Amathiphu asheshayo
- Bhala izinto ezinhlanu: ubuthongo, ukuzilolonga, ukudla, ukuzivocavoca, isinyathelo sokuqala.
- Gcina ezimbili ezibalulekile, lahla ezinye.
- Khuphula isisekelo, futhi izicongo ziyokhuphuka ngokwazo.
Kukhona okuye kwahamba kahle. Hhayi ngenhlanhla nje, kodwa ngempela kahle: bewuqaphile, isikhathi sasihamba kahle, ingxenye enzima yadlula ungayiqapheli, waphuma unolwazi lokuthi bewusezingeni eliphezulu kunawo wonke amakhono akho. Kusenjalo omunye umuntu ekubuza ukuthi wenzeni okuhlukile, uzithole ungakwazi ukuphendula. Kwabakhona sengathi yisimo sezulu.
Kodwa bekungesona isimo sezulu. Izinsuku ezinjalo zinezinto ezibalulekile ezisemumva kwazo, futhi lezo zinto zilula futhi ziyaziwa kangcono kunosuku ngokwalo. Ubuthongo, ukuzilolonga, ukudla, ukuzivocavoca, isinyathelo sokuqala. Bhala lezi zinto ezinhlanu ngenkathi usuku lusesha engqondweni yakho, uqhubeke wenza kanjalo amasonto ambalwa nakuzinsuku ezijwayelekile futhi, kuvele iphethini ongayilandela ngamabomu. Yileyo yonke indlela, futhi umvuzo wayo wangempela akuwona owokuphinda kwaphezulu okukodwa. Kuyisisekelo esikhuphuka ngaphansi kwakho konke owenzayo emva kwalokho.
Ngingakuphinda kanjani okwenza kahle?
Bhala izinto ezinhlanu ezisemumva kwakho usakhumbula: ubuthongo, ukuzilolonga, ukudla, ukuzivocavoca kanye nesinyathelo sokuqala. Usuku oluhle lungaphindwa ngokuya ngokuthi izinto ezilubangayo ziyaziwa yini, futhi ziyaziwa kakhulu kunalokhu okuzizwa kanjalo ngaphakathi.
Woba yiqiniso ngokuqondile. Hhayi ukuthi "ngilale kahle," kodwa amahora ayisikhombisa nesigamu, embhedeni ngo-11. Hhayi ukuthi "ngizilolongile," kodwa ngiphakamise izisindo ngoLwesibili, usuku lokuphumula ngoLwesithathu. Hhayi ukuthi "ngidle kahle," kodwa isidlo sasekuseni ngo-8, isidlo sasemini sangempela ngo-1. Ukuzivocavoca yikho konke okwenza ngempela ehoreni lokugcina, futhi isinyathelo sokuqala yikona ngempela ohlanganyele ngakho, ngoba imizuzwana engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye yokuqala ibeka umoya wakho konke okulandelayo.
Ungabhali ukuthi kwakuzizwa kanjani. Imizwa iyimiphumela oyizama ukuyichaza, ngakho ukuyifaka ekolomu efanayo nezimbangela kuguqula wonke lo msebenzi ube yidayari nje. Imigqa emihlanu, imizuzwana engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye, ngalolo suku uqobo.
Yini okumele ngiyibhale ngempela, futhi isikhathi esingakanani?
Le migqa emihlanu efanayo ezinsukwini ezijwayelekile kanye nasezinsukwini ezinkulu, cishe amasonto ayisithupha. Udinga ezinye izinsuku ezimaphakathi kanye nezinye ezingezinhle emlandweni wakho, ngoba umlando obhalwe amakhono akho angcono kuphela awukwazi ukukutshela ukuthi yini eyawenza aba ngcono.
Amasonto ayisithupha yisikhathi esisebenzayo hhayi esesayensi. Side ngokwanele ukuthi izinsuku ezijwayelekile nezimbi zombili ziphume emlandweni, okuyikho okwenza noma yikuphi ukuqhathanisa kwenzeke, futhi sifushane ngokwanele ukuthi uzoyiqeda ngempela. Igcine endaweni engekho nokusindisayo: uhlelo lwamanothi kufoni, ngemuva kwedayari, umugqa owodwa kusipredishithi.
