Wakha indlela yokusebenza onyakeni wakhe wesibili eqenjini, wayibhala phansi ntambama eyodwa, wayifundisa abantu abane. Ngemva kweminyaka eyisithupha yayisiqanjwe kabusha kabili, ibalwa kuwiki yangaphakathi njengeyomuntu ayengakaze ahlangane naye, futhi isebenza eminyangweni emine kubandakanya nemibili eyayingakaze izwe ngaye. Wakuthola lokhu ngengozi wachitha isonto lonke edidekile ezama ukunquma ukuthi ucasukile noma useqedile.
Impendulo elungile, kuvela, kwakuwukuthi useqedile. Hhayi ukudikibala, hhayi ukushaywa indiva, kodwa ukuqeda, njengoba umakhi eqeda lapho isakhiwo simi ngaphandle kwezikhulelo. Lowo umphumela omkhulu kakhulu kunowokunye, okuyinto enegama lakhe elinamathiselwe kuyo okungekho ongayisebenzisa ngaphandle kokumshayela ucingo kuqala. Lesi sihloko simayelana nokuhlelela ngamabomu umphumela wokuqala, ngoba cishe zonke iziluleko ezitholakalayo ngegama elithi ifa zihlelela ngokuthula owesibili.
Ngazi kanjani ukuthi umsebenzi wami uzoqhubeka ngaphandle kwami?
Susa igama lakho kuwo bese ubona ukuthi ukhona yini ongawusebenzisa ngoMsombuluko. Uma impendulo incike ekutheni uyatholakala, wakhe umsebenzi hhayi into, futhi imisebenzi iyaphela.
Hlola ngempela. Khetha umsebenzi oziqhenya ngawo kakhulu kulo nyaka bese uzibuza imibuzo emithathu ngawo. Ngabe umuntu ongamazi onekhono angakwazi ukuwenza kusuka kulokho okubhaliwe? Ngabe izinqumo ozenza ngokwemvelo zibhaliwe ndawana thile njengemithetho? Uma ungazwakali inyanga yonke, kuma ini, kuyeka kusebenze kahle kuphi, futhi kuqhubeka kuphi kungashintshile?
Abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi impendulo iyakhathaza ngendlela ethile: umkhiqizo uyasinda kodwa indlela yokusebenza ayisindi. Idokhumenti liyaqhubeka kodwa isizathu sokuthi kungani lakhiwa ngaleyo ndlela sihlala ekhanda lakho kuphela. Lelo gebe yiyona ndaba yonke yalesi sihloko, futhi livaleka ngekhasi elilodwa lokubhala.
Kubalulekile yini uma ngingatholi udumo?
Kubaluleke kancane kunalokho okuzwakala ngakho, futhi izibalo ziyachaza ukuthi kungani. Udumo okumele ulivikele kuwukugcina, futhi ukugcina kuyintengo oyikhokha kuze kube phakade.
Noma yini eyakhelwe ukuphatha igama lakho kumele ivikelwe: ekuqanjweni kabusha, ekuhlukanisweni, kumuntu oyichaza emhlanganweni engakubali. Lokho kuvikela kudla ukunaka minyaka yonke uma nje leyo nto isekhona, futhi ukunaka kuphuma esikhwameni esisodwa obuzosisebenzisela ukwakha okulandelayo. Noma yini eyakhelwe ukusebenza ngaphandle kwegama lakho iyathathwa, ikopishwe, ithuthukiswe futhi ithathelwe ezakhiweni ongeke uzingene, futhi ayikubizi lutho ngemva kosuku oyidlulisela ngalo.
Ucwaningo lukaKimberly Wade-Benzoni ngezinqumo eziphakathi kwezizukulwane, olufingqwe ku-Current Opinion in Psychology, luthola ukuthi ukushukunyiswa ifa kuyinto engokoqobo neshukumisa ngendlela emangazayo: abantu bazodela izinsiza zamanje ngenzuzo yabantu abangeke bakwazi ukubuyisela, uma bebona ukuthi kukhona okwabo okuqhubekayo. Ingxenye ethakazelisayo kunoma ubani onamathemba amakhulu ukuthi lokhu akukhona ukungazicabangeli. Kuziphatha njengohlobo lokuzicabangela okude, futhi kukhiqiza imiphumela ehlala isikhathi eside kunaleyo egcina isikoloko.
Ngikubhala kanjani phansi ukuze omunye umuntu akwazi ukukusebenzisa?
Ikhasi elilodwa, ngokulandelana kwendlela umuntu angakwenza ngayo ngempela, kanye nezinqumo ezintathu ozenza ngokwemvelo zibhaliwe njengemithetho. Ingxenye yemvelo yiyona yodwa enzima futhi yiyona yodwa ebalulekile.
Wonke umuntu angabhala izinyathelo. Okungabhalwa ukuthi kungani isinyathelo sesine sandulela esesithathu, ukuthi wenzenjani lapho okufakwayo kungalungile, nokuthi yimiphi imithetho oyephulayo nangaphansi kwaziphi izimo. Bhala lezo. Yizona ezehlukanisa amaphepha okuchazayo angasetshenziswa muntu nekhasi umuntu angalisebenzisa ngempela ngoLwesibili olubi.
