Isicelo safika ngoLwesibili. Uzisebenzele, uyazi kahle ukuthi kwakubiza kanjani, futhi usuku noma ezimbili imilayezo iyangena futhi kuzwakala kumnandi njengoba ubulindele.
NgoLwesine ukuhalaliswa sekuncipha bese uhlezi enqwabeni yomusa ungazi kahle ukuthi wenzelweni. Leyo nqwaba inesikhathi sokuphelelwa, into cishe engekho okutshela yona. Cishe amasonto amabili emva kokuthola into ethile, igama lakho lithwala isisindo esikhulu egumbini kunalokho elizosithwala futhi unyaka wonke. Abantu badlulisa ama-imeyili akho ngokushesha. Incomo evela kuwe iyafundwa esikhundleni sokugcinwa. Isethulo esivela kuwe siyaphendulwa.
Lelo thuba yilona sonto elishibhile kunawo wonke emsebenzini wakho lokushintsha unyaka womunye umuntu, futhi ukulisebenzisa akukubizi lutho ozokuzwa. Hhayi ngoba ukupha kuhle, nakuba kunjalo, kodwa ngoba umusho ovela kuwe unenani elikhulu okwesikhashana kunomzamo wokuwusho.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze ngempela ngesonto emva kokuthola isikhundla?
Chitha ukunakwa kumuntu othile ngaphambi kokuba kuncibilike. Yenza isethulo esisodwa, usho igama lomuntu oyedwa ngokuqondile kulabo abanquma unyaka wakhe, bese ubhala phansi ukuthi lokhu kuwina kwadinga ini ngempela ngenkathi usakhumbula.
Izinyathelo ezintathu, ngalowo mhlangano, futhi asikho esithatha ihora. Iseluleko esivamile saleli sonto ukuthi uphumule, ugubhe bese ubeka umgomo olandelayo. Phumula futhi ugubhe, ngempela. Umgomo olandelayo uyinkinga yesonto lesithathu, futhi ukuwukhetha manje usasakazeka yindlela abantu abagcina ngayo beminyaka emibili entweni abayikhetha besemoyeni othile.
Isinyathelo sesithathu ngesakho hhayi esomunye umuntu, futhi yiso abantu abasieqayo. Bhala phansi uchungechunge lwangempela: owakwenzayo, owakusizayo, okwacishe kwaphambana, nokuthi yini obungayenza futhi. Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha uzokhumbula umphumela ungakhumbuli cishe lutho ngendlela, kanti indlela yiyona ngxenye ongayinika omunye umuntu.
Yimuphi umehluko phakathi komeluleki nommeli?
Umeluleki ukhuluma nawe. Ummeli usho igama lakho egumbini ongekho kulo. Ukweluleka kuyiseluleko, esinikezwa wena, ngokuvamile ngasese; ubummeli ukukumela, kuchithwa ngenxa yakho, obala, ngumuntu ombono wakhe unesisindo.
Abantu abaningi bachitha umsebenzi wonke becela okushibhile bengazi ukuthi okunye kukhona. I-Catalyst iqonde ngqo ngomphumela: ukweluleka kubalulekile ekukhuleni, kodwa kukukodwa akwanele ukuthuthukisa abesifazane, futhi ubummeli yibo obuvala lelo gebe. U-Herminia Ibarra, u-Nancy Carter no-Christine Silva babika iphethini efanayo ku-Harvard Business Review, bethola ukuthi abesifazane babelulekwa kakhulu kunabesilisa kodwa bethuthukiswa kancane, nokuthi isithako esasishoda kwakungesona iseluleko kodwa umuntu onesithunzi obamela egumbini lapho isinqumo besenziwa khona.
Ukumela umuntu kunezingxenye ezine futhi ungakwenza ngomusho owodwa. Igama. Igumbi, okusho abantu abangenza okuthile ngempela. Isimangalo esiqondile, hhayi ukubonga okuvamile. Nesicelo: mfake ohlwini olufishane, mnike umhlangano weklayenti, kufunde lokhu ngaphambi kukaLwesihlanu. "U-Priya kufanele abe segumbini lokubuyekezwa kwamanani, nguye owakha kabusha imodeli" kuyisenzo esiphelele sobummeli futhi kuthatha amasekhondi ayishumi nanye.
Ngincoma kanjani umuntu ngingafaki igama lami engozini?
Ncoma into eqondile oyibone ngempela, bese usho ngokusobala ukuthi yini ongayibonanga. "Wakha kabusha uhlelo lwethu lokukhokhisa ngamasonto ayisithupha futhi alukaze luphuke kusukela lapho. Angikaze ngimbone ephethe abantu" kuyincomo abantu abayikholwayo, ngoba nje imikhawulo ingaphakathi kuyo.
Izindlela ezimbili zokwehluleka ukukhulunywa ngokungabaza nokweqisa. Incomo enokungabaza ayinasizo kunoma ubani: ayikubizi lutho, ayenzi lutho kubo, futhi igumbi liyakuzwa ukungabaza. Incomo engenamngcele ikwenza isithunjwa somsebenzi ongakwazi ukuwulawula, futhi umphumela owodwa omubi ukufundisa ukuthi ungaphinde ukwenze, okuyiyo intengo yangempela yesikhathi eside.
Inguqulo enemingcele ilungisa kokubili. Usho iqiniso olibonile, endaweni ongakhuluma ngayo, imiphetho imakiwe. Uma kuhamba kahle wawuqinisile. Uma kungahambanga kahle, wawunembile ngalokho owawukwazi. Lelo yigama ongalisebenzisa iminyaka engamashumi amabili.
