Usuwenzile umsebenzi. Uyazi cishe ukuthi le ndima ikhokha malini, uyazi ukuthi ulethe ini kulo nyaka, futhi unenani osengqondweni elithi ukushaya phezudlwana kwalelo obungathula ulamukele. Leyo ingxenye enkulu yomsebenzi osuwuqedile, futhi yiyo ingxenye abantu abaningi abangaze bayifinyelele nhlobo. Okusele kuthatha cishe amasekhondi amane. Umuntu uyabuza ukuthi ufunani, wena usho inombolo, bese kuvela isikhala engxoxweni. Ingxenye ethusayo yomphumela ihlala kuleso sikhala.
Lokhu kuwuhlobo lwekhono hhayi imvelo yobuntu bakho, futhi lezo yizindaba ezimnandi, ngoba amakhono ayaqeqeshwa kodwa ubuntu obuningi abuguquki. Abantu abathulile bavame ukuba nekhono elimangalisayo kulokhu. Bakuprakthiza ukusho umusho owodwa ohlanzekile bese bengawushongo olandelayo.
Ngempela ngithini uma bebuza ukuthi ngifunani?
Sho umusho owodwa ophelele onenani ngaphakathi kuwo, bese uyema. "Ngifuna izinkulungwane eziyikhulu neshumi" nguwo wonke umugqa, futhi okuningi abantu abakunezelayo emva kwawo kubadla imali.
Kunemikhuba emithathu evuza inani kulowo musho, futhi yomithathu ingalungiswa kuleli sonto. Owokuqala ububanzi bamanani. Uma uthi ngamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye nanhlanu kuya kwikhulu nanhlanu, wena unikeze ikhulu nanhlanu kodwa bona bezwe amashumi ayisishiyagalolunye nanhlanu, ngakho ububanzi bunombolo ephansi egqoke isembatho. Owesibili yisandulelo: "Ngiyazi ukuthi izabelomali zicindezelekile, futhi kusobala ukuthi ngiyaguquguquka, kodwa benginethemba lokuthi." Ngesikhathi inombolo ifika, isivele yehliswe kathathu umuntu ofuna ukuyehlisa. Owesithathu yileli gama elithi "kodwa" elilenga ekugcineni. Noma yini elandela elithi "kodwa" iwukudela okungacelwanga muntu.
Ngakho sebenzisa uhlelo lolimi olulula lweqiniso. Hhayi isicelo, hhayi ithemba, inombolo. Ucwaningo ngezicelo zokuqala luvumelana ngesizathu sokuthi kungani lokhu kubalulekile: kuzo zonke izivivinyo, uhlangothi olubeka inani etafuleni kuqala luvame ukuphetha lungcono, futhi lelo nani lokuqala libikezela kakhulu lapho isivumelwano sigcina sihlala khona.
Kufanele ngithule isikhathi esingakanani emva kokusho inombolo yami?
Amasekhondi amane awumkhawulo ophansi omuhle wokusebenza, futhi uma umuntu omunye ebonakala esacabanga, qhubeka ulinde. Lokho kuthula akusikho ukwaliwa futhi akusikho ukubangisana. Ukuthula akusiyo indlela yokuveza amandla, kuwukubala okwenzekayo.
Iningi lethu alikwazi ukuzwa umehluko phakathi kwamasekhondi amabili nayisishiyagalombili, yingakho ukubala kusiza. Bala imizuzwana emine kancane. Uma kungakenzeki lutho, bala eminye emine. Okuzivikela kukho umuzwa ophuthumayo wokusindisa lowo mzuzu, ngoba umuntu ogcwalisa ukuthula cishe njalo ukugcwalisa ngokudela, futhi cishe njalo kuba ngumuntu okhulume kamuva.
Abacwaningi be-MIT Sloan bahlaziya izingxoxo ezirekhodiwe bathola ukuthi ukuthula okungenani kwamasekhondi amathathu kwakuvame ukufika ngaphambi nje kwezinguquko ezinkulu, futhi, okusiza kakhulu, ukuthi lokho kuthula kwenza zombili izinhlangothi zizuze esikhundleni sokwesabisa nje elilodwa. Ukuthula kuphazamisa umbono wokuthi inzuzo yomuntu oyedwa kufanele ibe ukulahlekelwa komunye. Yileso isizathu esiqotho sokuma umzuzwana, futhi sinamandla kunenguqulo yeqhinga, ngoba ungakusebenzisa kumuntu ozobe usasebenza naye ngoMsombuluko.
Kuthiwani uma bengiphikisa ngingakaqedi?
Bavumele baqede umusho, bese usho inani lakho okwesibili ngezwi elifana ncamashi nalelo olisebenzise okokuqala. Umsindo ofanayo, isivinini esifanayo, awukho amagama amasha.
Ukuphinda kwenza into impikiswano entsha engenakuyenza. Inombolo eshiwo kanye ingavivinywa. Inombolo eshiwo kabili, ngokuzola, ngaphandle kwentukuthelo nangaphandle kwesizathu esisha esinamathiselwe kuyo, ifundeka njengento esiqediwe, futhi abantu bayayeka ukusunduza izinto esezinqunyiwe. Shintsha izwi lakho bese usubatshelile ukuthi inombolo iyanyakaza, noma nje izinombolo zingashintshanga.