Kunenzuzo efika ngokushesha kulokhu. Abacwaningi ababika ku-Memory and Cognition bathola ukuthi abantu abafunda into belindele ukuyifundisa kamuva bakhumbula okuningi futhi bakuhlela kangcono kunabantu abalindele ukuhlolwa. Ukubhala umsebenzi wakho ukuze uwudlulisele komunye kukubeka kanye kuleso simo. Uzothola izindawo ezimbili lapho ubuzenzisa khona ngaphakathi kwemizuzu engamashumi amabili yokuqala, okwenza ikhasi lifanele ukubhalwa noma ngabe kungekho muntu oke alifunde.
Kufanele ngiyidlulisele kubani?
Kumuntu osebenza izingxenye ezinzima kakade engacelwanga. Bese usho igama lakhe egumbini lapho kunqunywa khona, ngoba ukudlulisa ngaphandle kokusekela akusona isipho, kungumsebenzi owengeziwe owehlela phezu komuntu ongenalo igunya lokuwenza.
Lena yingxenye ephathekayo yefa futhi kungumuntu, hhayi idokhumenti. Ukudlulisela into kunezinyathelo ezimbili futhi abantu abaningi benza esokuqala kuphela. Esokuqala ukudlulisa: ikhasi, izikhathi ezimbili zokwenza ndawonye, isikhathi esisodwa sokubabuka bekwenza wena ungasho lutho. Esesibili yingxenye yasobala, okuwukutshela igumbi ukuthi manje ingekabani, ngegama, phambi kwalowo olawula ithuba lakhe elilandelayo. "UPriya nguye osebenzisa lokhu manje" okushiwo emhlanganweni wokuhlela kubaluleke kuye kunezinyanga eziyisithupha zokuqeqeshwa, ngoba kuguqula isithunzi sakho sibe yisikhundla sakhe, unomphela, ngentengo yamagama amane kuwe.
Yenza isinyathelo sesibili noma ngabe kungakufaneli, ikakhulukazi lapho into inhle. Umuzwa ngaleso sikhathi uwukubambelela entweni ephumelelayo isikhathi esisodwa esengeziwe. Leso sikhathi yiyona ndlela ncamashi into eqinile ephenduka ngayo ibe umsebenzi wakho siqu futhi. Sho igama, bese usuka ngokusobala endleleni, uvumele izinguquko ezilandelayo zenzeke ngaphandle kwemvume yakho.
Kuthiwani uma ukudlulisela kungenza ngishintsheke kalula?
Ukushintsheka emsebenzini wakho wamanje kuyisidingo sokuthola olandelayo. Umuntu ongeke asuswe ngoba akekho omunye ongenza umsebenzi wakhe akaphephile, ubhajiwe, futhi intengo yokubhajwa ikhokhelwa emagumbini ongamenywa kuwo.
U-Adam Grant, ebhala ku-Harvard Business Review ngabaphanayo nabathathayo, uchaza iphethini elenzeka eminyakeni kunamasonto: abantu abachitha umzamo wabo benza abanye babe namakhono baye bakhe inani elingavamile lomusa nolwazi, futhi kubonakala emuva kunasekuqaleni. Ibhodi lamaphuzu lesikhathi esifushane libeka phambili lowo obuthelayo. Elesikhathi eside alenzi njalo, ngoba igumbi ekugcineni ligcwala abantu abazi kahle ukuthi wabenzelani.
Hlelela lokho ngamabomu. Wonke umsebenzi ongowakho kumele ube negama elingelona elakho ekupheleni konyaka wawo wesibili, futhi kumele ukwazi ukusho ukuthi lelo gama lithini. Lokho akukhona ukuzithoba. Kungukuhlela amandla akho eshumini leminyaka elinamathemba.
Inguqulo eqhubekayo
Ukuhlolwa ukuthi ubungakwazi yini ukuyidlulisa ngoLwesihlanu. Hhayi ukuthi ubungathanda yini, hhayi ukuthi isikhathi silungile yini, kodwa ukuthi ikhasi likhona yini, umuntu ukhona yini, negumbi liyalazi yini igama lakhe. Uma kokuthathu kuyiqiniso wakhe into. Uma okukodwa kungekho wakhe isikhundla, futhi izikhundla azihlali isikhathi eside kunomuntu ozigcwalisayo.
Akukho lapha okuphikisana nokufuna udumo. Thatha udumo ngesikhathi lunikezwa, lubeke ekubuyekezweni kwakho, ulusho ngokuzwakalayo ezingxoxweni zomsebenzi. Umehluko uphakathi kodumo oluqoqayo nodumo okumele uluqaphe, futhi lunye kuphela kulezi olumahhala. Umakhi ophetha ishumi leminyaka enezinto eziyisithupha ezisebenza ezandleni zabanye abantu unesimangalo esikhulu kunalowo oliphetha enezinto ezimbili okungekho omunye ongazithinta, futhi usalelwe ukunaka okwanele ukuqala eyesikhombisa.
Khetha umsebenzi oziqhenya ngawo kakhulu. Bhala ikhasi kuleli sonto. Bese uthola umuntu obesenza izingxenye ezinzima, bese usho igama lakhe egumbini.
Imithombo
- Current Opinion in Psychology, Legacy motivations and the psychology of intergenerational decisions
- Memory and Cognition, Expecting to teach enhances learning and organization of knowledge in free recall of text passages
- Harvard Business Review, In the Company of Givers and Takers