Uyawazi umsebenzi wakho futhi uzimisele ngokugcwele ukukhokhelwa ngendlela efanele ngawo. Ngakho uma ozakwenu ekhipha inani lakhe ngephutha ngesikhathi sokudla kwasemini bese kuvela ukuthi likhulu kunelakho, ngomsebenzi obukeka ufana kakhulu nowakho, into ewusizo ozoyazi ukuthi usanda kunikwa into ebalulekile. Abantu abaningi bachitha iminyaka bengenalo ngisho neliphuzu elilodwa elithembekile ledatha ngokuthi umsebenzi wabo ubiza malini ngempela, kanti wena uthole elilodwa mahhala, phezu kwesemishi, kumuntu othathe ingozi encane ukuze alisho ngomlomo.
Umuzwa osesifubeni sakho ungowangempela futhi uzodlula. Inani ngeke lidlule, uma ulibhala phansi. Okwenzeka ngemuva kwalokho kuyinqubo, hhayi umoya ozizwa ngawo, futhi kuqala namuhla ntambama, hhayi emasontweni amathathu ezayo, uma ubuhlungu sebuphelile futhi kungashintshanga lutho.
Ozakwethu uhola kakhulu kunami ngomsebenzi ofanayo. Kufanele ngenzeni kuqala?
Bhala phansi inani labo, namuhla, kanye nesihloko sesikhundla sabo, iminyaka yabo yolwazi nosuku. Manje seliyiphuzu lokuqala ebangeni olakhayo, futhi ibanga yilona ozogcina ucela ngalo.
Kwenze lokhu ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini enye, ngoba inani liyabola ngendlela umuzwa ongaboli ngayo. Ngesonto uzokhumbula ukuthi lalilikhulu, kodwa uzobe usulahlekelwe yizinombolo. Ephepheni, eduze kwesihloko nosuku, liba ubufakazi. Ekhanda lakho lihlala liyisikhalo, futhi izikhalo aziphili engxoxweni ngenkokhelo.
Bhala phansi nalokho okwaziyo ngesimo somsebenzi wabo, ngomugqa owodwa: yini abayiphetheyo, babika kubani, sekuyisikhathi esingakanani bewenza. Awakhi icala ngamuntu, wakha ukuqhathanisa okuzobambelela lapho umuntu ophezulu ekuphikisa, futhi ukuqhathanisa okungacacile akubambeleli.
Bese uyayivala incwadi. Awenzi isinqumo namuhla ntambama. Uyaqoqa.
Ngiyeqa kanjani yonke le ntambama?
Sukuma uhambe umzuzu eyishumi endaweni ethile, ukhiphe umoya isikhathi eside kunalapho ungenisa umoya, futhi ungathumeli lutho kumuntu. Abacwaningi eStanford bahlola leyo ndlela egxile ekukhipheni umoya imizuzu emihlanu ngosuku inyanga yonke bathola ukuthi yaphakamisa umoya womuntu ngaphezu kokuzindla, okuyinzuzo enkulu emyalelweni omncane kakhulu womzimba. Umuzwa uwukusabela kokuziqhathanisa, unomsindo, futhi uyaphela uma wenqaba ukuwondla.
Lokho ozivikela kukho yinguqulo yokusabela ngokushesha: umyalezo kumngane othathwa isithombe sesikrini, impendulo ebandayo kuozakwenu okutshelile, incwadi yokushiya umsebenzi ebhalwe ngo-4 ntambama ozoyibuyisa emuva ngo-9 ekuseni ngakusasa. Akukho okuthumelayo namuhla okungcono kunento efanayo ethunyelwe ngoMsombuluko, futhi okuningi kwakho kubi kakhulu.
Ukutshelwa ukuthi umuntu uhola malini kuvame futhi ukuzwakala njengesigwebo ngendlela obenza ngayo, kanti lokho kufundwa akulungile ngeqiniso. Amaholo abekwa ngokuthi waqashwa nini, wacela ini ngaleso sikhathi, iliphi iqembu elalinesabelomali ngaleso sikhathi, nokuthi imakethe yayihamba kanjani ngenyanga umuntu asayina ngayo iphepha. Iholo lomunye umuntu liyidatha ngemakethe, futhi alisona isigwebo ngawe.
Ngiliguqula kanjani inani elilodwa libe ibanga elifanele ukucelela kulo?
Thola amanye amaphuzu amabili edatha ngesikhundla esifanayo nendawo ecishe ifane, bese uthatha eliphezulu kwamathathu njengokuhlose kukho. Inani elilodwa liyindaba nje, amabili yisenzakalo esizenzakalelayo, kanti amathathu yizinga lemakethe ongalisho ngomlomo izwi lakho lingathuthumeli.
Ukuthi amanye amabili avelaphi, ngokulandelana okusebenza ngempela. Abantu osubazi abenza umsebenzi wakho kwenye indawo, ubabuze ngokusobala, ngoba abantu abaningi bazokutshela uma nawe ubatshela okwakho kuqala. Amabanga eholo avulelekile ezikhangisweni zemisebenzi zesikhundla sakho, kunoma ikuphi lapho abaqashi bewashicilela khona, okungumthombo ongahlazisi neze. Abaqashi bezisebenzi, abazokunika ibanga ngocingo olulodwa futhi abakhokhelwa ukuze bazi. Nanoma iyiphi idatha yenkokhelo eshicilelwe yomsebenzi wakho nezwe lakho, okuyinto emahhala ukuyifunda futhi okungenani izokuvimba ukuba ungabi kude nokuqondile.
