Ua paʻa ka ʻaelike i ka hola ʻehā o ke ahiahi a hauʻoli nui ka lumi. Ua kauoha kekahi i ka waina ʻāhuʻi, ua haʻiʻōlelo kekahi me kona inoa i loko, a kū ihola ʻo ia ma ka ʻaoʻao me ka manaʻo maikaʻi wale nō. ʻAʻole maʻeʻele. ʻAʻole hōʻeha naʻau. Maikaʻi wale nō. Ma hope o kēlā maikaʻi, e noʻonoʻo iki ana ʻo ia i ka mea aʻe, ka mea nui aʻe, ka mana o kēia me kekahi ʻole hou ma ka hopena.
A laila, hiki mai kekahi hopohopo liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole anei e ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manaʻo?
Inā ʻimi ʻoe i kēlā nīnau, loaʻa mai ʻelua pane, a ua hewa nō lāua ʻelua no ʻoe. Wahi a ka mea mua, hōʻike ka manaʻo pālahalaha ua hakahaka ka pahuhopu a pono ʻoe e ʻiini emi iho. Wahi a ka lua, pono koke ʻoe i pahuhopu nui aʻe, a ʻo ia nō ka hopohopo like i kāhiko ʻia i ka lole maikaʻi aʻe. Aia kekahi heluhelu ʻekolu, a no ka mea i lanakila mau no kekahi manawa lōʻihi, ʻo ia mau nō ka mea pololei. ʻO ke kūpaʻa ke ʻano o ka hōʻea ʻana i ka wā ua maʻa ʻoe i ka hōʻea.
No ke aha wau e maʻeʻele ai ma hope o ka hoʻokō ʻana i kahi pahuhopu nui?
No ka mea, holo ka mānaʻolana a me ka hōʻea ma nā ʻōnaehana ʻokoʻa, a hoʻololi koke kou ʻōnaehana. Aia ka hapa nui o ka ikehu i loko o ka hahai ʻana, a ʻo ka hoʻololi e hoʻopālahalaha ai i ka hopena, ʻo ia nō ka mīkini i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻokiʻekiʻe mau i ka pahuhopu ma mua.
He mea kahiko kēia a ua kākau maikaʻi ʻia. Ua ʻike ka noiʻi a Brickman, Coates a me Janoff-Bulman i nā mea lanakila pīkoi ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ka poʻe lanakila ma mua o ka poʻe hoʻohālikelike, a he mea kāhāhā, ua emi iho ko lākou leʻaleʻa i nā mea maʻamau ma hope. Ua hoʻoponopono ʻo Diener, Lucas a me Scollon i kēlā kiʻi ma kahi ʻaoʻao ʻoi aku ka pono: he mea maoli ka hoʻololi akā ʻaʻole ia he mea holoʻokoʻa, ʻaʻole kaulike nā kikowaena, a hiki iā lākou ke neʻe ma lalo o kekahi mau kūlana. I ka unuhi ʻia ʻana i kou ahiahi Pōʻahā, ʻo ke ʻano o kēlā, ʻo ka pālahalaha he hiʻohiʻona ia o kahi ʻōnaehana i hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ʻia, ʻaʻole he hōʻike ua hoʻopunipuni ka lanakila.
He mea pono ke kapa pololei i ka maikaʻi, no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea e kapa nei. ʻO ka hoʻololi ke kumu i lilo ai ka makahiki paʻakikī āu i ola ai i kūlana hana maʻamau ou i kēia lā. ʻO ka mīkini like i hoʻomaʻamau ai i kēia lanakila, ʻo ia nō ka mea i lilo ai ka pahuhopu hiki ʻole o ka makahiki i hala i kahua maʻamau o kēia makahiki. ʻAʻole ʻoe i nalowale i ka hiki ke ʻike i nā mea. Ua hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻoe i ka papahele.
He hōʻailona anei ka manaʻo pālahalaha ua koho hewa au i ka pahuhopu?
ʻAʻole pinepine, a aia kahi ala maʻemaʻe e ʻike ai. Ke ʻano o kahi pahuhopu hewa, he oluolu no ka pau ʻana. Ke ʻano o kahi pahuhopu pololei āu i maʻa ai, he kūpaʻa me ka mea aʻe e hoʻomaka mālie ana ma hope.
