Into isiqedile. Iyasebenza, uyaziqhenya ngayo, futhi isinyathelo esisele ukutshela abantu ukuthi ikhona. Ngandlela thile emasontweni amabili adlule leso sinyathelo saguqukela saba yiphrojekthi ngokwaso: uhlu lwezinto ezingamashumi amane, iningi lazo likhuluma ngesimemezelo kunomkhiqizo, kanye nomuzwa okhulayo wokuthi uma lolo suku lungebe lukhulu ngokwanele into leyo ngeke ibalulwe.
Izobalulwa. Ukwethula wusuku otshela ngalo abantu, futhi yilokho kuphela okwake kwaba yikho. Inguqulo esebenzayo kubhizinisi elinomuntu oyedwa incane, inosuku futhi iyaphindeka: umusho owodwa, izindawo ezintathu lapho abantu bakho abavele bekhona, kanye nesitolo esisavuliwe ngakusasa ekuseni kungashintshanga lutho. Awuzami ukunqoba ntambama. Uzama ukuqala umkhuba wokutshela abantu. Ukutshela kwesibili nokwesithathu yilapho amakhasimende amaningi avela khona.
Kubalwa njengokwethula uma kungekho muntu ongaziyo?
Usuku, umusho owodwa mayelana nalokho okwenzile, nezindawo ezintathu lapho abantu abangase bakufune bevele bekhona. Konke okunye ohlwini kukhethiwe, futhi okuningi kwakho kukhona ukuze usuku luzwakale lubalulekile kunokuthengisa okuthile.
Iseluleko sokwethula sivamise ukubhalelwa izinkampani ezinabalandeli, umuntu wabezindaba nesabelomali. Wena unefoni nohlu lwabantu. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi inguqulo encane akuyona ikhophi ebuthakathaka yenkulu. Iyinto ehlukile esebenza kangcono ngosayizi wakho, ngoba abantu abathenga ebhizinisini lomuntu oyedwa bathenga kulowo muntu, futhi umuntu angaba sezindaweni ezimbalwa kuphela ngasikhathi sinye.
Khetha usuku kuqala, ngaphambi kokuthinta uhlu. Lelo akulona iqhinga lokuhlela, kuyindlela: ukubeka ukuthi uzokwenzani nini nakuphi kungenye yezindlela ezicwaningwe kangcono zokuguqula isifiso sibe yinto eyenzekayo ngempela. Usuku luyakusikela nawe. Ukwethula okumasonto amathathu kusuka manje kunendawo yemisebenzi engamashumi amane. Ukwethula ngomhla weshumi nambili kunendawo yeyisithupha, futhi eyisithupha esala yiyona eyayibalulekile.
Ngiwubhala kanjani umusho owodwa?
Sho ukuthi iyini, ingekabani, futhi ibiza malini, ngalowo mhlaba futhi ngamagama alula. Uma ungakwazi ukuwusho ngezwi eliphakeme kumngane ungenamahloni, usuqedile.
Ngenza ama-aphroni ekotini anamaphakethe angempela, kubantu abapheka nsuku zonke, futhi abiza amadola angamashumi amane nesishiyagalombili. Ngihlela ama-podcast kubantu abaqopha okungaphezu kwalokho abakwazi ukukuqedela, kusukela emadolareni angamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye ngesiqephu. Akekho odinga isiqubulo. Akekho owake wathenga into ebhizinisini lomuntu oyedwa ngenxa yesiqubulo.
Amagama amabili okumele uwasule: nje kanye nokuthi cishe. Afika engamenyiwe futhi atshela umfundi ukuthi awuqinisekile. Ukuthi ngenza nje uhlobo oluthile lwe-aphroni kunolwazi olufanayo kodwa ukuzethemba kukhishiwe.
Wusho ngezwi eliphakeme kanye ngaphambi kosuku, kumuntu oyedwa, ubuke ubuso bakhe enanini. Uma engacwayizi, ulungile. Uma uzibamba unezela isizathu ngemva kwenani, susa isizathu kunokususa inani.
Bhala umusho isonto ngaphambi kosuku, uwufunde kanye ekuseni, bese uwuthumela njengoba unjalo. Isifiso sokuwuthuthukisa ngehora lesishiyagalolunye ngosuku lokwethula akulona ubuciko. Ngukwethuka, futhi ukwethuka akukaze kwenze umusho ube mfushane.
Ngitshela kuphi abantu uma nginganabo abalandeli?
Ezindaweni ezintathu lapho abantu bakho abavele bemi khona: iqembu, isikhulumisano noma iklabhu abakulo, abantu abayishumi noma amashumi amabili abangayifuna ngempela le nto, kanye nokuthumela okukodwa emphakathini lapho usunabalandeli abambalwa khona. Ezintathu zanele, ngoba ukuthenga kokuqala kuvela engxoxweni kunokuvela ekufinyeleleni kwabaningi.
