Ufuna izinga elilandelayo, futhi unelungelo lokulifuna. Sekuyizinyanga wenza izingxenye zalowo msebenzi, umjikelezo uvalwa emasontweni ambalwa, futhi into eyodwa ekuvimba esihlokweni yingxoxo ongakaze uyibeke obala.
Ukucela akusiyo impikiswano nokukusebenzela. Ukucela kuyisinyathelo sokugcina sokukusebenzela. Umsebenzi ungowangempela, futhi uyabonakala kubo bonke ababematasa benza owabo. Kufanele kube khona umuntu oguqula unyaka wonke womzamo abe umusho othathi wesinqumo angawuphinda, futhi lowo muntu nguwe, emhlanganweni owubhukhile ngenxa yalokho.
Ukuzola akulona uhlobo oluthambile lwalokhu. Yikho okugcina izwi lakho lizinzile ngesikhathi ubiza izinga bese uthula. Umsunguli we-KEEP CALM, uKaʻohele Carlos, wasebenza kanzima impilo yakhe yonke wahlala ezothile phakathi kwakho konke, futhi uthi ukuzola yikho okwenza izicelo zakhe zafinyelela. Nawu umhlangano, ngokulandelana.
Ngiwuqala kanjani umhlangano ngingazwakali ngikhononda?
Qala ngezinga, hhayi ngomuzwa. Emasekhondini angamashumi amathathu okuqala yisho okuseduze nalokhu: "Ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokwenyukela esikhundleni sobuchwepheshe obuphezulu, futhi ngifuna umbono wakho ngokusasele phakathi kwami nalokho." Bese uyathula, ubavumele baphendule.
Lowo musho wenza izinto ezintathu ngasikhathi sinye. Utshela umphathi wakho ukuthi lo akuwona umbiko wenqubekelaphambili, ngakho bayeka ukulalela ngengxenye belinde igama lephrojekthi. Ubiza umgomo, okuguqula isifiso esingacacile sibe yinto abangayeseka noma bayilungise. Futhi ucela umbono wabo ngaphambi kokuba uveze owakho, ngakho isigamu sehora esisele siba yingxoxo esikhundleni sesikhulumo okumele bahlale bezwe sonke.
Wubhukhe njengomhlangano ozimele bese ubeka isihloko esimemweni. "Umsebenzi nezinga, imizuzu engamashumi amathathu" kwanele. Akekho othanda ukubanjwa engalindele emizuzwini emibili yokugcina yomhlangano wobabili, futhi umphathi ongangenanga elungiselele uzobamba impendulo ephephe kunazo zonke, okuwukuthi uzoyicabanga. Ufuna balungiselele. Umphathi olungiselele nguye kuphela ongasho uyebo ekamelweni.
Kufanele ngize nobufakazi obungakanani, futhi yini ebalwayo?
Yiza nezibonelo ezintathu, bese wakha ngayinye ngezingxenye ezintathu: owakwenzayo, okwaguqukayo ngenxa yakho, nokwakubona. Okuthathu kwanele ukukhombisa iphethini futhi kufushane ngokwanele ukuthi ukwazi ukudlula kuko konke ngaphambi kokuba ukunaka komunye kuhambe.
Okubalwayo wushintsho, hhayi umzamo. "Ngahola ukuthuthwa kwedatha" yincazelo yomsebenzi. "Ngahola ukuthuthwa kwedatha, isikhathi sokuvuleka kwekhasi sehla kusuka kumasekhondi amane saya kwelilodwa, futhi ulayini wosizo wehla ngengxenye yesithathu ngenyanga eyalandela" lobo yibona bufakazi. Uma ungakwazi ukusho okuguqukile, khetha esinye isibonelo. Futhi uma ungakwazi ukubala ezintathu ngekhanda njengamanje, lokho kujwayelekile ngokuphelele. Kuyisizathu futhi sokugcina ifayela lomsebenzi wakho unyaka wonke esikhundleni sokuzama ukwakha kabusha izinyanga eziyishumi nambili emizuzwini engamashumi amabili ngaphambi komhlangano.
Ingxenye yesithathu, ukuthi ubani owakubonayo, yiyona iningi labantu eliyishiyayo, futhi yenza umsebenzi omkhulu kunalokho okubonakalayo. Amagama yiwona avumela umphathi wakho ukuba akubalule komunye umuntu. "Wenza umsebenzi omuhle" akuyi ndawo. "Buza uPriya ukuthi kwenzekani ekuthuthweni kwedatha" kuya yonke indawo.
Ubani ngempela onquma lokhu, futhi ngingafinyelela kanjani ekamelweni engingekho kulo?
Ezinkampanini eziningi isinqumo asenziwa emhlanganweni wakho. Senziwa kamuva, emhlanganweni wokulinganisa lapho abaphathi bebanga khona abantu babo bemelene, futhi wena awukho kulelo kamelo. Icala lakho kumele lihambe emlonyeni womunye umuntu, yingakho abantu abakwazi ukuchaza umsebenzi wakho ngokunembayo bebaluleke njengomsebenzi uqobo.
Ngakho bheka lowo mugqa wokuthi ubani owabonayo bese uzibuza umbuzo oqondile: ubani okulolo hlu ngoba wena wambeka khona? Abantu abasho igama lakho emakamelweni cishe njalo bangabantu owaqala wena ngokusho amagama abo. Umeluleki ukhuluma nawe. Umxhasi usho igama lakho ekamelweni ongekho kulo, futhi iningi lethu selike lanikwa igama lokuqala kuphela.