Ukuqapha lapha kwenza umsebenzi wangempela, hhayi ukugcina irekhodi nje kuphela. Ucwaningo olukhulu olwahlanganisa izivivinyo eziyi-138 ezenziwe ngendlela engahleliwe lwathola ukuthi abantu abakhuthazwa ukuba baqaphe intuthuko yabo ekufinyeleleni umgomo babenamathuba amakhulu okuwufinyelela, futhi umphumela wawukhulu uma ulwazi lwaluqoshwa ngokoqobo noma lubikwa kothile. Ngakho umlando akuwona umsebenzi wokuphatha owenzayo eceleni kokuzijwayeza. Uyingxenye yokuzijwayeza uqobo.
Ngingazi kanjani ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezibalulekile ngempela?
Beka izinsuku zakho ezintathu ezingcono kunazo zonke eceleni kwezinsuku ezintathu ezimbi kunazo zonke, ubuke into eguquka ngendlela efanayo njalo. Ngokuvamile zimbili kwezinhlanu ezenza kanjalo, ezinye ziyimisindo ongayilahla ngaphandle kokucabanga kabili.
Kubantu abaningi enye yalezi ezimbili ubuthongo. Lapho abadlali bebhasikithibhali basekolishi benweba ubuthongo babo bakusihlwa amasonto ambalwa, isikhathi sabo sokugijima nokunemba kokushaya kwenqaba kwathuthuka kokubili, futhi abantu abadala ngokuvamile badinga amahora ayisikhombisa noma ngaphezulu ngobusuku ukuze izinhlelo ezibamba ukunaka nesivinini sokusabela zisebenze kahle. Uma izinsuku zakho ezingcono zilandela ubusuku obude kakhulu bokulala, usutholile isinsimbi sakho sokuqala futhi akuyona into eyimfihlakalo.
Okwesibili ngokuvamile yilokho obungeke ucabange ngakho: usayizi wesidlo sasemini, ukuthi wazilolonga yini usuku olwandulele, ukuthi wachitha imizuzu eyishumi wedwa yini ngaphambi kokuqala. Kubheke emehlukweni hhayi kwiziphakathi, okusho ukuthi into ehluke kakhulu phakathi kwezinsuku zakho ezintathu ezingcono nezintathu ezimbi, hhayi leyo onemibono eqinile ngayo. Uma uyithola, uyibhale njengomthetho emshweni owodwa. Imithetho emibili oyilandelayo ngempela iyahlula uhlu lwezinto eziyisishiyagalolunye owalufunda kanye kwaphela wayeka.
Ngenzenjani lapho usuku oluhle lungaphindeki?
Hlola izinto ezibalulekile ngaphambi kokuba uphinde ubhale indlela, ngoba amabili amabusuku amafushane kanye nesidlo sasemini esiphuthiwe achaza okuningi mayelana nomehluko kunalokho abantu abaningi abakulindele. Umthetho osebenza izikhathi ezine kwezinhlanu umthetho osebenzayo, hhayi ophukile.
Ukusebenza kahle akuyona into eqinisekile ngazo zonke izikhathi, futhi umlando akuyona injini. Okunikwa yile migqa emihlanu uhlu olufushane lwabasolwayo. Lapho usuku lufika lungenamandla futhi ubona ukuthi ulale amahora amahlanu kuphela futhi wayeka ukuzivocavoca, unencazelo nesixazululo esikhundleni sesimanga nesimo somoya nje. Lapho zonke izinto zibikezona ndaweni yazo kodwa usuku lusahlala lungenamandla, lokho nakho kuyawusiza: kusho ukuthi umehluko usendaweni obungabheki kuyo, ngokuvamile ekamelweni, kwabanye abantu abakulo, noma kuyinto obungenayo mvume kuyo nakancane.
