaningi angakwazi ukumukela lolo shintsho uma ucela kanye, futhi cishe akekho ocelayo.

Isikhathi somsebenzi kufanele sibe side kangakanani ngempela?

Imizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ilokho okusetshenziswa lapha njalo, ngenzansi eseduze namashumi amane nanhlanu, ngenhla eseduze namahora amabili. Okwenza isikhathi somsebenzi sibaluleke akusibona ubude baso, kodwa ukuthi uqambe umphumela owodwa ngaphambi kokuqala.

Lomyalo owodwa yiwo owenza iningi lomsebenzi. Hhayi ukusebenza ombikweni, kodwa ukuqedela ingxenye yesibili yombiko. Hhayi ukuzilolonga, kodwa ukwenza ukuguqulwa kuhlanzeke ngezingoma ezingamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ngomzuzu. Umphumela oqanjiwe uqeda isigaba sokucwaninga, ukupha inyathelo lokuqala elicacile, futhi ukutshele ekugcineni ukuthi isikhathi somsebenzi senzekile noma cha. Bhala umphumela phansi ngaphambi kokuba isikhathi somsebenzi siqale, hhayi ngemuva.

Izikhathi zomsebenzi ezimfushane kunemizuzu engamashumi amane nanhlanu zisafanele ukuthathwa. Kumele nje ziqondiswe entweni encane: isigaba esisodwa, isibalo esisodwa, ingxenye eyodwa. Iphutha akulona isikhathi esifushane somsebenzi, kodwa ukubeka umphumela wemizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye esikhathini samahora angamashumi amathathu bese uqeda ungenalutho lokubonisa. Ukwenza lokhu njalo kukufundisa ukuthi umkhuba awusebenzi, kanti okwenzeke ngempela ukuthi umgomo wawunobukhulu obungafanele.

Bese uthatha ikhefu langempela esikhundleni sokungena kuma-imeyili. Ucwaningo oluhlanganisa izifundo eziningi mayelana namakhefu amancane luthole ukuthi aphakamisa amandla futhi anciphisa ukukhathala ngokwethembeka, kuyilapho umthelela emsebenzini wawumncane futhi awufinyelelanga ekubalulekeni okuphelele, futhi amakhefu amade enza kangcono kunamafushane. Kufunde lokho ngobuqotho hhayi ngethemba: ukuhamba ngemuva kwesikhathi somsebenzi kungawamandla akho, futhi ngemuva kwemizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ekukhathaza ngempela, imizuzu eyishumi cishe ayanele.

Ucingo luyaphi?

Ekamelweni oluhlukile, hhayi ubuso buqondile phansi phezu kwedeski. Abacwaningi baseNyuvesi yaseTexas eAustin (University of Texas at Austin) benza ukuhlolwa nabasebenzisi bamafoni ahlakaniphile abacishe babe ngu-800, bathola ukuthi abantu ababenocingo lwabo ekamelweni oluhlukile benza kangcono kakhulu kunalabo abaluveza phansi budeski, konke lokhu kungaphandle kwemisindo yamafoni futhi kungekho noyedwa owayesebenzisa olwakhe.

Funda lokho ngokucophelela, ngoba yikho okutholiwe okuwusizo kakhulu kule ndatshana. Intengo yayingezona izaziso. Intengo yayikuko ukuba khona kwento, kanye nomzamo omncane oqhubekayo wokungayifinyeleli. Ukuyiveza phansi akukulungisi lokho. Ukuthula akukulungisi. Ibanga kuphela yikho okulungisayo.

Kuwushintsho lwemizuzwana emihlanu olunomvuzo wangempela, okwenza kube yisu elinemiphumela emikhulu okhona kuwe. Beka ucingo ekhishini, uvale umnyango, uvumele isikhathi somsebenzi sikuthathe konke. Uma udinga isibali sikhathi, sebenzisa isibali sikhathi esingelona ucingo lwakho.

Kwenzekani uma isonto liphuka?

Akukho okwenzekayo. Isonto eliphukile isonto, hhayi isigwebo, futhi inkolelo ebiza kakhulu kule ndikimba yonke ukuthi umkhuba owuphazamisile umkhuba owuhlulekile.

Amasonto ayaphuka ngezizathu ezinhle. Ukuqalwa komsebenzi omusha, ingane egulayo, ikota edle konke owawunakho. Umuntu othola iminyaka eyishumi kulokhu akusiye lowo omasonto akhe angaphuki nhlobo. Nguye lowo oqala futhi ngoMsombuluko ngaphandle kokuzenzela icala kuqala. Ukuphuthelwa yizikhathi zomsebenzi ezine kukubiza izikhathi zomsebenzi ezine kuphela. Kepha ukunquma ukuthi awusiye umuntu ongakwazi ukukwenza lokhu kukubiza iminyaka emibili elandelayo.

Gcina ibha yokuqala kabusha iphansi kakhulu: isikhathi somsebenzi esisodwa, umphumela owodwa, ngosuku lokuqala olunesikhala esihlanzekile. Ukuqala kabusha akuwona umqalo omusha futhi awudingi uhlelo olusha. Umkhuba ofanayo, oqhutshekiswa kabusha.

Nquma lo mthetho ngaphambili, ngesonto elihle, ngesikhathi ungazixoxisani nawe uqobo. Bhala phansi kwenye indawo ozoyithola: ngemuva kwanoma yisiphi isikhala, isikhathi somsebenzi esilandelayo simizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye enomphumela omncane owodwa, futhi senzeka ngosuku lokuqala olunesikhathi esihlanzekile. Umthetho owenziwe ngaphambili uphila esimweni sengqondo esibi. Isinqumo esenziwe ekuseni ngemuva kwamasonto amabili ashabalele cishe asiphili nhlobo.

Isikhathi somsebenzi semizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye siyisikhathi esinzima

Akukho lapha okuphikisana nokwenza okuncane. Ngaphandle kwemithetho eqinile kusho ngaphandle komkhuba, hhayi ngaphandle kwamandla, futhi imizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye eqhutshwa kahle idinga okwengeziwe kunamahora amane esihlalweni nesiphequluli sesivulekile.

Ngaphakathi kuleso sikhathi somsebenzi usebenza emngceleni walokho ongakwenza njengamanje, ngomphumela owodwa oqanjiwe, ucingo lusekamelweni oluhlukile futhi kungekho okunye okufanele ukunaka kwakho. Uzokuzwa ekugcineni. Kuphinda futhi kwenzeke ngoLwesithathu ojwayelekile ekotheni ejwayelekile, futhi lelo phawu yilo elinquma ukuthi ubani osazobe elokhu emuhle kulokhu ngemuva kweminyaka eyishumi.

Hlonipha isifiso esakwenza wazama isikhathi samahora amane kuqala. Bese ubeka isikhathi somsebenzi semizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye esikhaleni esikhulu kunazo zonke sakusasa, uqambe umphumela wayo namuhla ebusuku, futhi ushiye ucingo ekhishini.

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