ʻO ka hewa o ka hapa nui o nā moʻolelo no kēia, ʻo ia ka manaʻo he uku nā ahi lele. ʻAʻole loa. ʻO ka uku, ʻo ia ka mea i kūʻai maoli ʻia e ka lanakila, a he papa inoa ia hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu, ʻaʻole he manaʻo āu e unuhi ai. E lawe i ʻumi minuke a kākau i waho. He aha nā koho i loaʻa iā ʻoe i kēia manawa ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā ʻoe i Ianuali. ʻO ka kelepona a wai lā e pane hou ʻia i kēia manawa. He aha kāu e hiki ai ke hōʻole i kēia manawa ʻaʻole i hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻole ma mua. ʻO kēlā papa inoa ka palapala hōʻoia, a ʻoi aku kona nani ma mua o ke ʻano o ke ahiahi.
Aia hou kekahi kumu i kūpaʻa ai nā lanakila nui, a he mea kino ia. ʻO ka poʻe hiki ke halihali maikaʻi i ke kaomi, ua kūkulu lākou i kēlā mana ma kahi, a no ka nui o ka poʻe hana nui, ua kūkulu ʻia ma lalo o ka lāʻau kaupaona a ma ke ala a puni ke kaiāulu, ʻaʻole ma loko o ka puke kākau. Ua ʻike ka noiʻi a The Lancet Psychiatry ma luna o hoʻokahi miliona kānaka mākua ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, ua hōʻike ka poʻe hoʻoikaika kino i nā lā emi o ke olakino noʻonoʻo ʻino ma mua o ka poʻe hoʻoikaika ʻole, a ʻoi loa ka pilina ma kahi o ʻekolu a ʻelima hana i ka pule. ʻO ke kino ka mea hana e holo ai nā makahiki he ʻumi e hiki mai ana, a ʻo ia ke kumu e kūpono ai ka hoʻoikaika kino i ke kamaʻilio no ka ʻiini, ʻaʻole no ke olakino wale nō.
Pehea au e ʻike ai i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ke kūpaʻa a me ka māluhiluhi?
E hana i hoʻokahi hoʻāʻo i kēia mahina: e hāʻawi aku e alakaʻi i kekahi kanaka ʻē ma kona lā nui. Inā hoʻoikaika ka manaʻo iā ʻoe, ua hōʻea ʻoe. Inā hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hoʻomanawanui i ka manaʻo, ua luhi ʻoe, a he pilikia ʻokoʻa ka luhi me ka hoʻoponopono ʻokoʻa.
ʻO kēia ka hōʻike maʻemaʻe loa o kēia ʻatikala, no ka mea ʻaʻole ia e koi iā ʻoe e unuhi i kou manaʻo ponoʻī, ʻo ia ka mea i paʻakikī iā ʻoe i kēia manawa. E koho i kekahi me kahi hōʻike, kahi ninaninau, kahi hoʻokūkū mua, kahi kamaʻilio paʻakikī i hoʻonohonoho ʻia. E hāʻawi aku e alakaʻi i kā lākou hoʻomaʻamaʻa, e pane i kā lākou kelepona i ka pō ma mua, a i ʻole e noho pū i loko o ka lumi. A laila, e nānā i ka mea e hana ʻia ana i loko o kou umauma i ko lākou ʻae ʻana.
Hana ia he hōʻike no ka mea, ʻo ke kōkua ʻana i kekahi e hoʻomākaukau, hoʻokau ia i kou manaʻo ma waho o kou ʻōnaehana aʻalolo ponoʻī i ka manawa pono ʻole loa e nānā iā ʻoe iho. ʻO ia pū ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa maʻalahi loa no kou lā nui aʻe. E lohe ana ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e haʻi aku ana iā lākou i ka mea āu i pono ai e lohe, a ʻo ia pinepine ka mea āu i haʻalele ai.
Inā hoʻi mai ka pane he hiki ʻole ke hoʻomanawanui, e mālama iā ia he ʻike, ʻaʻole he hemahema. He mea maʻamau ka luhi ma hope o ka hoʻoikaika lōʻihi a pane ia i nā mea maʻamau: ka hiamoe, kahi pule ʻaʻohe mea i hoʻonohonoho ʻia i ka hola ʻehiku o ke kakahiaka, a me ka neʻe ʻana ʻaʻole ia he hōʻike.
