Ua loaʻa ʻo ia iā ia iho e kākau ana i ka leka hoʻolaha ma mua o kāna hana ʻana i kekahi hana. ʻAʻohe paukū o ka mea maoli i noho, a ua maikaʻi mua nā lālani mua ʻelua o ka moʻolelo. Ua noho ʻo ia me ia no hoʻokahi minuke, no ka mea he ʻike kōkua maoli ia no kahi hoʻolālā āna i hauʻoli ai no hoʻokahi mahina.
ʻAʻole ia he hemahema o ke ʻano kanaka. He mea maʻamau a maikaʻi hoʻi ka makemake e ʻike ka poʻe i kāu mea i kūkulu ai, a ʻo ke kanaka ʻaʻohe ona makemake iki i ka mahalo ʻia, kūkulu emi ʻo ia a hōʻike emi hoʻi. Akā inā e hoʻolilo ana ʻoe i ʻelima makahiki i kekahi mea, he mea kūpono ke ʻike i nā hapa o ka hoʻolālā he hana a me nā hapa he poʻe nānā. Aia kahi hana e hoʻokaʻawale ana i nā mea ʻelua i loko o ka ʻumi minuke paha, a holo ia ma nā kolamu ʻelua a me ka papa manawa o ka pule i hala, ʻaʻole ma ka huli ʻuhane nui.
Pehea wau e ʻike ai i kaʻu mea e waiwai maoli ai, ʻaʻole i kaʻu ʻōlelo e waiwai ai?
E nānā i kāu mea i hana mua ai i ka pule i hala, ʻaʻole i kāu mea e manaʻo nei e hana i kēlā makahiki aʻe. A laila e nīnau no kēlā me kēia mea, ʻo wai ka mea i ʻike, a e nānā i nā mea e ola ana ke ʻoiaʻiʻo ka pane ʻo ka mea ʻole.
He hoʻohālike ʻino nā manaʻo. Kākau ʻia lākou e ka mana ou i hoʻomaha, i wikiwiki ʻole, a e noʻonoʻo ana i kahi anaina malihini mahalo. He hoʻohālike maoli ka pule i hala, i lawe ʻia ma lalo o nā kūlana maoli, me ka māluhiluhi maoli i loko. No laila e wehe i ka papa manawa a e kākau i lalo, ma ke kolamu mua, i nā mea a pau āu i hana ai ʻaʻole i koi maoli ʻia e kekahi: ka mea āu i heluhelu ai, ka mea āu i hoʻoponopono ai ʻaʻole nāu, ka hola āu i hoʻolilo ai i ka pilikia o kekahi, ka papahana ʻaoʻao, ke kākau hou, ka leka.
E mālama iā ia i nā mea āu i koho ai. He papa inoa maikaʻi ka ʻumi a ʻumikumamālima mea. Mai hoʻoponopono iā ia i maikaʻi aʻe ke nānā ʻia, no ka mea ʻo ka mana hoʻohanohano ka mea pono kēia hana e wehe aku ai.
He aha ka mea e komo i ke kolamu ʻelua?
Nā inoa, ʻaʻole nā māhele. E kākau i nā kānaka maoli i ʻike ua hana ʻoe ia mea, a laila e hōʻailona i kēlā me kēia lālani me kēia: e hana nō anei ʻoe inā ua hakahaka ia papa inoa?
Ma ʻaneʻi e pau ai ka ʻoluʻolu o kēia hana a hoʻomaka ke kōkua. ʻAʻole he inoa ka "hui." ʻAʻole he inoa ka "LinkedIn." E kākau iā Marcus, i kou luna, i kou kaikuahine, i nā kānaka ʻehā i loko o ke kahawai. He ʻeono inoa ko kekahi mau lālani a ʻaʻohe inoa ko kekahi, a ʻo nā mea ʻaʻohe inoa, ʻo lākou ke kumu o ke koena o kēia ʻatikala.