Akukho bhodi lamaphuzu lapha futhi akukho kushintshiselana. Kusondele endleleni idumela elakheka ngayo ngempela. Uma udumisa osebenza naye omusha ngegama phambi komqondisi wakho, kwenzeka izinto ezimbili zangempela: umsebenzi wakhe uyabonakala, okuwumcimbi omkhulu emsebenzini wakhe, futhi umqondisi wakho ufunda ukuthi uziphatha kanjani iminikelo yabanye, okumtshela okuningi kunanoma yikuphi ukuzibuyekeza. Bese ubuyela kwelakho ikhasi.
Ngithini uma bethi manje akusona isikhathi?
Buza ukuthi yini ngqo eshodayo, nokuthi ingabuyekezwa nini. Bese ukubhala kokubili phambi kwabo bese ukufunda okubhalile ubabuyisela kona. Ucha othambile luba wuhlelo olusebenzayo ngesikhathi lunamathiselwe isilinganiso nosuku.
Iningi labaphathi alikwenqabi ngamabomu. Bathi "hhayi okwamanje" ngoba abakacabangi ngakho, futhi u"hhayi okwamanje" ongenalutho oluchaziwe ngaphansi kwawo yiyona ndlela unyaka owodwa omuhle oba ngayo iminyaka emithathu buthule. Umsebenzi wakho kulowo mzuzu ukuguqula inkungu ibe yinto ehlolekayo. "Ngakho uma ngiyiqhuba yonke inqubo yokubuyekeza abahlinzeki kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekugcineni futhi uhlelo lokusebenza ngaphandle kwehora lubambe kuwo wonke ikota yokuqala, sibuye sikubheke lokhu ngoMashi" ngumusho umphathi angavumelana nawo ngomlomo, futhi uma esenzile, nobabili senibambe iphepha elilodwa.
Uma engakwazi neze ukubiza igebe, nalokho kuyimininingwane. Ngokuvamile kusho ukuthi isinqumo asisona esakhe. Umbuzo olandelayo ngothi ubani omunye okumele akholiswe, nokuthi yini engenza kube lula ngomphathi wakho ukwenza lelo cala egameni lakho.
Ngihlala ngizinzile kanjani uma impendulo ingidumaza?
Yehlisa ukukhipha umoya, ubhale amagama abo njengoba bewasho, futhi ungaxoxisani kabusha khona lapho. Noma yini oyisho emizuzwini eyishumi elandela impendulo edumazayo iyimpendulo yomuzwa, futhi leyo mpendulo yiyona ngxenye yomhlangano abantu abayikhumbula isikhathi eside.
Uvunyelwe ukudumala. Awuphoqiwe ukuthi wenze sengathi konke kulungile. Isu ukuphetha ngohlelo esikhundleni somuzwa: phinda igebe, phinda usuku, uthi ngiyabonga, bese uhamba. Bese wenza into evumela umzimba wakho ukubeka phansi umhlangano. Ukuhamba ngezinyawo, ihora elinzima ejimini, noma yini eyinguqulo yakho. I-adrenaline engenandawo yokuya iguquka ibe wumhlangano wesibili owubamba ekhanda lakho ubusuku bonke.
Funda amanothi akho futhi ekuseni kwangakusasa, lapho amagama esehlile ubuhlungu. Cishe zonke izinqumo ezifanele ukwenziwa ngalokhu ziba zinhle ngoLwesibili kunangoMsombuluko.
Ukucela likhono, futhi liyashibha njalo
Isicelo sokuqala yisona esibiza kakhulu. Uzosizilolongela ngokweqile, isivinini senhliziyo yakho sizoba ngaphezu kwalokho isimo esikufanele, futhi uzochitha isonto lonke uphinda umusho okungekho omunye owukhumbulayo. Esesibili sibiza cishe uhhafu. Ngesesine usuwumuntu nje obhukha umhlangano, asho izinga, alethe ubufakazi obuthathu, bese ephuma nosuku.
Lokho kubalulekile ukukwazi, ngoba isizathu sokuthi kungani abantu abaningi bekhokhelwa kancane futhi benezikhundla ezingaphansi akukhona ukuthi abanalo icala. Ukuthi balinde ukubonwa uhlelo olumatasa. I-Gallup yathola ukuthi u-51% wabasebenzi abashiya umsebenzi ngokuzithandela bathi ezinyangeni ezintathu ngaphambi kokuhamba, umphathi wabo nanoma yimuphi omunye umholi wayengakaze akhulume nabo ngokwaneliseka kwabo emsebenzini noma ngekusasa labo enkampanini. Ingxoxo ngeke iza kuwe. I-Pew Research Center yathola ukuthi phakathi kwabantu abayeka umsebenzi ngo-2021, ukungabi bikho kwethuba lokuthuthuka kwakulingana nomholo ophansi njengesizathu esivame kunazo zonke, ngo-63%.
Ngakho wubhukhe umhlangano. Yiza nezintathu. Phuma nosuku. Ungasebenza ngamandla kunalawo osebenza ngawo manje futhi uhlale isikhathi eside kunalokho ocabangayo, futhi isicelo yiyona ngxenye eguqula wonke lowo mzamo ube yisihloko omunye umuntu angasibona.