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- E hoʻouna i mele a meme paha i hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou.
- E kelepona i hoa ʻoiai ʻoe e hele wāwae a pelu lole.
- E mālama i hoʻokahi leka a kelepona kū i kēlā me kēia pule.
Aia kekahi ʻano hewa kūikawā e hōʻea mai ana ma kahi o ka hola ʻumikūmākahi o ka pō. Ke ʻeheu nei ʻoe, hapalua hiamoe, a lana mai kekahi inoa. He hoa āu i manaʻo ai e kelepona hou. ʻEkolu pule i hala. ʻElua mahina paha. Noʻonoʻo ʻoe e leka, a laila noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ka lōʻihi o ka manawa i hala, a hoʻomaka ka āwā iho e ʻano like me kahi mea āu e pono ai e wehewehe. No laila, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana. Waiho ʻoe i ke kelepona. A lōʻihi ke kahaha i hoʻokahi lā hou aʻe.
ʻO ia ke ʻano e nalowale ai ka hapa nui o nā pilialoha. ʻAʻole ma kahi hakakā. Ma ka hōʻiliʻili lohi o nā aneane.
Inā aia ʻoe ma kahi kau like i kēia manawa, he hana hou, he pēpē, he makua maʻi, he neʻe, he kau e hiki nele ai iā ʻoe ke hānai iā ʻoe iho, no ʻoe kēia. ʻAʻole ʻo ka pahuhopu ma ʻaneʻi ka lilo i hoa maikaʻi aʻe ma kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa, kiʻekiʻe. ʻOi aku ka liʻiliʻi. ʻO ia ka mālama ʻana i kekahi mau pili maikaʻi mai ka pio mālie ʻana ʻoiai ʻoe e hana ana e ola.
ʻO ke kumu e pahee mua ai nā pilialoha
E noʻonoʻo i ka mea nona ke kuleana ma luna o kou manawa. E leka kāu hana iā ʻoe. E loaʻa kāu mau keiki iā ʻoe. ʻO kou haku hale, kāu pahu leka, kou kino ke maʻi, hele mai kēia mau mea a pau me nā hōʻailona i kūkulu ʻia e kani inā ʻoe e mālama a ʻaʻole paha.
ʻAʻohe hōʻailona o ka pilialoha. ʻAʻohe mea e hāʻule i kahi papa no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i leka iā lākou. ʻAʻohe uku lohi. He hoʻomanawanui a kala ka pilialoha maikaʻi, ʻo ia pololei ka mea e maʻalahi ai ke waiho hope iā ia, i kēlā me kēia pule, a hiki i ka lilo mālie ʻana o ka "hope" i ka "ʻaʻole loa."
He ʻoiaʻiʻo ke kumukūʻai o ia, ʻoiai he ʻike ʻole ʻia i kēlā me kēia lā. Ua hahai ke Haʻawina o Harvard no ka Hoʻomohala Makua i ka hui kānaka like no ka ʻoi aku ma mua o kanawalu makahiki, a ʻo kāna ʻike maopopo loa, ʻaneʻane maʻalahi paʻakikī: ʻo nā kānaka e noho olakino a hauʻoli loa a hiki i ka wā ʻelemakule, ʻo lākou ka poʻe me nā pilina mehana. ʻAʻole ka poʻe waiwai loa. ʻAʻole ka poʻe hoʻokō nui loa. Ua ʻōlelo akāka nā luna o ia haʻawina: ʻo ka mehameha, me ka manawa, ʻo ia ka mea koʻikoʻi i ke kino e like me ka puhi paka. ʻAʻole kou mau pilialoha he waiwai āu e hoʻi ai. ʻOi aku ke kokoke i kahi hōʻailona ola.
He ala lokomaikaʻi aʻe e noʻonoʻo ai i ka "mālama pili"
Lawe ka hapa nui o nā kānaka i kahi kūlana hāmau a hoʻopaʻi no ka mea a kahi hoa maikaʻi e hana ai. Nā kelepona lōʻihi. Ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā hānau. Ka loaʻa mau. I ke ana ʻia me kēlā, ke hāʻule mau nei kou hiʻohiʻona-kau-hana-nui, no laila ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka pale ʻana i ka mea holoʻokoʻa ma mua o ke alo ʻana i ka papa helu.