Bhala lezo zindawo ezintathu eceleni kosuku. Ukuzikhetha kusenesikhathi yikho okuvimba usuku lungapheleli emahoreni ayisithupha ubuka uhlelo olulodwa lokuxhumana. Iqembu ovele ukulo libalwa kabili, ngoba abantu abalapho bayaqonda ukuthi into leyo iyini ngaphandle kokuchaza.
Khetha iqembu ngokucophelela. Indawo eyodwa lapho abantu abavele bekhuluma khona ngento oyenzayo ishaya izindawo ezinhlanu lapho uyisihambi khona nesixhumanisi. Uma usufunde isikhulumisano unyaka wonke ungakaze uthumele lutho, yileyo indawo yakho yokuqala, futhi iqiniso lokuthi wawuwusizo lapho ngaphambi kokuthi udinge okuthile yilona lenza okuthumele kufundwe nhlobo.
Thumela kubantu ngabanye ngamunye, ugagule igama lakhe futhi ufake nenani. Imilayezo eyishumi ehlukene ithatha imizuzu engamashumi amabili, futhi ngayinye ifika phambi komuntu ongase aphendule ngempela. Umyalezo owodwa othunyelwa kubo bonke ngumdlalo. Umyalezo oqondene ngumuntu yingxoxo, futhi ingxoxo ingaphetha ngokuthengiswa.
Okuthunyelwa emphakathini kubalulekile kancane kunazo zontathu, futhi yikho abantu abachitha isonto lonke kukho. Kubhale, ukuthumele, uvale uhlelo, uphume uyokwenza okuthile ngezandla zakho.
Kuthiwani uma kucishe kungabikho ophendulayo ngalolo suku?
Yileso isimo esijwayelekile sokwethula kokuqala futhi akusona isahlulelo ngomkhiqizo. Ukutshela kokuqala kufinyelela abantu asebekwazi, okuyinombolo encane ngokwemvelo, futhi ama-oda avamise ukufika ekutsheleni kwesibili nokwesithathu.
Ngakho nquma ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi usuku lungolwani. Alulona olwenani lokuthengisa. Lolokwenza into ibe sobala, ukukhipha umusho ekhanda lakho, nokuthola ukuthi iyiphi kulezo zindawo ezintathu eyakhipha impendulo. Bhala phansi lezo zimpendulo ezimbili noma ezintathu. Ziyisiqalo sohlu lwamakhasimende.
Bheka lokho abantu abakubuzayo kunalokho abakuthengayo. Abantu abathathu bebuza ukuthi ingabe kukhona usayizi omkhulu kunalokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kunama-likes ayishumi nanye, futhi kungukuphela kocwaningo lwemakethe lwamahhala oyoke ulithole.
Bese uyeka inani lime njengoba linjalo amasonto amabili. Ukulehlisa ngosuku lwesibili kufundisa abantu ababesazothenga ukuthi ukulinda kuyaklomelisa, futhi kuphendula umbuzo okungekho muntu osewubuzile.
Ngakusasa ekuseni, nangenyanga elandelayo
Vula isitolo, ungashintshi lutho, uqhubeke nosuku lwakho. Isonto lokuyeka into ilingana nalokho okuyikho libaluleke kakhulu kunesonto lokuyilungisa, ngoba awukwazi ukufunda lutho ekhasini eliba ngelihlukile njalo lapho umuntu elibuka.
Bese uhlela ukutshela kwesibili ngaphambi kokuba okokuqala kwehle. Kufake ekhalendeni: emasontweni amabili kusuka manje, bese kuba ngenyanga emva kwalokho. Cishe akekho othenga ngesikhathi sokuqala ezwa ngento, futhi ukusabalalisa izikhathi ozisho ngazo kushaya ukuyisho kaninginingi ngasikhathi sinye, okungomunye wemiphumela ethembeke kakhulu ocwaningweni lwenkumbulo. Ukwethula ongakuphinda futhi ngenyanga ezayo kushaya lokho obekumele ukusinde kukho.
Yenza ukutshela kwesibili kwehluke kunokuba nomsindo omkhulu. Bonisa into isetshenziswa, phendula umbuzo obuzwe ngumuntu othile ngempela, noma usho ukuthi ufundeni emasontweni amabili okuqala. Akekho okhathazwa ukuzwa ngomsebenzi wakho kabili uma isikhathi sesibili siphethe into entsha, futhi okuthunyelwe kwesibili kulula ukukubhala kunokokuqala ngoba ngaleso sikhathi usunekhasimende ongabhala ngalo.
Yilesi isizathu sangempela sokugcina into ithule. Akukhona ukuzithoba, futhi akukhona ukwehlisa isifiso. Ukwethula okuncane ngokwanele ukuze kuphindwe ukwethula ongakwenza izikhathi eziyishumi nambili kulo nyaka, futhi ukutshela okuyishumi nambili ngumuntu ozinzile kushaya intambama eyodwa enomsindo ngumuntu okhathele, njalo.
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