Aia kekahi kumu ʻelua e hana ai i ka hōʻike ʻoiai ua ʻike mua ʻoe i ka pane. ʻO ke alakaʻi ʻana i kekahi ma kona lā nui, ʻo ia ka hoʻohana hoʻokahi o kahi lanakila ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke lawe hou aku mai ou aku ma hope. Kūkākūkā hou ʻia nā ʻaelike, hoʻonohonoho hou ʻia nā kūlana, a hoʻomanaʻo ke kanaka āu i hoʻokūpaʻa ai i ka hola ʻehiku o ke kakahiaka ma mua o kāna hōʻike nui mua i loko o nā makahiki he ʻumi. ʻAʻole kēlā he aʻo no ka hāʻawi ʻana. He nānā ia i nā ʻāpana o kahi makahiki maikaʻi e mau ana.
Pehea au e koho ai i ka huli aʻe me ka ikehu wikiwiki ʻole?
E kali i ʻelua pule, a laila e koho ma ke kākau ma kekahi kakahiaka maʻamau. ʻO ka pahuhopu i koho ʻia i loko o nā hola he kanahākumamāwalu ma hope o ka lanakila, na ka lanakila ia i koho, a ʻo ka pahuhopu i koho ʻia ma kahi Pōʻalua maʻamau, nāu ia i koho.
I kou noho ʻana i lalo, e pane i ʻekolu nīnau ma kēia kaʻina. He aha ka mea i kūʻai maoli ʻia e ka lanakila hope, mai ka palapala hōʻoia āu i kākau mua ai. He aha kāu e hana ai me ia inā ʻaʻohe mea e paʻipaʻi lima. A ʻo wai hou aʻe i loko o ka mea aʻe, ma ka inoa.
ʻAʻole he mea hoʻonani kēlā nīnau hope. ʻO kahi pahuhopu me kekahi kanaka ʻē i loko, ola ia i ka mahina i make ai kou makemake, a ʻo ia ke kumu he pane kūpono ke aʻo ʻana i kekahi ma kona makahiki i ka nīnau he aha ka mea aʻe, ʻaʻole ia he makana hoʻoluʻolu. Ua ʻae ʻia ka nui aʻe ma ʻaneʻi, a he pololei pinepine ka nui aʻe. ʻO ke kānāwai hoʻokahi, e koho ʻia ka nui aʻe mai kahi kūpaʻa, ʻaʻole mai ka makaʻu ʻaʻole i helu ʻia ka lanakila hope.
Maʻalahi ke koho i nā huli a maʻalahi ka poina ma ka Pōʻahā, no laila e kākau i ka huli ma kahi kino a e kau i ka lā ma luna.
ʻO ke kūpaʻa ka mea hana, ʻaʻole ia he hoʻoluʻolu
Haʻi ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu iā KEEP CALM, ʻo Kaʻohele Carlos, i kāna moʻolelo ponoʻī ma kahi kaʻina kikoʻī, a ʻo ke kaʻina ke kumu. Ua hoʻoikaika ʻo ia i kona ola holoʻokoʻa no kāna mea i makemake ai. Ua loaʻa iā ia nā ala e noho maluhia ai ma waena o ia mau mea, a ʻo ka hoʻoikaika kino kekahi o nā ala i halihali ai ʻo ia i ke kaomi o ke kūkulu ʻana i ka ʻoihana. Ua hōʻea ʻo ia i kāna wahi i hele ai, a hoʻomau ʻo ia ma hope. ʻAʻole ka maluhia ka mea āna i ʻae wale ai i ka pau ʻana o ka ʻiini. ʻO ia ka mea hana i hiki ai nā makahiki he iwakālua o ka ʻiini.
No laila, e lawe i ke ahiahi pālahalaha he hōʻailona maikaʻi. ʻO kona ʻano, ke hana maikaʻi nei ka ʻōnaehana nāna ʻoe i lawe mai i ʻaneʻi, ua maʻa ʻoe i kahi kūlana i hiki ʻole ma mua, a aia ʻoe ma kahi kūpono e koho akahele ai i ka pahuhopu aʻe ma mua o ka lālau wale ʻana. E hele nui aʻe inā pololei ka nui aʻe. E hana wale nō ʻoe me kou mau lima kūpaʻa, a ʻo ia wale nō ke ala e hana ai kekahi i kēia no kekahi ʻumi makahiki hou.
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