Ua hōʻike ʻo Dan Ariely, ʻo Anat Bracha a me Stephan Meier i loko o ka American Economic Review ua ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hana maikaʻi a ka poʻe i ka wā i ʻike ʻia ai kā lākou hāʻawi ʻana e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ʻo ka uku ʻana i ka poʻe e hana maikaʻi, hoʻonui ia i ka mana pilikino ma mua loa o ka mana lehulehu. Ke noho kahi anaina, ke uku nei ke anaina. ʻAʻole kēlā he hōʻino no ke ʻano kanaka. He ana ia hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe ma kou ola ponoʻī i loko o ka ʻumi minuke, a haʻi ia iā ʻoe i kāu mau kūpaʻa e hali maoli nei i ke kaumaha.
Pehea inā make ʻaneʻane nā mea a pau ma ke kolamu ʻelua?
ʻO ia ka hopena maʻamau, ʻaʻole ia he hoʻopaʻi ma luna o kou ʻano. ʻAneʻane kākou a pau ke holo hapa nei ma ka ʻike ʻia, a ʻo ke kumu o kēia hana, ʻo ia ka ʻimi ʻana i ka mea hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha ʻaʻole pēlā.
Kūpono ka hapa nui o ka hana no ka ʻike ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ia nō ka hana: kūkulu ʻoe i kekahi mea, ʻike kekahi, uku lākou iā ʻoe a hoʻokiʻekiʻe paha a hoʻolimalima hou paha. ʻO ke kolamu ʻelua i piha i nā inoa, he hōʻailona ia ua loaʻa iā ʻoe ka hana a me nā pilina, ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona he hakahaka ʻoe. ʻO kāu e ʻimi nei, ʻo ia ke koena liʻiliʻi, nā lālani ʻelua a ʻekolu paha āu e hana ai i loko o kahi hale hakahaka, no ka mea ʻo ia mau lālani wale nō ka mea e holo mau ana i ka mahina e paʻakikī loa ai nā mea a pau ʻaʻohe mea e paʻipaʻi lima ana.
Inā ʻaʻohe koena maoli, mai hoʻoholo i kekahi mea weliweli. E holo hou iā ia ma kahi pule ʻokoʻa, a e hoʻohui i hoʻokahi mea i hana ʻia me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia i ka pule e hiki mai ana i ʻike ʻoe i ka mea e hiki mai.
Ke makemake au i anaina, he hoʻopunipuni anei au?
ʻAʻole. He mea hoʻoikaika maoli a kōkua hoʻi ka mahalo ʻia, a ʻoi aku ka hoihoi o ka noiʻi ma mua o ka mana hoʻopono o kēia nīnau.
Ua loiloi ʻo Edward Deci, ʻo Richard Koestner a me Richard Ryan i 128 hoʻokolohua i loko o ka Psychological Bulletin a ua ʻike lākou ʻo nā uku waiwai i hāʻawi ʻia no ka hana ʻana i kahi hana, hoʻēmi paʻa lākou i ka hoihoi kūloko o ka poʻe i ia hana, ʻoiai ua hoʻonui pinepine ka mahalo waha iā ia. ʻO ka haʻi ʻia ua maikaʻi kāu hana, he wahie ia. ʻO ka uku ʻia ma ka ʻāpana, hoʻohuli pinepine ia i ka mea āu i makemake ai e hana i mea āu e hana nei no ke kālā. ʻO ke kumumanaʻo hoʻoholo ponoʻī, ʻo ia ke kiʻina nui a Ryan lāua ʻo Deci i kūkulu ai a puni ia mau hopena, paʻa ia i kēia: ʻo ka hoʻoikaika paʻa ka mea e hiki mai ana me ke kūʻokoʻa a me ka mākaukau i pili.
ʻO ia ka manaʻo kūpono. Ua ʻae ʻia ʻoe e makemake i ke anaina. Makemake wale ʻoe i hoʻokahi mea i loko o kou ola hana ʻaʻole e uku ʻia ana e ka paʻipaʻi lima, no ka mea ʻo ia ka mea e holo mau ana ma o kahi hapaha i pau ai ka paʻipaʻi lima.