Bese ubeka usuku. Ukwehluleka okuvame kakhulu lapha akukhona ukuthola inani elingafanele, kungukuthola inani elifanele bese ungenzi lutho ngalo unyaka wonke. Beka isicelo esontweni elithile, kubhaliwe, ngaphambi kokuba umuzwa uphele, ngoba umuzwa uwuphethiloli futhi uphethiloli awuhlali.
Kuthiwani uma kukhona isizathu sangempela sokuthi ahole kakhulu?
Kwesinye isikhathi sikhona, futhi ukusithola kungumphumela omuhle hhayi omubi. Bangase babe nomsebenzi obanzi ongenawo, izinga lemakethe lekhono elingavamile, noma ukuxoxisana abakwenza ngcono kunawe, futhi ngayinye yalezo ikutshela ngokuqondile ukuthi wenzeni okulandelayo.
Ucwaningo lwasensimini olushicilelwe yiNational Bureau of Economic Research lwathola ukuthi abantu banemibono eyiphutha emikhulu ngokuthi abaphathi babo bahola malini, nemibono eyiphutha emincane kodwa eyangempela ngozakwabo, okusika nhlangothi zombili. Igebe olicabangayo lingase libe lincane kunalokho okuzwakala ngakho, futhi lingase libe likhulu kakhulu. Akukho kukho okwaziwayo ngokudla kwasemini okukodwa.
Okufanele kwenziwe, uma usuyazi ukuthi yikuphi kukho, ukubuza umbuzo okuguqula kube uhlelo: bekufanele ngibe ngenzani ukuze inani lami libukeke njengelabo. Uma impendulo iwumsebenzi obanzi, cela lowo msebenzi obanzi. Uma likhono, bhalisela isifundo. Uma iyingxoxo, yenza leyo ngxoxo. Yonke inguqulo yaleyo mpendulo iyenzeka, yingakho ukuthola isizathu sangempela kuyizindaba ezingcono kunokungatholi lutho.
Kukhona nethuba eliqotho lokuthi awukaze nje ucele. Lokho kufanele kushiwo ngaphandle kwamahloni, ngoba yiyona nguqulo yale ndaba elungiseka kalula kunazo zonke. Abantu abakhokhelwa lokho abakubizayo, bakhokhelwa lokho okwavunyelwana ngakho, futhi lesi sivumelwano sasiyingxoxo eyaqalwa ngumuntu othile. Kulo nyaka uthola ithuba lokuba ngumuntu oyiqalayo.
Yiba ngumuntu olisho ngomlomo inani
Umuntu ukutshelile ukuthi uhola malini, ezifaka engozini, futhi cishe kuyinto ewusizo kakhulu eyenzeke emsebenzini wakho kuwo wonke unyaka. Umuzwa olungile kulowo muntu ukubonga, hhayi ukuziqhathanisa, futhi kufanele ukubhale phansi lokho intambama ingakapheli.
Bese wenza okufanayo, ngoba yiyona ndlela esheshayo yokukhulisa ibanga olilinganiswa ngalo. Abantu abazi ukuthi umsebenzi ubiza malini bacela okwengeziwe, bathole okwengeziwe, futhi badonse ibanga liye phezulu ngemuva kwabo. Abantu abangazi bamukela isicelo sokuqala futhi bacindezele ibanga phansi kubo bonke. Ukuthi yikuphi kwalokho okwenzeka emsebenzini wakho eminyakeni emihlanu ezayo kunqunywa ukuthi kukhona yini osho inani langempela ngomlomo, futhi manje usungumuntu ongakwazi.
Imithetho emibili yenza kube yisenzo hhayi umoya nje. Nikeza inani lakho hhayi elomunye umuntu, ngoba elesibili ngelomunye umuntu ukulinikeza. Futhi ulinike umuntu elimsizayo, buthule, kunokulinika igumbi lonke. Ucwaningo lokugwema ulwazi lukhombisa ukuthi abantu bazolwenqaba ulwazi olusizayo, olumahhala, uma lungase luphathe isigwebo, ngakho isipho ngokuvamile kumele siphume kuwe kunokuba sicelwe.
Akukho kuphoqelelwa kukho konke lokhu, futhi ayikho necala ngokuthula. Ube nentambama enzima futhi uvunyelwe ukuyichitha ezinombolweni zakho. Kodwa ibanga ozocela kulo ngonyaka ozayo libekwa khona manje, ngabantu abakhulumayo noma abangakhulumi, futhi umusho owodwa olula ovela kuwe uliqhubela phambili ngaphezu kwanoma ikuphi ukwethemba ukuthi imakethe izobona.
Imithombo
- National Bureau of Economic Research, How Much Does Your Boss Make? The Effects of Salary Comparisons
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