Ubusesidlweni obekade usibheke phambili inyanga yonke, futhi phakathi nokudla okuyinhloko waqaphela ukuthi ubucabanga ngephrojekthi. Ungaxazululi lutho. Uyisebenzisa nje ngemuva ekhanda, ngezwi eliphansi, ungayijabuleli nokuyijabulela.
Lokho akulona uphawu lokuthi ufuna into engalungile futhi akusona isizathu sokuyifuna kancane. Kuwuphawu lokuthi lesi sifiso asinasitsha, ngakho sesizisabalalise buthule kuwo wonke amahora onawo, okuyisivumelwano esibi uma sikalwa ngomsebenzi okhiqizwayo kuphela: isifiso esivuliwe ngaso sonke isikhathi asikhiqizi lutho cishe isikhathi esiningi. Isixazululo simayelana nesakhiwo kunemizwa. Unquma kusenesikhathi ukuthi sithola maphi amahora, sivinjelwe kuphi, nokuthi yini esidlulayo. Bese usinika konke onakho ngaphakathi kwaleyo mingcele, futhi sihlala sibukhali iminyaka engamashumi amabili esikhundleni sokushisa iminyaka emibili.
Kusho ukuthini ngempela ukunika isifiso isitsha?
Izinqumo ezintathu, zibhalwe phansi: amahora esiwatholayo, izindawo eyodwa noma ezimbili esingavunyelwe kuzo, nobudlelwano obubodwa obudlula sona.
Amahora yingxenye elula futhi yingxenye abantu abayiphambanisayo. Isitsha akuwona umkhawulo wesifiso, kuyimvume yokuba ungabi nangqondo ngokuphelele ngaphakathi kwemingcele. Kusukela ngehora lesithupha kuya kwelesishiyagalombili ekuseni ngamasonto, kanye nasekuseni ngoMgqibelo, kuwumsebenzi omningi ngempela, ungaphezu kwalokho abantu abaningi abazichaza ngokuthi basebenza njalo abakwenzayo.
Amagumbi avaliwe abaluleke ukudlula amahora. Khetha ukudla okukodwa, igumbi elilodwa, noma ihora elilodwa eliphindaphindayo bese ulenza libe ngeliphelele: akukho foni, akukho ukukhuluma ngakho ngokuzwakalayo, akukho ukuvunyelwa ngesonto elibaluleke ngempela, ngoba wonke amasonto azobaluleka ngempela. Isidlo esisodwa negumbi lokulala elilodwa kwanele. Ukuphelela yikho okuyisithako esisebenzayo, ngoba umthetho onezimo ezikhethekile uyintando nje futhi ushayelwa indiva yinto yokuqala ephuthumayo.
Bese ubalula ubudlelwano obudlula lesi sifiso, ngokuzwakalayo, kulowo muntu. Lowo musho wenza imisebenzi emibili. Uyabatshela, into abangase bangayazi njengamanje, futhi uyakubopha phambi kukafakazi.
Kungani isitsha singenza ngibe ngcono kule nto, hhayi ngibe mubi?
Ngoba ukufisa okungenamngcele akuwona umzamo omkhulu. Kungumzamo ofanayo osabalele kabanzi futhi ukhokhiswa intela ukucabanga okungapheli.
USonnentag noFritz bakhomba ukuzihlukanisa ngokomqondo nomsebenzi, ikhono lokuyeka ukuzibandakanya ngengqondo nawo ngemva kwamahora omsebenzi, njengesinye sezinto ezine ezihlukene zokululama, kanye nokuphumula, ubungcweti nokulawula. Ukuzihlukanisa kuyindlela eqondile, futhi yiyo eyephulwa ukucabanga etafuleni lesidlo. Awukwazi ukuzihlukanisa kokuthile okungenamngcele, ngoba awukho umzuzu lapho ngokusemthethweni kungenzeki khona.
Kunomehluko ocwaningweni ohambisana nalokhu cishe ngokuphelele. UVallerand nozakwabo, kuzifundo ezine ezinababambiqhaza abangaphezu kwama-900, bahlukanisa uthando oluhlelekile, lapho umuntu ekhetha ukuzibandakanya kokuthile akuthandayo, kuthando olunamathelayo, lapho ingcindezi yangaphakathi imenza azibandakanye kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyahambisana yini nokunye ekuphileni kwakhe. Kokubili kufaka ukunakekela kakhulu. Uthando oluhlelekile lwasekela ukuzivumelanisa okunempilo, kanti uthando olunamathelayo lwakhiqiza imizwa emibi nokuqhubeka okungaguquki.
Yileso isizathu sesitsha ngomugqa owodwa. Akuwona amandla akubizayo: ukungabikho kweswishi.
Iya kuphi ingcindezi ngezinsuku engatholi ngazo lokho ekufunayo?
Endaweni ethile yomzimba, ngamabomu, ngesimiso. Lokhu akulona ikhefu lempilo elifakwe endabeni emayelana nesifiso. Kuwumsunguli we-KEEP CALM echaza indlela yakhe siqu: uthi ukuzivocavoca kwakuyingxenye yendlela ayephatha ngayo ingcindezi yokwakha umsebenzi wakhe, futhi uyibheka njengesisekelo esibalulekile kunomklomelo wokuqeda.