ʻO ka mea ola hea kaʻu e hana mua ai?
ʻO ka mea liʻiliʻi loa, i kēia pule, ma kahi nui hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau maoli. ʻO kahi mana ʻelua hola i hana ʻia i ke kakahiaka Pōʻaono, haʻi ia iā ʻoe i ka mea ʻoi aku ma mua o kahi mana ʻelima makahiki āu e wehewehe mau nei ma ka ʻaina ahiahi.
Aia kahi ʻano hāʻule ma ʻaneʻi e pono e kapa ʻia. Hoʻopau ka poʻe i kēia hana, loaʻa ka mea a lākou e hana ai me ka nānā ʻole ʻia, a hoʻonui koke lākou iā ia i hoʻolālā e koi ana i kahi hoʻomaha lōʻihi, i hoa hoʻokumu a i kūlanakauhale hou. ʻAʻole loa e hoʻomaka ka hoʻolālā, a waiho ʻia ka hana he mea hoihoi ma mua o he mea i hana ʻia. E hana i ke kūʻē. E lawe i ka mea i ola a e ʻoki iā ia a kūpono i loko o hoʻokahi hopena pule, a laila e holo iā ia i hoʻokahi manawa, me ka hoʻolaha ʻole. Inā he hoihoi mau ia i ka lua o ka Pōʻaono, he maoli ia, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā ia i wahi kūpono i loko o ka papa manawa.
A laila e holo hou i ka mea holoʻokoʻa i loko o ʻekolu mahina. ʻAʻole kēia he hōʻike hoʻokahi manawa, he mea ana ia, a no ka lawe hou ʻana i nā ana nā mea ana.
ʻO ka mea ʻaʻole loa e loaʻa i leka hoʻolaha
Aia hoʻokahi mea e hala koke ana i ke kolamu ʻelua, a he mea kūpono e hoʻāʻo ai ma mua o kou hoʻoholo ʻana e hilinaʻi i kēia mau mea. E kākoʻo i kekahi ʻaʻole i noi mai. E waiho i kona inoa i mua i loko o kahi lumi ʻaʻole ʻo ia i laila, no kahi mea ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike e hana ʻia ana, a laila mai haʻi i kekahi, ʻo ia pū kekahi.
ʻAʻohe mea e hōʻiliʻili. ʻAʻohe leka hoʻolaha, ʻaʻohe pane, ʻaʻohe mahalo, ʻaʻohe lālani ma kahi loiloi. I loko o ʻehā kekona paha o kou hoʻoholo ʻana e hana pēlā, e ʻike ʻoe inā e ola ana ka mea āu e ʻōlelo nei he waiwai iā ʻoe me ka ʻole o kahi anaina, a e ʻike ʻoe ma ka lilo o hoʻokahi ʻōlelo. ʻO ia ka hōʻike ʻoiaʻiʻo lilo liʻiliʻi loa ma kēia ʻaoʻao a ʻo ia wale nō ka mea he lokomaikaʻi pū no kekahi.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e lilo i kanaka mālie aʻe a liʻiliʻi aʻe e hala ai. ʻO ke kumu o ka ʻike ʻana i kāu mea e kūkulu ai me ka nānā ʻole ʻia, ʻaʻole ia no ka hoʻōki ʻana i ka makemake i ka mahalo. No ka hōʻoia ia e holo mau ana kekahi o nā ʻenekini ma lalo ou i nā lā ʻaʻohe mea e nānā mai ana, no ka mea ʻo ke kanaka me ʻelua ʻenekini, hiki iā ia ke koʻi ikaika aʻe a lōʻihi loa aʻe ma mua o ke kanaka me hoʻokahi.
Nā kumu
- American Economic Review, Doing Good or Doing Well? Image Motivation and Monetary Incentives in Behaving Prosocially
- Psychological Bulletin, A meta-analytic review of experiments examining the effects of extrinsic rewards on intrinsic motivation
- Self-Determination Theory, Self-Determination Theory and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being