Usuneminyaka emibili wenza into oyichule kuyo. Umsebenzi uhamba kahle, abantu bakuthemba ngokwengeziwe kuwo, futhi isinyathelo esilandelayo siyabonakala lapho umi khona. Bese ngandlela thile enyangeni edlule uzibambe uzama ukukhumbula ukuthi ngabe wakukhetha lokhu noma wakuzuza njengefa.
Lowo mbuzo ufanelwe imizuzu eyishumi, hhayi izinyanga eziyishumi, futhi kunesivivinyo sawo. Imibuzo emibili, ebuzwa ngokusobala, enokuphumelela okucacile nokwehluleka okucacile. Ayibuzi ukuthi uyawuthanda yini umsebenzi wakho, ukuthi uyabonga yini, noma ukuthi usendleleni efanele yini ngomqondo omkhulu. Ibuza ukuthi umgomo uvelaphi nokuthi wakhiwe ngani, futhi umgomo owebolekiwe uyehluleka kuyo ngokushesha. Injongo yokwenza lesi sivivinyo akukhona ukukukhipha entweni. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umzamo osuzowuchitha eminyakeni emihlanu ezayo uwela entweni oyikhethile ngempela.
Iyiphi le mibuzo emibili?
Owokuqala: ubuzoyifuna yini le nto uma kungekho muntu owayeyokwazi ukuthi uyitholile? Owesibili: ngabe uwufuna umsebenzi wansuku zonke, noma ufuna isihloko esisekugcineni kuphela?
Buza ngamunye ngamunye, mayelana nomgomo owodwa oqondile, ngezwi eliphakeme uma ukwazi. Umbuzo wokuqala ususa ababukeli. Owesibili ususa isiphetho. Konke okusalayo emva kwayo yomibili yingxenye engeyakho.
Umgomo wangempela uyaphumelela kuyo yomibili. Ubusazolifuna ibhizinisi noma ngabe belisebenza ngegama lomunye umuntu. Ubusazolifuna ikhono noma ngabe kungekho oshaya izandla. Futhi uLwesibili olujwayelekile lomsebenzi kuyinto obungayikhetha kunenye enethezekile. Umgomo owebolekiwe wehluleka ngokushesha nangokusobala: umkhanyo uyaphuma masinyane lapho ababukeli besusiwe, futhi umsebenzi wansuku zonke uyinto oyibekezelelayo ushintshiselana ngomzuzu owodwa osekugcineni.
Ukuphumelela okuyingxenye kuvamile, futhi kunolwazi kunokuba kubulale. Abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi umgomo ungowabo kodwa isikhathi sokuwufeza sebolekiwe, noma umkhakha ungowabo kodwa isihloko esiqondile savela kumphathi.
Kungani isivivinyo sokungabonwa sisebenza?
Ngoba sihlukanisa lokho okuthandayo kulokho ofuna ukubonakala ukuthanda, futhi lezo zinto ezimbili zikhipha imizamo ehluke kakhulu esikhathini eside.
USheldon no-Elliot balandela abantu ekulweleni imigomo ocwaningweni olutathu olude futhi bathola ukuthi imigomo ehambisana nezithakazelo nezimiso zomuntu ezikhulayo yadonsa umzamo osimeme kakhulu, yaba nethuba elikhulu lokuzuzwa, futhi yakhipha injabulo enkulu lapho izuzwa. Imigomo eyamukelwa ngenxa yezizathu zangaphandle yaba phansi kuzo zontathu.
Ukuhumusha kwangempela kubhekene nonyaka wesithathu, hhayi unyaka wokuqala. Noma ubani angacindezela kanzima emgonyweni owebolekiwe izinyanga eziyishumi nesishiyagalombili, okuyisona sizathu sokuthi kungani isivivinyo singesona isibuzo ngesifiso sakho samanje. Igebe livuleka lapho umsebenzi usuyeka ukubonakala futhi kungekho muntu ozohlaba umxhwele. Umgomo okhona kuphela phambi kwababukeli uyayeka ukukhiqiza ezinsukwini lapho kungekho obukele, futhi lezo zinsuku ziningi kunazo zonke.
Uma wehluleka kulo mbuzo, unikwe ulwazi olusebenzayo ngentengo eshibhile, cishe ngomzuzu owodwa, ngonyaka wesibili kunonyaka wesishiyagalombili.
Kungani ukufuna umsebenzi wansuku zonke kubaluleke kakhulu kunokufuna umphumela?
Ngoba uzochitha cishe izinsuku eziyizinkulungwane ezimbili emsebenzini wansuku zonke bese uchitha cishe ihora elilodwa emphumeleni, futhi lelo lingana alikhathali ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngalo.
UCsikszentmihalyi noLeFevre banikeza abantu abadala abangamashumi ayisikhombisa nesishiyagalombili amabhiphu isonto lonke futhi bathola ukuthi izinga lolwazi lwabo lalincike ekutheni inselelo namakhono ayefana yini, nokuthi iningi lemizuzu yabo yokuzimbandakanya kwenzeka emsebenzini kunasekuphumuleni. Ukuzimbandakanya kuyatholakala ngaphakathi emsebenzini wansuku zonke, okusho ukuthi umbuzo kaLwesibili awuwona umbuzo wokubekezela. Ungumbuzo wokuthi lawo mahora uqobo anokuthile yini kuwo okwakho.