E waiho i ka papa helu. ʻAʻole mālama ola ʻia kahi pilialoha e nā hana nui. Mālama ola ʻia ia e nā hōʻailona liʻiliʻi, hana māmā e ʻōlelo ana *aia mau ʻoe ma koʻu noʻonoʻo* i ka pinepine i ʻole e naha loa ke kaula. ʻOi aku ka haʻahaʻa o ke kūlana ma mua o kou manaʻo, a ʻaʻole ka poʻe e aloha ana iā ʻoe e helu ana iā ʻoe.
Eia ka ʻāpana e hōʻoluʻolu ai, me kekahi mau helu maoli ma hope. Ua aʻo kekahi mea noiʻi o ke Kulanui o Kansas, ʻo Jeffrey Hall, pehea e hoʻokumu ʻia ai nā pilialoha a ʻike ʻo ia pono ma kahi o ʻelua haneli hola o ka manawa pū e kūkulu ai i hoa kokoke i ka wā mua. Kani weliweli kēlā, a hiki i kou hoʻohuli ʻana. ʻO kahi pilialoha āu i hoʻolilo ai i nā haneli hola e kūkulu ai, he aʻa hohonu kona. Hiki ke ola i kahi kau maloʻo. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻomaka ana mai ka ʻole me kahi hoa kahiko. Ke mālama nei ʻoe i kekahi mea ikaika mua, a he ʻuʻuku loa kēlā ma mua o ke kūkulu ʻana.
Nā hana liʻiliʻi e mālama maoli i kahi pilialoha
Ua kūkulu ʻia kēia no nā kānaka ʻaʻohe manawa kaʻawale. ʻAʻole kekahi o lākou e koi i kahi ahiahi kaʻawale.
- E hoʻouna i ka hōʻailona hana māmā. He meme, he mele, he kiʻi o kekahi mea i hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iā lākou, he memo leo ʻelua laina mai ke kaʻa. Lawe ia i ka ʻike liʻiliʻi loa a me ka manaʻo nui loa: ua noʻonoʻo wau iā ʻoe. ʻO ia ka hana holoʻokoʻa. ʻAʻohe ou ʻaiʻē o kahi paukū.
- E kapa i ka āwā ma kahi o ka hūnā ʻana mai ia. ʻO ka mea e mālama hāmau ai iā ʻoe, ʻo ia pinepine ke ʻano ʻē o ka lōʻihi o ka manawa i hala. No laila, e ʻōlelo akāka. ʻO ka "Ua kanu ʻia wau i ka hana a haliʻa wau iā ʻoe" e wehe i ka mea holoʻokoʻa ma hoʻokahi ʻōlelo. ʻAʻole makemake nā hoa maoli i kahi mihi. Makemake lākou e lohe mai iā ʻoe.
- E hoʻopūʻolo i ka pilialoha ma luna o kekahi mea āu e hana nei. E hele i ka hele wāwae āu e pono ai, akā ma ke kelepona me kahi hoa. E pelu i ka lole ʻoiai ʻolua e kamaʻilio. E kono i kekahi i ka hale kūʻai meaʻai. ʻAʻole pono ka pili i kona wahi kaʻawale ponoʻī o ka lā. Hiki iā ia ke holo pū.
- E hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke kūlana no ka mea i helu ʻia he ʻike iā lākou. Helu ʻia kahi kofe ʻumikūmālima minuke. Helu ʻia kahi hana ʻoihana like. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻokipa i kahi ʻaina ahiahi. Kuhikuhi ka NHS, ma kāna aʻo lehulehu no ka mehameha, i kēia mau hana liʻiliʻi, he memo wikiwiki, he hele wāwae, he kīʻaha kī, ʻo ia nā mea e huki maoli i nā kānaka i kekahi i kekahi.
- E hana i hoʻokahi mea i ʻakomi. E koho i hoʻokahi pana mau, he leka Pōʻakahi, he kelepona mahina me hoʻokahi kanaka, he hele wāwae kū, a e mālama iā ia e like me kāu mālama ʻana i kahi hālāwai kauka. Mālama kahi pana hilinaʻi i kahi pilialoha ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ʻumi manaʻo naʻau ʻaʻole loa e hana ʻia.