Phatha iseshini njengesithwala isisindo. Yiyo eyenza isonto elilandelayo elinzima libe ngelidluliswayo, okuyiso kanye isizathu sokuba idlule ihora elengeziwe lomsebenzi kunokuba yehlulwe yilo. Ucwaningo oluhlanganisiwe olushicilelwe ku-Scientific Reports lwathola ukuthi ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzivocavoca kwehlisa ukusabela komfutho wegazi ophezulu ezintweni ezicindezelayo zaselabhorethri, umphumela oqine kakhulu kubantu abanomfutho wegazi ophakeme. Ubukhulu bomphumela buncane. Kodwa futhi kungenye yezinto ezimbalwa ezisezandleni zakho ngokuphelele ngosuku olubi kunazo zonke ekota.
Inguqulo esebenzisekayo: amaseshini amathathu ngesonto, ekhalendeni ngezikhathi ezimisiwe, alinganiselwe esontweni lakho elimatasa kakhulu kunelakho elihle kunazo zonke. Imizuzu engamashumi amane eyenzeka njalo ngesonto inqoba imizuzu engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ekhanselwa njalo lapho ikota ithatha umsindo. Futhi isethi enzima ukuzithiba okuzivocavocwa ngaphansi komthwalo, okuyilona khono lelo umhlangano onzima osuzowucela kuwe.
Ngiyeka kanjani ukucabanga ngakho ngehora leshumi ebusuku?
Vala isiyingi ngokubhala ngaphambi kokusuka etafuleni lomsebenzi, ngoba ukucabanga okuningi kwasebusuku kuyisiyingi esivulekile kunenkinga yangempela.
Imizuzu emihlanu, imigqa emithathu: yini eqhubekile namuhla, isinyathelo esilandelayo esiqondile sakusasa, nento eyodwa olindele omunye umuntu kuyo. Umugqa wesithathu yiwo ovamise ukwenza umonakalo, ngoba into ongakwazi ukwenza lutho ngayo kuze kube uLwesine izozethula ngehora leshumi nanye njalo ebusuku sengathi idinga isinqumo manje.
Bese wenza ukudlulisa kube ngokomzimba. Vala ilaptop, phuma egumbini, shintsha izingubo, uhambe imizuzu eyishumi. Ukuzihlukanisa kuza kalula kakhulu lapho umzimba uthola isignali yokuthi isimo sesishintshile.
Uma umqondo wangempela ufika phakathi kwesidlo, bhala amagama ayisithupha efonini yakho bese uyibeka phansi. Awuwucindezeli umcabango, into engasebenzi noma kunjalo. Umnika indawo yokuya engeyona phakathi kwengxoxo. Cishe wonke umqondo ofanele ukuba nawo uyaphila emva kwamahora amane enothini.
Yiziphi izintengo ezintathu okungafanele ngizikhokhe?
Zibhale phansi: izinto ezintathu eziqondile lesi sifiso esingavunyelwe ukusibiza zona. Yenza eyodwa ibe eyomzimba, eyodwa ibe eyobudlelwano, futhi zenze zontathu zibe zicacile ngokwanele ukuze uqaphele uma uzikhokha.
Ezinhle zizwakala kanje. Asithathi ubuthongo bami bube ngaphansi kwamahora ayisithupha ngosuku lwesonto. Asithathi isidlo esimisiwe sangoLwesine. Asiwathathi amaseshini amathathu. Ezimbi zizwakala kanje: asithathi impilo yami, asithathi umndeni wami. Lezo ziyizimiso, futhi izimiso azimisi lutho ngehora leshumi nanye ebusuku lapho ukhathele futhi usemuva.
Injongo yokuzibhala ukuthi izinqumo zenziwa kusenesikhathi futhi ngokuzola, kunokuba zenziwe phakathi kwesonto eliphuthumayo lapho ukwahlulela kwakho kubi kunakuqala. Lapho ithuba elikhulu ngempela lifika, funda uhlu ngaphambi kokufunda ikhalenda. Ngezinye izikhathi uzokhokha enye yalezo ezintathu noma kunjalo. Kwenze wazi futhi unosuku lokugcina, okuyisenzo esihluke ngokuphelele ekungeneni kuko unyaka wonke ubese ukubiza ngokuthi yisikhathi nje.
Sibanjwe ngaphakathi kwesakhiwo, isifiso sihlala sibukhali
Yonke imithetho lapha ikhona ukuze ithenge isifiso esikhulu, hhayi esincane. Amahora amisiwe, igumbi elilodwa eliphelele, ubudlelwano obubaluliwe, amaseshini amathathu, nezintengo ezintathu ongeke uzikhokhe. Ngaphakathi kwaleyo mingcele uhlasela into ngamandla owafisayo, futhi akekho ozokutshela ukuthi inombolo inkulu kakhulu.
Enye indlela akuwona umsebenzi omningi. Yisifiso esivuliwe unomphela esiya siba sibi ngokwengeziwe emsebenzini waso, kanye nesidlo ongazange usihambele ngenkathi uhlezi kuso.
Beka isitsha kuleli sonto bese unika le nto konke onakho ngaphakathi kuso. Yileyo nguqulo esakhiqiza onyakeni weshumi, futhi unyaka weshumi yilapho imiphumela abantu abayibonayo ivela khona ngempela.
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