Qonda ngqo kunokukhuluma ngokujwayelekile. Hhayi ukuthi ngabe ngifuna ukuphatha inkampani, kodwa ngabe ngifuna ukuchitha ekuseni ngoLwesibili ngiqasha abantu, ngibheka ukugeleza kwemali nekhasimende elilodwa elinzima. Hhayi ukuthi ngabe ngifuna ukuba ngumbhali, kodwa ngabe ngifuna ukuchitha amahora amabili ngibhala kabusha izigaba ezine ezifanayo. Bese ubuza umuntu ovele ekwenza ukuthi isonto lakhe liqukethe ini ngempela, bese uphinda umbuzo umbheke empendulweni yakhe kunokuwubheka esithombeni sakho somsebenzi.
Ivelaphi imigomo ebolekiwe?
Ivela kubantu obumi eduze nabo ngenkathi belwela okuthile, okuyindlela ebhaliwe kunokuba kube ubuthakathaka besimilo. U-Aarts, uGollwitzer noHassin babonisa kucwaningo oluyisithupha ukuthi abantu bathatha umgomo ochazwa ukuziphatha komunye umuntu bese bewenza esimweni esihlukile, bengazange banqume ukuwenza.
Yisona sizathu sokuthi kungani isinyathelo sesithathu salesi sivivinyo kuwukubalula umuntu. Bhala phansi ukuthi ubani owaqala wakuzwa kuye ngalo mgomo: umphathi, umzali, umsunguli obumfunda iminyaka emibili, noma umuntu oyedwa okholisa kakhulu ku-inthanethi. Ukumbalula akukhona ukummangalela. Miningi imigomo efika ngale ndlela bese igcina ingeyakho ngempela, futhi uLockwood noKunda bathola ukuthi isibonelo esikhulu siyakhuthaza kunokudumaza uma impumelelo ibonakala ifinyeleleka futhi umkhakha uwuthanda.
Uphawu lulele kokwenzekayo emva kwalokho. Umgomo owafika kwenye indoda wabe usuba ngowakho uyaqhubeka ukhiqiza lapho lowo muntu esephumile esithombeni. Umgomo osengowakhe uyathula lapho uyeka ukumfunda, noma ushintsha isimo njalo lapho eshintsha khona indlela. Kuhlole lokho eminyakeni yakho emibili edlule, okuyindaba yerekhodi kunokuba ngeyomuzwa.
Ngenzani ngomgomo owehluleka isivivinyo?
Gcina isizathu ushintshe isimo. Iningi lemigomo eyehlulekile ayiphambeki ngalokho okufunayo, iphambeka ngesitsha, futhi ukulungisa kuncane kunalokho ukwethuka okukushoyo.
Bhala isizathu ngaphansi komgomo ngomusho owodwa. Ubulwela ini ngempela: ukuphepha, ububanzi, ukwethenjwa ngezinkinga ezinzima, umsebenzi obungaziqhenya ngokuba negama lakho kuwo. Bese uzibuza ukuthi ngabe isizathu sisabambile yini, ngoba imvamisa sisabambile. Uma sisabambile, ukhetha imoto entsha yesizathu osasikholelwa, okuwukushintsha kwecebo kunokuba yikwehluleka kwesibindi.
Gcina nalokho umgomo owebolekiwe owakwakha. Iminyaka emibili echithwe emgonyweni womunye umuntu isakuthengele ikhono, uxhaxha lwabantu neqoqo lobufakazi. Leyo akuyona imali elahlekile, iyimpahla, futhi ihamba nawe.
Bese ubhala omusha kahle, kokubili imibuzo isihlolwe kuwo ngaphambi kokuqala, kanye nosuku ozophinda uwuhlole ngalo.
Yenza isivivinyo entweni enkulu oyithweleyo
Kwenze kuleli sonto, emgonyweni omkhulu onawo, futhi uwunike umzuzu kunokuwunika intambama.
Ubusazowufuna yini uma kungekho muntu owayeyokwazi? Ngabe uwufuna umsebenzi kaLwesibili? Ubani owaqala wakuzwa kuye ngawo? Umgomo ophumelela kuyo yomithathu wufanele iminyaka yakho emihlanu ezayo, futhi uyakwazi ukuyeka ukuphinda ubuze lo mbuzo, okubalulekile kunempendulo, ngoba ukuphinda uxoxe ngesinqumo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa yikho okukhandla ngempela umuntu onesifiso.
Akukho kulokhu okuyimpikiswano yokufuna okuncane. Kuyimpikiswano yokuqinisekisa ukuthi into ozimisele ukuyisebenzela kanzima kakhulu ingeyakho, ukuze umsebenzi wakhe ndawonye esikhundleni sokuhwamuka ngosuku ababukeli abafulathela ngalo.
Imithombo
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Goal striving, need satisfaction, and longitudinal well-being: the self-concordance model
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Optimal experience in work and leisure
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Goal contagion: perceiving is for pursuing
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Superstars and Me: Predicting the Impact of Role Models on the Self