Ke lilo ʻoe i ka mea i waiho ʻia i hope
I kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole ʻo ʻoe ka mea hana nui. ʻO ʻoe ka mea e nānā ana i kahi kaula i anu, e nīnau ana inā ua hana hewa ʻoe i kekahi mea.
Maʻamau ʻaʻole. ʻO ka hapa nui o ka hāmau e pili ana i ka mākaukau o ke kanaka ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole i ko lākou manaʻo iā ʻoe. Huki nā kānaka ma nā kau paʻakikī mai nā mea a pau, a laila hilahila loa i ka mamao i ʻole e hoʻi i kēia ʻaoʻao. Inā ua hāmau kahi hoa, hiki i kahi memo pōkole, kaomi ʻole, ke lilo i makana maoli: "ʻAʻole pono e pane, ke noʻonoʻo wale nei wau iā ʻoe a manaʻolana ua maikaʻi ʻoe." Ke hāʻawi nei ʻoe iā lākou i kahi puka maʻalahi e hele ai, me ka ʻaiʻē ʻole i piliʻia.
A he kūpono ke mālama iā ʻoe iho. Inā ʻo ʻoe mau ka mea e hōʻea ana, a ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻi mai no kahi manawa lōʻihi, ua ʻae ʻia ʻoe e manaʻo i ke kumukūʻai o kēlā a e hoʻolilo i kou ikehu palena ma kahi e launa ʻia ai. He lokomaikaʻi ka mālama ʻana i kahi pilialoha. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kahi alanui ʻaoʻao hoʻokahi a hoʻopau ʻoe i kou ikaika, he mea ʻē aʻe ia.
Ke ʻoi aku ke kaumaha ma mua o kahi kau hana nui
Aia kekahi ʻokoʻa ma waena o *ke kanu ʻia nei wau a hemahema i ka leka* a me *hiki ʻole iaʻu ke hoʻoikaika iaʻu iho e hōʻea i kekahi, a ua pēlā wau no kekahi manawa.*
Inā ua hoʻomaka ka pili ʻana me nā kānaka e ʻano hiki ʻole, inā ua huki ʻoe mai nā mea a pau, inā ua hina ka mehameha i kekahi mea e noho ana ma kou umauma i ka hapa nui o nā lā, kūpono kēlā ke mālama ʻia ma ke ʻano he mea ʻoi aku ma mua o kahi pilikia papa manawa. Hiki i ka noho kaʻawale mau a me kahi manaʻo haʻahaʻa kaumaha a mau ke lilo i hōʻailona o ka manaʻo kaumaha, a ʻaʻole ia he mea āu e hoʻoponopono hoʻokahi ai ma ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā meme hou aʻe. Hiki i kahi kauka a i ʻole kahi kahuna lapaʻau noʻonoʻo ke kōkua, a ʻo ka ʻimi ʻana i kēlā ʻano kākoʻo kekahi o nā mea hanohano loa hiki i ke kanaka ke hana nona iho. Inā e ʻano palekana ʻole a hiki ʻole ke hoʻomanawanui nā mea i kekahi manawa, e ʻoluʻolu, mai kali, e kamaʻilio me kekahi i kēia lā.
No nā mea ʻē aʻe a pau, ma ka pīkoi maʻamau o kahi mahina paʻakikī, e mālama i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo liʻiliʻi ma lalo o kēia a pau. ʻO ka hoa āu e manaʻo mau ana e leka, ʻaneʻane ʻaʻole ʻo ia e mālama helu. Ke manaʻolana wale nei lākou e lohe mai iā ʻoe. ʻOi aku ka nui o ka āwā mai loko mai o kou poʻo ponoʻī ma mua o ko lākou. ʻO hoʻokahi memo pōkole i kēia pō ka mea maʻamau e ʻike ai i kēlā.
Nā kumu
- Harvard Gazette, Over nearly 80 years, Harvard study has been showing how to live a healthy and happy life
- University of Kansas, Study reveals number of hours it takes to make a friend
- NHS, Loneliness - Every Mind Matters