Ungangezi into yesithupha ngenxa yosuku olulodwa oludumazayo. Umlando uyayeka ukusebenza ngesikhathi uba umsebenzi onzima, futhi wonke umugqa owengeziwe wandisa amathuba okuthi uyeke ukuwubhala ngokuthula. Nika imithetho emibili leyo inyanga ngaphambi kokuba uyiguqule kabusha.
Ngingakwenza kanjani ukuthi lezi zinto ezimbili ezibalulekile zihlale zisebenza?
Hlanganisa ngayinye nento eseyenzeka ngesikhathi esithile, hhayi enhlosweni yakho yokuyenza. Ukuphindaphinda esimweni esizinzile yikho okuguqula isinqumo sibe yinto ejwayelekile, futhi isikhathi seqiniso salokho sisukela emasontweni kuya ezinyangeni.
Inombolo abantu abayikhulumayo izinsuku ezingamashumi amabili nanye, futhi yisisho nje: isuka ekubukeni kukadokotela wokuhlinza ngeziguli ezazizijwayeza ukubukeka kwazo okusha, hhayi ocwaningweni lwemikhuba. Lapho abaphenyi bebheka ngempela imikhuba yansuku zonke, umuzwa wokwenza into ngokuzenzakalelayo wanyuka wabe usuma emzileni emva kwezinsuku ezingamashumi ayisithupha nesithupha ngokwesilinganiso, kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwabantu naphakathi kwemikhuba. Lolu cwaningo lwaphinde lwathola ukuthi ukwephuza usuku olulodwa akubuyiseli muntu emuva ngokubalulekile, futhi yileyo ngxenye okufanele uyithathe.
Ngakho ungazimiseli ukulala kakhulu nje. Beka ucingo lwakho eshelufini lapho uxubha amazinyo. Ungazimiseli ukuzivocavoca nje. Faka imizuzu eyishumi ethulile ngqo emva kokuma kwemoto yakho, njalo, kuze kube uyakuqaphela ukungabikho kwayo. Isikhuthazi yiso esenza umsebenzi wokukhumbula, okukukhulula ekudingekeni kokuzikhumbuza wena uqobo.
Lindela ukuthi amasonto amabili okuqala azizwe njengomzamo, futhi lindele ukuthi lokho kufiphale. Ukufiphala lokho yikho konke okuyintengo yomkhuba: amandla owabuyisayo, unomphela, ngentengo eqondile ekhokhwa kanye.
Isisekelo esikhuphukayo yisona esikuvumela ukuqhubeka nokuhlose okuphakeme
Izicongo ziyajabulisa futhi ngokuvamile aziphathwa nguwe. Isisekelo kunjalo. Ukukhuphula isisekelo kusho ukuthi usuku lwakho olujwayelekile lusondele osukwini owawucabanga ukuthi luyimangaliso, futhi lapho uphahla luguquka emva kwalokho, luguquka lusuka endaweni ephakeme kakhudlwana. Yindlela leyo lapho isivinini esinzima siguqukela khona kube umsebenzi omude wempilo yakho hhayi unyaka owodwa omuhle nje.
Kukhona indlela esheshayo yokuthola ukuthi izinto zakho ezinhlanu ziyiqiniso yini, ukunikeza omunye umuntu onosuku olubekiwe kwikhalenda kule nyanga, ubuke okuzokwenzeka. Ukufundisa omunye lolu hlelo yindlela ofunda ngayo kabili: izingxenye ongazikwazi ukuzichaza ngomlomo yizingxenye obusawuqagela nje ngazo, futhi umuntu okubuza imibuzo uzozithola ngokushesha kunenyanga eyodwa yokuzijwayeza wedwa. Uzothola uhlelo oluvivinyiwe, yena athole ikhona lakhe, futhi ngesikhathi esilandelayo nguwe ozongena, uzobe usuvele wazi ukuthi luyasebenza ngisho nangaphansi kwengcindezi.
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