Enye into yenhlonipho evikela wonke umuntu: isethulo sinezimvume ezimbili. Buza bobabili ngaphambi kokubaxhuma, umugqa owodwa kumuntu ngamunye, futhi wamukele u-cha kunoma yimuphi ungasho lutho. Umusa yisethulo, hhayi ukubambana ngephutha.
Ngithini uma ngincoma umuntu obala?
Balula abakwenzile, ngomusho owodwa, phambi komuntu ombono wakhe ngabo ubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuncoma okungacacile kungumsindo; iqiniso eliqondile elishiwo phambi komenzi wezinqumo kuyisenzakalo somsebenzi wakhe futhi kubiza wena umusho owodwa.
Isimo silula. Kwenzekani, benzeni ngokuqondile, kwakubiza kanjani. "Ekubuyekezweni kwangoLwesibili, u-Daniel wabamba iphutha lamanani elalizosilahlekisela ikota. Bengingeke ngilithole mina." Akukho izichasiso ngesimilo sabo, akukho "usebenze kahle", akukho "uyisisebenzi seqembu esihle kangaka". Izichasiso zimayelana nombono wakho ngabo. Amaqiniso amayelana nabo.
Kunesizathu sokukholelwa ukuthi lokhu kwenza okungaphezu kokuzwakala kumnandi. U-Adam Grant no-Francesca Gino benza ukuhlolwa okune ngokubonga bathola ukuthi ukubonga okufushane kwenza abantu bakulungele kakhulu ukusiza futhi, nokuthi indlela lokho okwakwenzeka ngayo kwakuwumuzwa wokwaziswa ngabanye kunomuzwa wokukwazi kangcono. Lokho kuhlolwa akuqhathanisanga ukuncoma obala nokuncoma ngasese, ngakho thatha isinyathelo esilandelayo njengokucabanga hhayi njengomtholampilo: uma into esebenzayo kuwukwaziswa ngabanye abantu, khona-ke ukukusho phambi kwabantu abambono wabo ngabo ubalulekile kuyinguqulo efika kude kakhulu, futhi yiyona efika egumbini lapho ithuba labo elilandelayo linqunywa khona.
Umsunguli we-KEEP CALM ubeka ukubuyisela eceleni komsebenzi onzima nokuzithiba kunokuba kube ngemva kwakho, okuyingxenye engavamile. Ekulandiseni kwakhe wayehlala efuna amathuba okuqeqesha, ukufundisa, ukweluleka, ukuphakamisa, ukuncoma nokumela abantu abasemkhakheni wakhe, indlela yonke eya phezulu hhayi lapho esefikile, futhi uthi amandla amahle nokusekelwa okwabuya kwakuphindwe izikhathi eziyishumi kunalokho akufakayo. Leyo yincazelo yakhe yeminyaka yakhe engamashumi amabili, akulona izinga lenzuzo okufanele ulilindele noma uhlelele lona.
Kungani ngizizwa ngingenamdlandla emva kokuthola into ebengiyifuna?
Ngoba umgomo wawenza umsebenzi wangempela esontweni lakho futhi akukho okusawuthathele indawo. Lokho kungabi namdlandla kuyimbobo esimo somgomo ekhalendeni kunobufakazi bokuthi wawufuna into engalungile, futhi kugcwala ngokushesha lapho into elandelayo oyenzayo ikhomba umuntu esikhundleni senombolo entsha.
Yilelo icala elisebenzayo lokuchitha leli sonto ngaphandle. Ukunakwa okungenayo indawo yokuya kuphendukela ngaphakathi bese kuqala ukuhlola, futhi ukuhlola okwenziwa esontweni lokuqala elingenamdlandla emva kokuwina kufinyelela iziphetho ongenakuzethemba. Ukumela umuntu kususa ukugxila kwakho ngaphandle kohlelo lwakho lwezinzwa ngesikhathi kanye lapho ukuzigxilela kubiza kakhulu, futhi kukhiqiza impendulo ngezinsuku ezimbalwa.
Bese ukhetha into elandelayo kancane. Amasonto amabili okuchitha ukuwina, bese ukhetha. Umgomo okhethwe ekuthuleni yiwo umgomo osawufuna enyangeni yesishiyagalolunye.
Ukumela umuntu ongeke aze akwazi ukuthi ukwenzile
Kunezinye izenzo ezimbili kulolu hlu futhi yizo ezenza okunye kukholeke. Fundisa lokho okwaziyo, obala uma ungakwazi, ngoba ukuchaza into ngokuzwakalayo kuyindlela esheshayo yokuyibamba ngempela, futhi izingxenye ongakwazi ukuzichaza yizingxenye obuzenzisa kuzo. Nikela ngekhono okhokhelwa ngalo kunokunikela ngamahora akho kuphela. Ihora elilodwa lento onguchwepheshe kuyo lilingana nosuku lonke losizo olujwayelekile.
Bese kuza esokugcina, okuyisinyathelo esivalayo: mela umuntu ongacelanga, ongeke aze akwazi ukuthi ukwenzile, nongeke akwazi ukukubuyisela. Yiyona kuphela inguqulo engenayo inzuzo engabuya, okuyisona sizathu esenza ifanele ukubalulwa. Uma ungayenza leyo, ezinye ezinhlanu zazingekho izivumelwano zokuhwebelana nazo.
Ngakho hamba uyothatha into elandelayo, futhi uyihlasele ngamandla. Chitha nje lokhu kuqala, kuleli sonto, ngenkathi igama lakho okwesikhashana linenani elikhulu kunanini ngaphambili.