Amathiphu asheshayo
- Yenza isinyathelo sokuqala sicishe sibe yize.
- Zikhulumele njengomngane.
- Zithembise imizuzu emihlanu kuphela.
Ithebhu isivulekile izinsuku ezintathu. Uyazi ukuthi umsebenzi mncane. Uyazi ukuthi uzothatha imizuzu engamashumi amabili. Kepha njalo lapho uhlala phansi ukuze uwuqale, ngokuzumayo udinga ukubheka ifoni yakho, ukugcwalisa amanzi akho, noma ukuhlela kabusha ifolda ebiseyilungile njengoba injalo. Umnqamulajuqu usondela. Uvalo luya ngokusinda. Awukaqali.
Iningi lethu safundiswa ukuthi lokho sikufunde njengephutha esimweni sethu. Sinevila, asizithibi, sibi ekulawuleni isikhathi. Ngakho sizama ukukulungisa ngokuhlela okungcono, uhlelosebenza olusha, ishejuli eqinile, siziphoqe sidlule komunye umsebenzi ngaphambi kokubuyela ndawonye kule phethini efanayo. Ukuhlela akuyona inkinga. Umuzwa ongaphansi kwako yiwo.
Kuyini ngempela ukubambezela
Isikhathi eside, abacwaningi babebheka ukubambezela njengokwehluleka kokulawula isikhathi. Umbono omusha nowusizo kakhulu uthi kuyindlela yokulawula imizwa. Lapho umsebenzi ukwenza uzwe okuthile okungathandeki, ubuchopho bufinyelela ekukhululekeni okusheshayo okutholakalayo, futhi ukugwema umsebenzi kungukukhululeka okusheshayo kunakho konke.
UDkt. Fuschia Sirois, usosayikholoji osecwaninge lokhu iminyaka, ukubeka ngokucacile: ukubambezela kumayelana nokulawula indlela umsebenzi okwenza uzizwe ngayo, hhayi ukuthi unesikhathi esingakanani. Usosayikholoji waseCanada uTim Pychyl wakuchaza ngendlela efanayo, wakubiza ngenkinga yokulungisa umoya wesikhashana. Uwubeka phansi umsebenzi, umuzwa omubi uyaphakama umzuzwana, futhi lowo mbani wokukhululeka ufundisa ubuchopho bakho ukuba ukwenze futhi ngokuzayo. Kungumkhuba owakhiwe ekuzizweni ungcono, khona manje, ngezindleko zomuntu wakho wesikhathi esizayo.
Qaphela okungekho kuleso sithombe: amandla entando. Awuhluleki ukucindezela ngokwanele. Uyaphumelela, ngempumelelo enkulu, ekubalekeni ukungakhululeki.
Lapho ukukhathazeka kungena khona
Ukukhathazeka nokubambezela kuyondlana, futhi umjikelezo uqinile.
Cabanga ngezinhlobo zemisebenzi oyihlehlisa kakhulu. Ivame ukuba yileyo egcwele ukukhathazeka. I-imeyili lapho ungathola khona impendulo enzima. Iphrojekthi engakuveza njengomuntu ongakwanele. Ucingo oluketesabayo. Idokhumenti engenalutho ekucela ukuba ube nokumangalisayo lapho kudingeka. Uvalo yilona okuwuhloso, uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa lubona umsebenzi njengengozi, futhi ukugwema kwenza ingozi inyamalale isikhashana.
Kodwa isikhashana kuphela. Umsebenzi usekhona kusasa, futhi manje kunesikhathi esincane, ingcindezi eningi, nesendlalelo esisha secala ngokulinda. Ngakho ngokulandelayo lapho uwubheka, uzwakala usongela nakakhulu kunangaphambili. Gwema, uzizwe ungcono, uzizwe umubi kakhulu, uphinde ugweme. Abantu bahlehlisa umsebenzi ukubalekela umuzwa omubi bagcine bezizwa kabi kunalokho ababezozizwa ukube nje bawenzile.
Yingakho iseluleko esithi "vele ukwenze" sivame ukungangeni. Uma injini eqhuba yonke le nto kuwukukhathazeka, khona-ke noma yini eyandisa ingcindezi (ukukhulunyiswa okunzima, umnqamulajuqu owesabekayo, ihlazo eliningi) ithela uphethiloli emlilweni kanye ozama ukuwucima.
Yeka ukuzihlasela kuqala
Nasi isigaba esimangaza abantu. Isinyathelo esisodwa esiwusizo kunazo zonke ukuzikhulula, hhayi ukuzicindezela kakhulu.
Lapho sibambezela, sivame ukwengeza phezulu: sengisele kakhulu, kwenzenjani ngami, kungani ngingakwazi ukuba ejwayelekile ngale nto. Lokho kuzihlasela kubonakala kunomphumela, sengathi okungenani siyaziphenda. Kwenza okuphambene. Ihlazo lengeza esinye isendlalelo somuzwa omubi emsebenzini, okwenza umsebenzi ube yinto okufanele iqhelelwe nakakhulu.
Ucwaningo ngalokhu lukhuthaza ngempela. Abafundi abazithethelela ngokubambezela kuvivinyo olulodwa baqhubeka babambezela kancane kolulandelayo. Ukuzwelana nawe akusho ukuzikhulula ngokuphelele. Kususa elinye lamahhuku obhajwe kuwo, ukuze ukwazi ukunyakaza ngempela. USirois uyaqaphela ukusho ukuthi lokhu akusho ukuzinika ithuba lokuzikhohlisa. Kuwukubona ukuthi ukulwa nezinto ezinzima kujwayelekile futhi kungobuntu, okwehlisa uhlelo ngokwanele ukuze uqale.