Uma bebuza ukuthi kungani, nikeza isizathu esisodwa esisekelwe emsebenzini, bese uphinda uthule. "Yilapho imakethe ime khona kulo msebenzi" kwanele. Ungabeki izizathu ezintathu ndawonye. Inqwaba yezizathu izwakala njengomuntu ozikholisayo, futhi isizathu esibuthakathaka kunazo zonke enqwabeni yiso abazophikisana naso.
Ngizivimba kanjani ekwehliseni inombolo yami?
Bhala lowo musho ngaphambi kokungena bese uwubeka lapho ungawubona khona. Ukufunda umugqa osuvele wanquma ngawo kulula kakhulu kunokuqamba omusha ngesikhathi inhliziyo yakho igijima.
Bese unika izandla nomlomo wakho umsebenzi. Vula incwadi yamanothi bese ubhala ngaso leso sikhathi uqeda ukukhuluma, ngoba ukubhala kuyisizathu esizwakalayo sokuthula futhi kubukeka njengobungoti hhayi umqhudelwano wokugqolozelana. Ocingweni, inkinobho ye-mute ingumngane wakho amasekhondi amane kuphela.
Qaphela amagama amabili achitha umsebenzi wakho: "kodwa" nelithi "nje". "Kodwa ngiyaguquguquka" kubuyisela konke obukubambile. "Bengizibuza nje" kuguqula isicelo sibe yingozi. Wakhiphe womabili ephepheni, lapho eshibhile khona, esikhundleni sokuwakhipha emlonyeni wakho, lapho engashibhile khona.
Yimaphi amanani amathathu okufanele ngiwanqume ngaphambi kokungena?
Mathathu: isicelo sokuqala osisho ngomlomo, inhloso ongayisayina namuhla, nenani ongahamba ngalo olalela ngomusa. Nquma womathathu ntambama ethule, ngokubhaliwe, ungalokothi uqambe elilodwa usemhlanganweni.
Isicelo sokuqala sihlala ngenhla kwenhloso ngenhloso, ngoba inombolo eshiwo kuqala ibeka uphahla futhi konke okulandelayo kuhamba ngokwehla. Inhloso yiyo eqotho, inani elingakwenza uthi yebo ungacabangi kabili. Inani lokuhamba livikela lawo mabili, ngoba inombolo osuvele wanquma ukuyala ilula kakhulu ukuyala uphakathi kwegumbi.
Abantu bagoba ngenxa yesizathu esisodwa ngaphezu kwazo zonke. Abakaze banqume kusengaphambili, ngakho bagcina bebala futhi belawula imizwa ngasikhathi sinye, phambi kwezethameli, kuhamba isikhathi. Amanani amathathu ephepheni akhipha ingxenye yalowo mthwalo. Wakhiphe ngephrinta, ubeke ikhasi libheke phansi eceleni kwelaptop, ulijike uma ulidinga.
Lawo masekhondi amane ayaqeqeshwa, awuzalwa nawo
Umzimba ohlala uzinzile ngaphansi kwengcindezi uyakhiwa, futhi ukwakhiwa kwenzeka kwenye indawo hhayi emhlanganweni. Noma ubani osebambe isisindo esikhulu okwesikhathi eside kunalokho obekukhululekile usevele ukuprakthizile ukuhlala ezolile inhliziyo yakhe igijima, okuyikho kanye lawo masekhondi amane akucela kuwe. Lokho akuyona indlela eyeqayo eya empilweni enhle. Yisona sizathu sokuthi kungani umuntu oqeqeshe ngoLwesibili enezwi elizinzile ngoLwesithathu.
Kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi le ngxoxo ijwayelekile futhi yenzeka kangakanani. I-Pew Research Center yathola ukuthi kubantu abashiya umsebenzi ngo-2021 badlulela komusha, u-56% wabo wayesehola kakhulu emva kwalokho. Imali iyanyakaza uma abantu becela, futhi ukucela kuyingxenye evamile yempilo yokusebenza hhayi isenzo sesibindi esikhethekile.
Umsunguli we-KEEP CALM, uKaʻohele Carlos, unguChief Design Officer osebenze kanzima wonke umsebenzi wakhe futhi wathola izindlela zokuhlala ezolile kukho konke. Lezo zinto ezimbili zahamba eduze kwaso sonke isikhathi, futhi yiso kuphela isizathu sokuthi lokhu kufanelwe ukudluliselwa: lawo masekhondi amane akulona iqhinga lokufuna okuncane. Liyiqhinga lokucela okuningi ubuye uhlale ugumbini, ubuye uhlale nasembonini, eminyakeni engamashumi amabili ezayo.
Cela inombolo oyifuna ngempela. Yisho njengomusho. Bese uvumela amasekhondi amane adlule, ubavumele bakhulume kuqala.