Zama ukukhuluma nawe ngendlela obungakhuluma ngayo nomngane osesimweni esifanayo. Ubungeke ubatshele ukuthi abanamsebenzi. Cishe ubungathi, "Yebo, lowo unzima. Ufuna nje ukuqala ngomugqa wokuqala?"
Yini ngempela ekusiza uqale
Ngenxa yokuthi isithiyo sangempela ngumuzwa, umgomo akusiwo ukubiza ukuziqaqisa okuningi. Ngukwenza umsebenzi ungabi nomsindo emizweni, nokwenza ukuqala kuzwakale kudlulwe. Izinto ezimbalwa ezivame ukusebenza:
- Nciphisa isinyathelo sokuqala size sicishe sibe yize. Hhayi "bhala umbiko." Vula idokhumenti bese uthayipha isihloko. Hhayi "hlanza igaraji." Khiphela phandle ibhokisi elilodwa. Ingxenye enzima kunazo zonke umkhawulo, futhi isinyathelo esincane siyawehlisa. Ukukhathazeka kuyehla ngomzuzu umsebenzi ongacacile, osongelayo uba yisenzo esisodwa esincane esibambekayo.
- Qamba umuzwa esikhundleni somsebenzi. Ngaphambi kokuqala, buza ukuthi yini oyigwemayo ngempela. Ukwesaba ukuwenza kabi? Ukudinwa? Ukungazi ukuthi uqale kuphi? Ukubeka amagama kukho kukhipha okunye ukushubeka, futhi kuvame ukukukhomba enkingeni yangempela, okungavamile ukuba ngumsebenzi ngokwawo.
- Yenza uhlelo lokuthi nini-nokuthi-kuphi, hhayi uhlelo lolunye usuku. "Ngizokwenza kamuva" yindlela okufa ngayo. "Ngizoloba lokhu ngo-9 ekuseni etafuleni lasekhishini" kunika ubuchopho bakho isikhombo esiqondile sokusabela kuso, esinamathela kakhulu kunezinhloso ezinhle.
- Zivumele ukukwenza kabi ngamabomu. Zinike imvume yokubhala idrafthi yokuqala embi, ukuthumela uhlobo olungathandeki, wenze umzamo ongahleliwe. Ukufuna ukuphelela nokubambezela yizihlobo eziseduze; kokubili kudalwa ukwesaba ukungabi nokwanele. Ukuqala okubi kungcono kunohlelo oluphelele ongakaze uluthinte.
- Sebenzisa umnyango wemizuzu emihlanu. Zitshele ukuthi kufanele usebenze imizuzu emihlanu kuphela, bese ukhululekile ukuma emva kwalokho. Ukuqala kuwudonga. Uma usudlulile kulo, amandla okuqhubeka avame ukukuthwala, futhi uma engenzi njalo, imizuzu emihlanu yenqubekela phambili isengcono kunokungabikho.
Lapho uqeda into obuyesaba, kubalule. Umvuzo omncane, wangempela ufundisa ubuchopho bakho ukuxhumanisa umzamo nokuthile okuhle, esikhundleni sokuxhumanisa nokukhululeka kuvalo kuphela.
Uma kukhulu kunomkhuba
Ukubambezela okuningi kujwayelekile futhi kungubuntu impela. Ngezinye izikhathi kuyisexwayiso esifanele ukulalelwa.
Lapho ukuhlehlisa izinto sekungokuqhubekayo, lapho kukulahlekisela emsebenzini noma esikoleni noma ebudlelwaneni bakho, noma lapho ukukhathazeka okuzungeze imisebenzi sekuchichima kokunye kwempilo yakho, lokho kufanele kuphathwe njengento engaphezu kwenkinga yokusebenza. Ukubambezela okungapheli kuhamba nengcindezi ephezulu, ukukhathazeka, nokudangala, futhi kunzima ukwazi ngaphakathi ukuthi yikuphi okuqhubayo. Umsebenzi ozwakala ungenakwenzeka ngempela, hhayi nje ongathandeki, ungaba yinkomba yokudangala noma isimo sokukhathazeka esikhundleni sesikhala samandla entando.
Awudingi ukukulungisa lokho wedwa. Udokotela noma udokotela wengqondo angakusiza uthole ukuthi yini engaphansi kokugwema nokuthi uhlobo luni lokusekelwa olulingana ngempela. Ukwelashwa okusebenza nemicabango enovalo nokugwema ngokuqondile kuvame ukusiza, futhi awukho umklomelo wokuziphoqa nje.
Ngokulandelayo lapho uzithola uzungeza umsebenzi esikhundleni sokuwuqala, zama umbuzo ohlukile kunothi "kungani nginevila kangaka." Zama othi "yini le engenza ngizizwe kanjani, futhi ngingasenza kanjani isinyathelo sokuqala sibe sincane ngokwanele ukuba ngisithathe?" Awuphukile. Ugwema umuzwa, njengoba abantu benza. Futhi umuzwa uyinto ongasebenza nayo.
Imithombo
- American Psychological Association, Why we procrastinate and what to do about it, with Fuschia Sirois, PhD
- Cleveland Clinic, How To Stop Procrastinating
- National Library of Medicine (PMC), "I'll Worry About It Tomorrow" – Fostering Emotion Regulation Skills to Overcome Procrastination
- Sirois & Pychyl, Procrastination and the Priority of Short-Term Mood Regulation: Consequences for Future Self (Social and Personality Psychology Compass)